What do you do when no one response to your discussion?
By zandi458
@zandi458 (28102)
Malaysia
July 7, 2009 5:29am CST
Not many discussions receive good responses but you should be thankful even if you only have one or two responses. What happen to those unfortunate discussions that does not get any response at all? They hang on the screen for extended time without any responses as if people are turning their blind eyes on them until they are returned to the 'cold' room labeled no response. It may be every posters nightmare when they start a discussion and getting no response. In cases like this what do you do to get the attention of mylotters to come to your discussion? Do you send pms to your friends asking them to respond to your discussions? For the first time in my life in mylot a friend requested me to respond to her discussion. This never happen to me as I feel we are, as friends, should support each others discussions in every possible way if we can relate well to the posts. Do you think you would go to such an extent to get your discussions responded by sending pms to friends? Or would you just leave your discussions to fate? I might not be able to reach out to everyone of my friends posts but certainly I would try my best to response to your discussions, one or two maybe but not all as I am not jack of all trade. My knowledge is limited so I will come to where I am familiar or have some knowledge of. I need your support too as much as you need mine. 
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@darksorrow (4666)
• Bangladesh
7 Jul 09
Reading this discussion i just checked my unresolved discussions. And yes i also have 2 with no responses.
Well i was also asked by my friends to respond to their discussions. And i did it also. I am happy to do these things. Well as for now i am on mylot only time to time so i may not do this. But if mylot starts paying all the members then i may check on those again.
Well i was also asked by my friends to respond to their discussions. And i did it also. I am happy to do these things. Well as for now i am on mylot only time to time so i may not do this. But if mylot starts paying all the members then i may check on those again.3 people like this
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
7 Jul 09
Okay now I understand your predicament. It is about the payment processor that doesn't agree with some mylotters where paypal is not available in their countries. I think mylot should look into this area seriously as not having other alternatives will leave many mylotters from participating in the discussions.
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@darksorrow (4666)
• Bangladesh
7 Jul 09
Well mylot was supposed to introduce another payment method after they have stopped moneybookers. But after that mylot forgot to introduce another payment method. And those members whose country is not supported by paypal can't withdraw their money. Mylot even does not have a paypal email field for those whose country is not supported by paypal. You can check for yourself.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
7 Jul 09
HI Zandi!
When I was new to mylot, I would face this kind of situation when I had some discussions on the board with 'zero response'. I used to feel very bad and I had started a somewhat similar discussion at that time. Some of the friends were kind and after seeing my that discussion, they responded to my discussions which had 'no response'. Fortunately, I have not faced the same sitaution thereafter. Whenever I post a new discussion, I get fair number of responses, thanks to my dear friends here and other members here on mylot. As of now, I've no discussion, which has 'zero response'. If the discussion is such that I want a particular friend's reaction on this and the particular friend has not responded, I do send him PM/Mail to check the discussion. I know it does not become possible to respond to all posts, posted by my dear friends here, yet I try my best to respond to those discussions, where I can relate to.
When I was new to mylot, I would face this kind of situation when I had some discussions on the board with 'zero response'. I used to feel very bad and I had started a somewhat similar discussion at that time. Some of the friends were kind and after seeing my that discussion, they responded to my discussions which had 'no response'. Fortunately, I have not faced the same sitaution thereafter. Whenever I post a new discussion, I get fair number of responses, thanks to my dear friends here and other members here on mylot. As of now, I've no discussion, which has 'zero response'. If the discussion is such that I want a particular friend's reaction on this and the particular friend has not responded, I do send him PM/Mail to check the discussion. I know it does not become possible to respond to all posts, posted by my dear friends here, yet I try my best to respond to those discussions, where I can relate to. 3 people like this
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
7 Jul 09
Hi Zandi dear!
I feel very flattered to read your positive and kind comments about me and my discussions[em]lol[/em]. Actually, it is your greatness that you view me and my discussions this way. It always feels great to receive so many responses and I agree with you that consistency pays. It is all the more encouraging to know that I have die hard supporters here on mylot.
em]lol[/em]. Actually, it is your greatness that you view me and my discussions this way. It always feels great to receive so many responses and I agree with you that consistency pays. It is all the more encouraging to know that I have die hard supporters here on mylot.1 person likes this
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
7 Jul 09
Yes, it is a fact. You have a strong aura that makes you a lovable person in mylot community. I am not saying to brag on you. By reading through the responses from your die-hard fans you have what it takes to be one such great mylotter. The bond of friendships you have fostered among all your friends is personalized in nature. I appreciate your attitude of always being the last in winding a response.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
7 Jul 09
Your discussions always hit the roof dpk. This is very encouraging and you have gained a strong foothold in mylot. With that huge figures besides your name it speaks loud of your consistency in mylotting. No worry about getting no response now as you are one of the pioneer mylotter and you have diehard supporters in mylot.
