How Does One Deal With A Menopausing Mother?

Hmmm...well, my mother was 39 when she had me and immediately went through menopause after she had me. I really don't know because I have never been around a woman who is going through the change of life. I am 42 and I am still not there yet. My youngest is 4 years old. Anyways, I think just try to avoid her and try to be quiet and a good daughter. That is what I would think would be the wisest thing to do. Have a great day and happy myLotting!!!

Sit down with her.....tell her what everyone else is seeing and suggest she gets to a doctor for something to help with her attitude which is probably due to her hormones....see if that helps!

I had the same problem with my mother many years ago. I lived at home, worked full time, joined a bowling league and kept away from home as much as possible. It saved my sanity. I found avoiding the situation make my daily life easier.

Well, all I can think of is advice that your mom probably wouldn't want to hear. Like seeing a counselor, getting on an anti-depressant (even if temporarily), and exercising more. All of these things are recommeneded for this time in a woman's life. Now my mother, when she went through menopause, was different. I kept expecting mood swings, or hot flashes...she had none of that. Is your mom on any replacement hormone therapy?

Hi there! I think you are just doing what is right, be quiet and avoid arguments and petty fights. You must understand that women in menopausal stage experiences psychological changes too. They are being irritable and moody most of the time. They can't sleep well at nights and so they feel fatigued during the day and that makes them even more irritable. They also feel depressed and experiences anxiety so they are becoming more emotional that even small things makes them angry. You are a woman too and you will experience what your mom is experiencing right now. Just be a good daughter, have more patience and understand her. It will pass as soon as she is over the menopausal stage. Ciao!

I am a menopausing mother! I know it can be a difficult time in a woman’s life. I find the hot flushes are the hardest to take! Have you talked to your mother about this? You could perhaps suggest she see someone and obtain some relief. She could try a naturopath or a doctor. A lot of patience is required either way. Good luck to you!

I'm quite shocked with the responses I see on this discussion. I expected more positive responses regarding the matter especially since it concerns a very important and special persons in our life. Menopausal is a normal stage that all women encounter. When our time comes, we'd be just as difficult if not worse than how we see our mothers right now (my mother's in that phase, too). My mother is more sensitive now that she's having her menopausal stage. She thinks that innocent comment are attacks against her and she responds in an unkind way, trying to protect herself (from a non existing attack). So you see how unnerving it is to deal with that, but you also see that I am able to understand her general reaction and the change that occurred from her "normal" personality. I believe that the best approach is to understand how she processes her information now. Is she more sensitive? Is she more mean? What ticks her off now that didn't before? If you understand her better, you'd know how to deal with her better. You current approach of avoiding arguments and keeping quiet is very commendable. My sister and I handle it in the same manner. However, aside from that, we've also been extra sweeter to our mother now that she's overly sensitive. In that way, she has less reason to feel irritable. Thanks for the response on my discussion :) BTW, I sent you a private message: a few questions on the Cagayan de Oro topic :D I hope to hear from you soon!

Perhaps it is a lot of stress that she has to deal with as in money etc there for who ever is there gets it in the neck.If she is going through the change it is hard for her to deal with as my mother was just the same.It can cause depression for her and even for the people around her.Tell her how you feel and if anyone else feels the same about the way she is treating people ask her to go and get help.My mother went to the dr and she was a lot better to live with.Happy Mylotting.