Inviting people you don't know to your wedding
By SomeCowgirl
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
United States
July 1, 2009 9:46am CST
Well this isn't actually a situation I am in because I know pretty much all that is invited to our wedding, or atleast when we send invitations out. In any case, I do have to wonder why there are some couples who invite people they don't even know to the wedding. The only thing I can think of is for a social standpoint, for the mother or father of either the wife to be (bride) or groom to be (husband). I really don't know why a wealthy businessman needs to invite some of his clients to a wedding just so he can chat them up or impress them. Or maybe that's just in the movies?
Has anyone had someone invite people they didn't know to their wedding for such an occasion as to chat them up? Or do you know anyone who had this happen at theirs?
Luckily it's not happening at ours, lol.
Well Just thought I'd throw this out there.
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8 responses
@jayrene (2708)
• Philippines
2 Jul 09
i've been to some weddings like that here and i see these people as show offs...
they do this grand celebration, invite a whole lot of people they dont really know that much, after the wedding they then owe a lot of money to other people, because what money they used some of the were borrowed. they just want to show off. they have invited some politicians, the other couple had invited big bosses form a company they work
i know weddings are very important, but i think those i mentioned above is over.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
2 Jul 09
I do not see why people invite others to a wedding that they don't even know. I'm a bit confused by what you mean with owing money. Do you mean wedding expenses or do you mean that these people pay others to come to the wedding? Weddings are supposed to be about friends and family and possible co workers that are close to the family, but I said CLOSE not business partners that are going to want to to talk business. It's silly. I appreciate the response.
@jayrene (2708)
• Philippines
2 Jul 09
owing money for the wedding expenses...
yes i agree with what you said "Weddings are supposed to be about friends and family and possible co workers that are close to the family"
here in my place it is very common that people will invite so many in their weddings, even if they are not that close to the person.
@rainmark (4302)
•
1 Jul 09
It's not only in the wedding this happening , actually in my case it happened in every occassion like baptism, bday party and wedding too.
During my wedding, my parents invited people that i hardly knew, people that stranger to me, and even i know thier names coz they are wealthy businessman in the province but we don't have a friendship.
One thing that i conclude is my parents wanted to brag or to impress them or it's a way to get acquainted to them. Well for me i don't really bothered and i don't care about those people. It kinda annoying to me lolz.
Cheers.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
1 Jul 09
I guess that that is it. I know that it seems to me that those with money like to have parties, etc. I have banquet served for wealthy people, or people in wealthy companies. I didn't like that job at all, lol, and quit it. It had very long hours. If you're ever at an event like that, just think of those who serve you, most likely they had to work long hours as well. But I can understand your annoyance, I would not want my special day, whether it be wedding, birthday or baptism to be full of people I don't know.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
1 Jul 09
Only having a few friend to attend for a child's birthday party and the rest be adults must have been not very fun for the child. I agree, I think that in cases such as that people should invite more children and less adults. To a child, It's like going to a family reunion in which few children are there, and all of the parents are talking! lol!
Oh so you're the one who has to deal with all of the customers and their complaints etc. Your the ones who hear about how a banquet server did this or that, then huh?
@ronacruz2007 (650)
• Philippines
2 Jul 09
huh! thats very new to me because i believe everybody thus invite only closefreinds , relatives, co workers to thier wedding and not just someone else. I mean i guess nobody thus that
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
2 Jul 09
I am not sure, but I think that those in substantial businesses do invite their clients, or co workers, those they want to impress. I don't think it's right, but I think that it does happen. I guess I thought it only happened in the movies, but some people have told me on here that it's happened to them, or that they've known someone it's happened to. Well I appreciate your response.
@larish (2191)
• Philippines
2 Jul 09
We had a few guest whom I don't personally know but my husband does. As you have said, it is his client and some are their suppliers. I honestly don't mind if they have to attend the wedding the important thing is that they were invited by my husband. It is also a chance for me to be introduced as his wife.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
2 Jul 09
I guess I am just against something like that. A wedding isn't supposed to be a business event or social call. I can understand if it's the last resort or if it's a co worker or if the client is a close friend. I guess all that matters is that you don't mind. Lol, I know everyone who's invited to our wedding, or know of everyone.
@mypriv8link (180)
• Philippines
2 Jul 09
I think that weddings are celebration for the union of 2 hearts therefore should only be celebrated by people whom the couple holds dearly in their hearts. Inviting people you don't know who don't actually know the couple in return makes no sense and takes away the intimacy of the celebration. Some couple I know invites politicians that they don't really know just to uplift the status of their wedding or to receive great gifts...but this is a mistake I must say. Weddings should only be attended by people who know the couple dearly or have made a difference in their relationship.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
2 Jul 09
I agree, weddings should be a personal thing to be celebrated by friends and family of the groom and bride, as well as the groom and bride themselves. Gifts and status should not be a thing to be worried about on the wedding day. I don't understand how people can invite those they don't consider to be close friends to a wedding.
@hiucheekeong (88)
• Malaysia
2 Jul 09
inviting people you don't know is an insult to yourself and them. it show that your are not respecting other's time.
although i'm chinese, but i hate chinese's wedding. some of them just invite a lot of people or even people that they met just once. what they care is to get the 'money' from this people through their 'ang pao' money. for them wedding invitation is something about profits. if you are not sincere, them don't invite at the first place.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
2 Jul 09
From the sound of your post, It makes me think that you have misunderstood me. I have not invited anyone that I don't know. In fact, I am against doing anything like that. The wedding celebration is supposed to be something that family and close friends enjoy with the wedding couple. I do not think it's right to have people invited to just get money from them. Although we do have a few people we have invited out of respect, we do know them. They may or may not send us gifts, but either way, we do know them.
I appreciate your response to me.
@dreamr802 (985)
• United States
2 Jul 09
Well I do know that when I get married there will probably be some people there that I don't know that well. Probably people that I've met a couple of times. My dad is the VP of a company so I can imagine we would invite the presidet of the comapny (who I've known for 8 years) and his family (whom I don't know)...etc and maybe a couple other people that my dad works with because of his standpoint with the company. And I know that I have cousins that I really don't know too well but I'll invite them, doesn't mean that they will come.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
2 Jul 09
Well see as long as they don't talk business, I mean, I guess I'm a bit confused. In one point I want to say no to business people, in another point I want to say it's okay if the whole family knows the business person. I'm just glad I don't have to worry about that, no one in my family knows anyone in business.
@hellcowboy (7374)
• United States
3 Aug 09
This is a really good discussion baby,because I know sending out invitations and inviting people is an important part of a wedding because it is not the same unless you have family and friends there watching you say your ideas and start the next stage of your life,and I am sure there are some people who have or are going to invite people they do not know to their wedding,even though that is usually for bigger more extravagant weddings,and then I am sure there are people who would not invite someone they do not know to their wedding,and I agree we pretty much know all the people we have invited to our wedding because they are either family members or they are friends,even though I have not met everyone you invited,and you have not met everyone I invited,and I agree a wedding is no reason to try and impress clients or chat them up,because a wedding is a special occasion that is centered around the bride and groom,and I am glad that that is not going to happen at our wedding,and our wedding is a simple wedding which is better if you ask me,and it is a DIY wedding so more people are going to remember it,I love you with all my heart and soul,have a great day,good luck with all of your mylotting goals,and Happy Posting.