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@ShepherdSpy (8544)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
7 Jul 09
I have my email notifications set so that I get new discussion alerts when people on my friend list post new discussions..I can then go and check them out and give a response if I feel I have something supportive,worthwhile or pertinent to contribute.I won't just stick in an "I agree" or "Me too" response to try and ger a discussion credit for no effort.I feel I'm personally putting in discussion topics with some potential for responses,then respond to a bunch of the various topics from friends and "No Response" discussions I find,then sit and wait for the comments or responses in reply,and some days all I get in my Mylot filter list is the daily discussion list summary-it makes me wonder what it takes to get responses when I see discussions on political figures being lauded or flamed for their latest coup or blunder and the fans or haters give those discussions the legs to have it run and run..I'd like to think my friends would be observing my postings too that I didn't have to go begging for responses..
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@ShepherdSpy (8544)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
7 Jul 09
You can feel positively about a discussion,or negatively-either way,you could give a response,not just ignore it.You don't just get credited for positive responses.Being critical evokes discussion too.Why build a list of "Friends" if you're not prepared to support their efforts? Why have a wide range of discussion interests if You're not prepared to explore them and consider looking at new ones? I'm frequently adding new interests by responding here. Agreed,responding is by free will,but it's the resulting interaction that improves the experience for everyone here!
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
7 Jul 09
We all have our email notifications set on and not responding means we don't have anything to say and there is no need to be reminded. It is on our own free will to whom we want to response. But I took pity for those who pm me to get my attention. Sending pm maybe another tactic to get noticed.
@THEcreationist (837)
• India
7 Jul 09
Hi, friend. Well, I don`t care if nobody responds to my discussions. That`s something of the sort of people`s choice, you cann`t do much about it.
I at least try to answer my friends` discussions. Also, I try my best to answer a discussion that really deserves a response.
But, it is quite unfortunate ou here that many discussions that are of real value go unanswered while those of rationally no value get heaps of them.
I tried to test this.
I raised a discussion asking for the danger and its solution that the world is facing - got 3 responses.
I asked to compare matrix and titanic- got 11 responses.
That is tragic.
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@THEcreationist (837)
• India
7 Jul 09
Hi, XiaoLin. A cute name.
That is general human nature to go for easy ways in life but the right ways are generally tough and intellectual. Also there is a saying, there are two ways in life - one is right and the other is easy (wrong). So, at least try attempting the discussions of real value.
By the way, I didn`t feel any problem with your foreign language skills.
Happy Mylotting.
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@benzcode (7)
• India
7 Jul 09
Hey its nothing to worry abt.... It just helps in improving discussions. We just need to get real and practical. We need to discuss over matters which concern a larger group so that more people get involved and learn about each other, put forth there views and present new ideas of improvements or put forward specific details related to the discussions... which are usually not common among a larger group...so that more people get interested and get involved in it. This is what makes a discussion superior than others. Not getting responses is nt a big issue... it only tells us that we are way behind others and need to speeden up. So get going...n keep posting. BYE.
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@XiaoLin (289)
• Italy
7 Jul 09
well, a discussion with no answers... It could be that the topic was not interesting, and the fault would be mine for posting them.
I wouldn't go to my friends to bargain (I would feel it this way) for answers.
It could be that I am troubled and I really need to know other's point of view over something, but such questions usually get a lot of answers, don't they?
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@youless (112131)
• Guangzhou, China
7 Jul 09
I take it easy. In fact sometimes I already feel very risky to post some discussions as I know no more people will be interested in it. Sometimes I am just lucky that some friends still respond to them. But right now I still have two discussions have zero responses. I just leave it alone. I don't PM to my friends to respond to them. As I hope they do it willingly. If they could respond to my these two discussions, I thought they had already done so. If not, perhaps my discussions are really not popular:)
I love China
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
7 Jul 09
Actually there is no need to send pm to friends as they will get notifications from mylot in their respective emails. It is a gamble when we put up discussions here. Sometimes we lose sometimes we win. When topics doesn't appeal to many people they are left hanging without response. When we hit the target it receive tons of responses. We need a lot of creativity in our posts to draw interest in the readers mind.
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
8 Jul 09
Hi Zandi,
I think it depends on the discussion topic which may not be attracted to the whole population of mylot or the starter may be new one and doesn’t have many friends. Anyway I have never been in such a situation with the help of my great friends. Earlier I had the habit of visiting new friend’s profile and if there is any discussion which has no response, I give my response to that. Recently I am not following the same due to busy work. I have already pending discussions there started by my dear friends when I was away. So far I haven’t received any PM or request from any member for responding to a particular discussion.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
9 Jul 09
I have not tried responding from friends profile page yet as it is time consuming especially when my computer is slow to upload. I would just depend on the notifications and sometimes go to the no response column to do some justice to those discussions that are left idle in that cold storage. With one response they will be exposed and that might generate few responses.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
7 Jul 09
GOOD MORNING ZANDI, i HAVE BEEN FORTUNATE TO ALWAYS GET SOME ANSWERS to each discussion i have ever started. NO,I wouldn't pm anyone & ask them to answer one of mine. I try to answer everyone i get unless i just don't know anything at all about them. Friends support friends, I think. Have a great day.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
7 Jul 09
I'll take that pat, don't get many.
