In this troubled times.. would you marry someone who is...

@laydee (12798)
Philippines
July 1, 2009 10:32am CST
Poor, have inadequate source of income, who you know couldn't really support you and your family, but loves you dearly and is committed on loving you? I know it's ironic but let's just say there's a man like that and you're sure he's never going to cheat, neither will he hurt you. The point is, he just doesn't have money and you know deep in your heart that he would never be rich. Let's just say that being rich isn't really part of his destiny, so to speak.
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@tjades (3591)
• Jamaica
2 Jul 09
What is worst than a poor man, is a poor man without ambition and who is also lazy. If the man is poor but has ambition and is a hard worker no problem at all. But if he has the other attributes I mentioned before he should be avoided by all women. Rich and poor. It makes no sense to the fire blazing and walk into it thinking you are powerful or equiped enough to put it out. (If you know what I mean )
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
Well, let's just say he's just someone who's got no luck on wealth. Would you still want that type of a person? I mean, he's ambitious and all, he has all the qualities, yet he just don't have luck on his side.
@tjades (3591)
• Jamaica
28 Jul 09
now thats something I woulddo a double take on. I have no intention to spend my adult life always having to worry about money. If the guy's luck is that bad Id certainly rreconsider big time.
@mssnow (9484)
• United States
2 Jul 09
I have been so poor all of my life that it really wouldn't matter. I know how to manage without money. I could love someone who loved me back and didn't cheat even if he was dirt poor.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
Well, sadly those who are dirt poor (and mostly not good looking) are the ones who can manage to cheat. I guess it's the feeling of 'nothing to lose' that's why they're willing to take chances on anyone who's willing to spread their legs.
• Philippines
1 Jul 09
I know that love is somewhat important to us but if a guy doesn't have a decent and earns money thats the minimum wage, thats totally disappointing and unacceptable. We are aware that men are the breadwinner for their families. If a guy loves you but can't get or doesn't have a job, his family will surely suffer in the future. I want to get married to a guy that is honest and responsible. I used to have a bf like that in the past, he's useless and I left him. I don't want to be a breadwinner of the family though I am a working woman. I will consider both partners should work and combine their incomes so that they can raise their family together.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
Oh, I thought you found someone who was honest and responsible, then you left him! hehehe.. my bad.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
1 Jul 09
My fiance and I are without a job. Do you know how we paid for most of our wedding preparations? With mylot money, and with the help of his parents. I don't think money has to do with it. Love is what matters. Before materialistism, before computers and before all these jobs, there were men hunting for the food on the table, making money that would barely by a big mac now, but would feed their whole family before. Love Conquers, money is nothing.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
It's inspiring to know that. But not to be rude though, that works in the old time when you're not living in the city, but I don't think that could be applicable if you're living in a highly industrialized city where food costs a lot and people would really go hungry if they don't have a job.
@abetole (221)
• India
2 Jul 09
Well....the answer is YES !!! As someone correctly said that money brings you everything. You cannot buy love with money; however it will bring you health as your financial worries are over. For someone who is suffering from financial worries in these days of recession, there are chances of getting stress and depression. SO in my view, it is highly recommended to marry someone who is rich...
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@rainmark (4302)
1 Jul 09
Well i married to a poor man. For me, money isn't everything. You can earn money if you work hard, just helping each other, save and need to live a simple life and be thankful of what you have. cheers.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
True enough.
• United States
3 Jul 09
I think you would be an idiot to pass up someone like that.
• Philippines
2 Jul 09
it is hard to maintain love just by love alone nowadays since money is so hard and it is also hard to earn a living. so i guess in marrying we should always or should consider also financial capabilities of your partner in you. if it is enough to keep you going . once inside a marriage and have kids that is that time that you will realize that you need money to sustain love
@nchap36 (556)
• United States
2 Jul 09
Money isn't everything. If that man supports you, and take care of home. Whats not to love. So you can't be like the "Jones", but you have love. Love is the key to happiness, and once you have that nothing else matter. I can't speak for everyone her in Mylot land, but me I'm not the kind of girl who loves diamonds, fresh hair do, or fake nails. Just give me the simple things in life. Happy Myotting!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@coolcoder (2018)
• United States
2 Jul 09
I would marry a man like that in a heartbeat. Money is not everything, despite what society screams out at you every day. Family and love are everything, and if I found a man just like you describe, yeah, I'd marry him right gladly.
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@katka15 (105)
• Slovak Republic
2 Jul 09
I don't think I could marry a man who couldn't support me and our family. Money is important. I know couples that married young and had no money. Most of them split or got a divorce a few years later. The love between them vanished and there was no common interest to improve their situation. They simply went their different ways. I'm not saying that money is the most important thing, but it is pretty important to me. I believe there are men out there who have a great personality and have a decent income at the same time.
• Philippines
2 Jul 09
...yes i would. I think that loving me and being loyal and honest to me would make the relationship work. I mean, there are ways to get by...and I can always work. Yes, it would be nice to be pampered and be cared of and financially be stable but its not a necessity to a man I would marry. He does not have to be rich or that he can support totally financially...i mean, marriage is about working together, saving together and making it work. It's not a one way kinda a deal that the husband should be and must be able to support the whole family. It would be cool if he can but it is not a must. There is a difference. As long as he and I are both willing to make it work, to earn together and save together for the family, then it would not make any difference. I would rather marry for love than for money.
• United States
2 Jul 09
For the most part I can support me and my family by myself so that is not really an issue but as others have said it would depend on a few things I would not care if they did not have much if they had ambition but if they are sitting there content on being nothing having nothing then i have a problem for i believe people should always have some kind of goal to better themselves not necessarily meaning to do with money but some personal goal to get a better job to go back to school to help people more it does not matter what the goal just have some kind of goal instead of being content to just be there but for me this has nothing to do with money more to do with character within
• Philippines
2 Jul 09
To be honest, I have already encountered this kind of relationship. But if this will really happen to me, I don't think I would marry him and I also don't think that my family would let me marry him. What they only wanted is my future. Of course, no parent would like to let their daughter be in trouble and will be suffering with her future family. I don't think I would marry that kind of person. I also would want to feel how to be living within the comfort zone. But I am not condeming people who are married to this kind of people.