don't you like a possessive partner?

@cainam (493)
July 6, 2009 3:22am CST
my boyfriend before almost dictate evry little actions i make. even when i hangout with my friends i should first have his permission. sometimes i got really pissed off with him being so possesive but i realized that it is much better than having a bf who don't care at all.. wanna know your views about this. do we share the same opinion?
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3 responses
• United States
10 Jul 09
The thing is, possessiveness often indicates a lack of trust and jealosy. Possessive people and relationships usuall lead to frustration, and/or a loss of yourself because you are too busy doin the right thing. There are some possessive people that can learn and some that know how to be trusting , giving you the space you need and let you take your RIGHT to make your own decisions without consulting them. I think you would find in that type of relationship you are much more forthcoming with information because you don't have to be concerned about doing something wrong. Maybe you could sit down with your BF about these things and maybe he dosn't realize what he is doing ,or even that he is not giving you the trust you deserve.
• Philippines
7 Jul 09
I don't like a possessive partner.I don't like someone who'll control my every move.I am still an freedom of choice is very much important to me.just because we are in a relationship doesn't mean that he'll choose for me.I will choose the friends who I want to hang out with,I will choose what I want to wear,and I'll choose what I want to do.Jealousy and possessiveness are 2 different concepts which confuses us women.a little bit of jealousy is good in a relationship because it means that your partner looks out after you.a possessive partner treat you like an object he owns,so he will control you.
• India
6 Jul 09
yes you are right. it is better to have anyone who is possessive than anyone who don't care at all. but over possessivness is not good. i think you have to talk to your partner about your opinion.