Do you want to have one baby only ?

@busky5 (3165)
Thailand
July 1, 2009 5:34am CST
Now,i have one son. I and my husband want to have only one son, because i think in the present everything is expensive, and i don't want very save money for cost of living. I want to find good school, good clothes, good environment for family, but now good thing not for free, i'm not millionair, so i think, it 's good to have one baby. Do you agree with me too?
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21 responses
@zearah (5351)
• Philippines
10 Jul 09
my friend with one baby - this would be happier photo if 2 or more babies
Big as more than 12 kids also better, happy and no dull moments. When one kid is sad the other could make comfort. Laughter is louder and the family is stronger. Hand in hand the family would survive. We believe every one child is birth there is allotted budget from God. Industry and motivation is all should be in each member of the family. Financial crisis is being experience even in a small family!Let's make a big happy family!
@zearah (5351)
• Philippines
10 Jul 09
mother - mother her pic
Here in our house we started in a small house as we grow older we started to help each other and make our house bigger. All of us 13 brothers and sisters, we are happy big family
@busky5 (3165)
• Thailand
11 Jul 09
your family is great to help together.thank you to share your idea.
• United States
2 Jul 09
I actually don't want any kids. For me I'm not going to be around to take care of the child and I believe that if you have a kid then one of the parents needs to constantly be around the child. I don't believe in day care or family members watching a child constantly throughout the day because both parents work at the same time. For me I think that if you want to make a commitment to have a child then you need to go into it full heartedly and be there for that baby. But having one kid is fine - the population is rising so fast to begin with so I commend you for keeping the population down. Now I do believe the max number of kids should be capped at 2 because its 2 lives brought into this world for 2 lives that would be lost. All our issues are surrounded because of the population increase.
@busky5 (3165)
• Thailand
2 Jul 09
You don't fear to stay alone when you are old. Thank you.
• United States
2 Jul 09
I don't think I'm going to be alone with my older. I hope to get married and find the person that I'm meant to be with and to me I feel like my dog is more like my child. I completely treat her like she is and so therefore I do have that companion. Also - my sister just recently had a girl so therefore I told my entire family, its not like I'm never going to be around kids. I'm going to be the aunt that you want to go to for a few weeks during the summer to get a break from etc. and thats cool. I just don't want a 24/7 commitment of a child. My career doesn't really allow for it without constant daycare etc.
@indahfth (11169)
• Indonesia
11 Jul 09
I shoot for have two children, men and women. I now have a son, a lot of remorse for my child, because I do not treat well. now I try to treat him well. therefore I did not want to have children again. my household, are not harmonious. you will be very lucky if adding a child again, because your family is happy. sure your children are also happy to have a younger brother.
@busky5 (3165)
• Thailand
11 Jul 09
Thankyou to suggest me. I think we should more time to join with my kid.HAVE A NICE DAY.
• United States
9 Jul 09
Sometimes it is good to have one child to spoil and get the child the best things he or she needs even schooling. But I have 3 kids and I am not rich but my kids were raised well and have a head start in their life. I save money for them even if they don't know it yet. But it is funds for them for later for them to get a head start to buy their own house or a nice car.
@busky5 (3165)
• Thailand
10 Jul 09
Everyone love their kids, same you too, not need to do with them same another.i think , you are right to do with your kids.Thank you to share your idea.Have a nice day.
@maximax8 (30109)
• United Kingdom
6 Jul 09
For years I just had my son. He was 12 years old by the time my next son came along. Then just two years later I had my daughter. So I have a 14 year old son, a 2 year old son and a baby daughter. I am short of space in my home but I can manage finance wise. I have been given many baby clothes and I already had lots of baby stuff from my toddler son. I think having a second child is cheaper than the first if baby things have been kept. I think the ideal is two children. Then they have company. One child might get lonely. In your situation it is fine you only want one child, your lovely son.
@busky5 (3165)
• Thailand
6 Jul 09
You think right, one son get him lonely.I and my spouse can be solve by to be friends with him, this solving make us very try, because we must to be friends with him forever.We think, we are try same who have more kids too.Have agood day.
• China
3 Jul 09
I have no idea about how many children i want to have. For the only son in my family, i'm envious of people who has brothers or sisters.But i can play the woman as more as posible.
@busky5 (3165)
• Thailand
3 Jul 09
hahaha
• China
2 Jul 09
I think two babies is better than one for one family. Because the child can communicate with each other if they meet some problems. If one child is very outstanding ,the other child must have determination to catch up with him.They can make progress together.
@busky5 (3165)
• Thailand
3 Jul 09
If older child isn' good, another will follow to do too.However one or two aren't important, we should more give to love and take care, may be better.
• Philippines
2 Jul 09
I want to have 3-4 babies to complete my family that is why I am aggressively saving and thinking where to invest some portion of my money. But I will accept whatever number of children God will give to me as long as they are normal (without any sickness or deformities) and will try my best to be the best father to them. like to have that many babies because I think it is fun to have a big family.
@busky5 (3165)
• Thailand
10 Jul 09
Someday you tried to have one baby first and you take care kid by yourself,then you come back to answer me again.Thank you.Have a nice day.
@cainam (493)
• Philippines
2 Jul 09
you should have atleast two children. every only child i know is frustrated to have siblings. your son would be more happy to have a little brother or sister. you can just plan to have another child after three to five years fromt the day you had your first child. the more the merrier but let's be practical to have atleast 2.
