What do you make of this past loves actions

United States
July 2, 2009 5:12pm CST
Five months ago I gave birth to a handsome son. My sons father and i broke up several months after I found out I was pregnant. He now has mentioned that he will be moving out of his own apartment and may need to spend time at my home. Only he and i have not been together since when we broke up. He rarely comes to spend time with his son. Ok he never comes. He has informed me that he still is attracked to me but up until now I have over looked his comments. Now he is saying stuff like he will be coming around more... what do you think of this?
5 responses
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
3 Jul 09
There's a country song that says "If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything." You seem too willing to accept whatever little bit of attention this guy is willing to give and to do so without any expectations and that is wrong. You have value as a person and you have the right to be treated with respect and love. This guy seems to think that you have an open door policy and you really do need to put a stop to it asap before you...and your son...are hurt. He should EARN his way back into your life by spending quality time with his son on a regular basis and showing some responsibility as a man by also helping to provide financially for him. Don't be swayed by pretty talk and empty promises. Men will use women who will let them...don't let yourself be used.
• China
3 Jul 09
the time when he left you would make everyboy wild.it was heartless of him to leave you like that situation.i think you are a strong female.the reason why he back to you just without department not for you or child.so cruel man.
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
2 Jul 09
Well if I was in your shoes I would look at things very hard and not rush. Remember he left you when you needed the most. Don't stop him from coming to look for the baby but to move in I would tell him no. No woman should be left on her own in her pregnant stage. This is when her emotions run wild and need the man beside her. But it is for you to decide and so I wish you all the best with your decision.
• United States
2 Jul 09
Adam1980 is right. Alot of guys do that, and you know more than we do of how he has been treating you and your child. Imagine you child in a similar situation and coming to you for advice.... What would you say?
@adam1980 (516)
2 Jul 09
sorry to be so blunt about this but wise up he is just using you for a roof over his head, he isnt realy interested in you orthe child, have more respect for your self and tell this looser to get lost and stay out of your lives