If I ask my brother about his broken relationship, would I be interferring?

@iskayz (5422)
Philippines
July 3, 2009 7:48am CST
My youngest brother just broke up with her girlfriend for almost 3 years. He hasn’t told anyone in the family about it. I just got the information from his friend who has become close to our family. She called me secretly this morning and told me that my brother has this problem and that he doesn’t know how to tell my family about the break up. I was shocked hearing about the news. My family loves his girlfriend and I believe the girl’s family likes my brother too cause he has been invited to their house, to their parties and family events many, many times already. I know in my heart that my brother has become a part of the girl’s family too. And as much as possible I like them to end up together someday. Honestly, everyone in the family thinks that they are good for each other. I have been noticing this past few days that my brother is kinda sad and it seems something is bothering him. He went out a few hours ago and he texted me and said he’s not going home yet and he doesn’t know why but nonetheless, he still went home early. We just ate dinner together and I wanted to ask my brother about their break up if it’s really true and why. I wanted to help him and if I can maybe help mend up their relationship. I am thinking that maybe there is still a chance for them if I do something about it the soonest time possible. But I didn’t have the guts to open a conversation about it. I am also not sure if I’m in the position to ask him about this matter though I am his eldest sister. But what I can I do to help him? My family really likes the girl and her family for him.
2 responses
@kabudel (175)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
It's ok to try and talk to him about it, especially now that it seems he needs more support. Of course, he'd be sad, but for one to know that his siblings are also his friends, would uplift his spirits pretty well. I'm sure something like this will bring both of you closer to each other. Good luck iskayz! =)
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@iskayz (5422)
• Philippines
5 Jul 09
Hi! It's been 2 days and I haven't talked to him yet. He knows that I know what happened cause his friend told my brother that I know it already. According to the friend, my brother is actually waiting for me to ask him about the break up but I couldn't. I don't know why. For one, I don't even know where to start.
@baileycows (3668)
• United States
3 Jul 09
I wouldn't try to help mend their relationship let them figure that on their own, but if you want to help comfort him then that would be fine. Don't find out the info to spread to your family let him tell you and hold it sacred it will mean more in the long run.
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@iskayz (5422)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
Hi bailey! Don't worry cause I'm not going to tell my family about his problem. It's not also that I'm just interested to know the facts of their break up but I feel if I know some details, I would be able to give him some advices and not just comfort him and say "it's going to be ok". You know, he might be just confused cause he used to tell me things about their relationship. Maybe he's hesitant to open up to me so I want to do the first move. How?