Will you give up friendship if you feel it is a one way relationship?

@eileenleyva (15103)
Philippines
July 5, 2009 1:33pm CST
Good friendships pass through the test of time. However when a friend feels, after some years that the friendship had lasted because of his willingness alone to make it work, do you think it is all right to forego the friendship? Contention behind is - friendship could get tiring if you are alone in it.
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• United States
7 Jul 09
It's not right if only one person is making an effort to maintain a friendship. Friendship goes two ways. If the other person stops and doesn't want to try, there isn't much that can be done to make it work.
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@eileenleyva (15103)
• Philippines
18 Jul 09
Reason received and understood.
• United States
7 Jul 09
yes i guess you should forgive the friend ship. i don't exactly understand what your saying. but forgive ness is for yourself not for them. its to help you move on with your life. i learned that from a movie called medea goes to jail have you seen it? well anyway i think what your saying if one person is holding the friendship together should you stay friends. well i was friends with this girl that i hated just so i wouldn't hurt her feelings. then 2 years later she kind of grew on me and i finally like her. and maybe staying friends is a good thing. and if it doesn't go anywhere after 3 years you should end it.
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@eileenleyva (15103)
• Philippines
18 Jul 09
I have not seen the movie but you have a point there. We must give people chances. We grow into friendships, even if the friend is a difficult one.
@seymiss (622)
5 Jul 09
To stay friends was a descision by both so both parties should contribute in keeping the friendship alive. It should be on both parties for me if that person is not participating in the friendship in helping to keep it going then i guess there's no reason to go wasting time cause apparently that is the message of leave me alone.
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@eileenleyva (15103)
• Philippines
18 Jul 09
I suppose you are right.
@amybrezik (2120)
• United States
5 Jul 09
I have given up friendships for this reason before. A friendship is a two way street. There is no reason why one person should do all the work. If both people aren't willing to make the friendship work, it's not a real friendship and won't last.
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@eileenleyva (15103)
• Philippines
18 Jul 09
What about the old adage "Make new friends but keep the old. Those are silver, these are gold."? Don't you think friends can just sometimes be eccentric and let us do all the understanding? Had you been in contact with your ex=friend?