@busky5 (3165)
• Thailand
10 Jul 09
My son is different from another,he want a compuetr and psp to be friend.Thank you to join.Have a nice day.
@KawaiiInu (143)
• Uruguay
2 Jul 09
I think your son might be happier if he had a sister/brother, but I at the end you and your Husband need to decied this...maybe if you wait a few years, your economic situation will improve?
@busky5 (3165)
• Thailand
10 Jul 09
I have been ask my son, he don't want to have brother or sister, maybe he is jealous.Thank you.Have a nice day.
@piya84 (2590)
• India
2 Jul 09
yes i agree with you.I am not married yet but i will be in 1 or 2 years.I too wan too have 1 child only.Everywhere rates are rising,competitions are picking up and we need to give best to our child to sustain in todays rat race.yes i too want to have 1 kid only.Its a wise decision.
@busky5 (3165)
• Thailand
10 Jul 09
You are a new generation.I think it doesn't easy to treat one baby in this economy.Thank you.Have a nice day.
@vivianchen (2646)
• China
2 Jul 09
I do want to have 2 babies, because then they can play together and they won't feel lonely. I have a younger sisiter, when we were young, we fought all the times, and i was wondering, i would be 100 times happier if my family only have me. But now, things are different, i am so glad that when i am down, my sister will always be there for me. We are a family. That's makes me want to have 2 babies too.
@busky5 (3165)
• Thailand
10 Jul 09
i agree with you.2 kids will play together better.thank you.have a nice day.
• Philippines
2 Jul 09
for me i want two baby.. so that my two baby are happy.
@busky5 (3165)
• Thailand
10 Jul 09
I think 2 kids have near age better than differental age.Thank you.Have a nice day.
@daliaj (5681)
• India
2 Jul 09
I don't prefer to have only one kid. I think my husband prefers that because he says already the earth is loaded with a lot of human beings which is a lot more for earth to handle. Also, he says that there are lots of orphanas in the world who need to be taken care of. I feel it is a punishment for the child to have no sublings. I have a cousin who is the only son, he has a lot of pain.
@busky5 (3165)
• Thailand
2 Jul 09
I think i will try to unexpect my son, only expect to wish him to be a good moral person, not need to be a perfect man in the future.
@jayrene (2712)
• Philippines
2 Jul 09
yes i agree if you want to have the very best for your child and want to give hi all that he needs. there is nothing wrong with that. for me i wanted to have four kids, but i had only 3 now because i have thyroid problem. i wanted to still have a little one when i reach that age of 40s. i did family planning, having my kids a gap of 5 years and six years. they do go in a public school its not the best but its just okay, they are both in star sections. none of them will be in college at the same time, i had planned it. while the other will be in college the next is still in high school, so i think we will not be having a hard time with their education.
@busky5 (3165)
• Thailand
10 Jul 09
Expensive schools are not warrenty your kids life.For me,The good parents mean who can good take care and good teach to kids.Thank you to join.Have a nice day.
@Poison_Girl (4163)
• United States
2 Jul 09
Well, I agree on the fact that everything is getting expensive and all that. And the economy is so bad right now. I think having just one kid is a good idea. I've realized that I don't want any at all, though. I don't even like kids.
@busky5 (3165)
• Thailand
10 Jul 09
Somepeople like to be singer, it is not wrong.Thank you. Have a nice day.
• United States
2 Jul 09
i totally agree with u. but i feel like i don't want to spoil my child. i want her to have someone she can always depend on besides us. so i want my child to have one brother or sister. but if they don't happen. i guess i wouldn't mind only having one child
@busky5 (3165)
• Thailand
2 Jul 09
I'm not spoil my kid, and i think if parents can be friends with kids that no problem, if you aren't friends with your kid, he/she may want to a sister or a brother, but in my case my son doesn't want to have a sister or brother, he sticks his father and me.
• India
1 Jul 09
I do agree with you. basically you should give good upbringing and education to your single child let it be a son or daughter. You should ensure that he is given proper guidance in life. Here is few things you can try: 1) On your only child invest give him good learning and secure his future 2) Have your child study for 10-15 years and you save money for your second child in 15 years. Be a late mother. till the time you need to invest on the second one the first will be nearly settled.
@busky5 (3165)
• Thailand
10 Jul 09
Thank you to you suggest, few things i can try.Have a nice day.
@businesh (44)
• Philippines
1 Jul 09
I agree with you. this time we all think practically. we will think of our kids future. one child is enough for me i guess. to have many children that's is good too if we think we can give them all good future. but if not one child is enough for a couple.
@busky5 (3165)
• Thailand
10 Jul 09
You are lazy same me too or not.Yes now everything is expensive for life.Thank you. Have a nice day.
@jaiho2009 (38988)
• Philippines
1 Jul 09
i admire your thinking about your child's future,as a parent,it is a normal thing to prepare all the best for our kids,it's your choice if u choose to have one kid my friend...about me,i had 3 kids, 1 girl and 2 boys....kind of a mess when they played around and noisy when they fight (laughs ) but,now that they have grown up from being toodlers to pre-teeners...i miss it, i miss everything about my kids when they are still babies ...enjoy being a mom my friend.
@busky5 (3165)
• Thailand
10 Jul 09
Maybe i am jealous who have more children, because l like children sounds.You are lucky.Thank you. Have a nice day.