. As i have told u many times i really enjoy your discussions. Hope your day is going well.
. As i have told u many times i really enjoy your discussions. Hope your day is going well.1 person likes this
@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
7 Jul 09
Not only do unresponded discussions end up in the 'cold room', but they also sit in the writers 'unresolved' file, lonely and taunting them forever, begging for responses. Periodically I look at discussions in the 'cold room' to see if I can respond to any of them. Usually they are concerning something that I have no clue about. If I can respond, I do.
Maybe myLot needs a new category called, 'friends started-no response'. Certainly friends would step up to the plate to willingly help each other out. Since this is not the case, if I got a PMS from a good friend requesting a response, I'm happy to comply. In all likelihood it's a discussion that I missed, but would have responded to if I'd seen it.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
7 Jul 09
Well said Catdla, you have come up with a witty response and a suggestion that needs serious attention from the admin. I think mylot should add another button ie delete discussion with no response so it will not sit long in our unresolved discussions. No point of it being there as it only clutter the space in our unresolved discussions.
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@krajibg (11923)
• Guwahati, India
7 Jul 09
Hi zands, this is God's grace or my good fortune that till date I have not have to see such situation that I start a discussion and there is no response. In the beginning I had only two responses and now the maximum number of responses I have got is 90 + and I am happy about this.
I have seen such discussion where there is no response for days together and no response at all. Might be it depends on the nature of the discussion and the person who has started it.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
7 Jul 09
I didn't know that personality counts too when drawing in responses. I am quite lucky too so far as my discussions never go un-responded. I see that you are quite a popular figure here since you joined in and your star keep shining. I believe your quality discussions interest many mylotters that explains the many responses you get.
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@yolanda19191 (1934)
• China
7 Jul 09
i think it's normal if some discussion gets no respond.
certainly i wont ask for others to respond it. such as i have one discussion abt the World Expo,which will be held in shanghai in 2010.until now,no respond. i know i didnt write it well.so not get others' interest.
what will i do because of it? i think i'll be the same.to post what i can think of, just remember to write it better,hehe...and then just to attract the ones who are interested to give responds.hehe...
in fact, i'm certainly the same,will only respond the discussions which i'm interested.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
7 Jul 09
Not all us are born writers so expect some flaws in our discussions. Maybe the main criteria is to choose topics that people are interested in. Mostly about life, love and mylot. This discussion that I start is drawing good response as I see it. Every minute it seems to draw one response.
@yolanda19191 (1934)
• China
8 Jul 09
u'r very right.
if want to attract others,or get more flows or responds,just to go post the hot topics as u said.
but if want to keep urself, just to post what u can think of to share.
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
11 Jul 09
it can happen sometimes. Maybe the discussion was posted at a bad time - I've noticed that some hours are not very active here in mylot - or maybe the subject was not clear, or the discussion confusion. NO matter what the reason, it does happen sometimes. I really don't care much, except for the fact that it will stay forever in the unresolved discussions since if there are no responses one can't choose best response.
I guess that's what will make someone ask for help in responding, so they can assign best response and clean the unresolved files.
I don't see any harm in asking friends to try and comment. Maybe they didn't see that discussion, or maybe they had passed it in the middle of other discussions. And even if they have purposely not responded, they might give it a go if requested. It's not an obligation, so there is no need to be upset. If you possibly can respond, and are ok with doing it, then it's fine. If you don't, then it's fine as well.
I have received some request as such myself. I don't see anything wrong with them. I took a look - or a second look - and I found that I could answer some, so I did. The others I didn't. It's easy and nothing that would bother me.
Keep in mind you will also be paid for that comment, so it's not like you're doing a favor for nothing, if that bothers you.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
11 Jul 09
Exactly. I agree with you.
But I don't see any harm in receiving a request from a friend to take a look at a discussion and see if I can answer it, so he/she can resolve it.
The matter doesn't have necessarily be that the person is upset at not having responses, but not wanting to have them in the unresolved files.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
11 Jul 09
What ever we do here is all considered participation and mylot pays for active participation in any form and that includes commenting and approving friends request. I am not unduly disturbed if any of my posts is not responded as I can make it up with another discussion that might hit the roof.
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@zhuhuifen46 (3483)
• China
7 Jul 09
I feel encouraged whenever seeing responses, but this is not quite often the case. I never intentionally suggest any response as reward, but I find reward will come if I respond to others' So it seems the only way is to respond to as many discussions as possible started by friends.
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@jshekhar (1562)
• India
7 Jul 09
Hello Zandi,
Your discussion is on a very genuine topic but I am sure you have never faced this.. I hardly see any of your discussions getting less than 10 responses!
Well, luckily people have always responded to my discussions but sometimes I get one or two responses only. I would ideally wait for a couple of months for some more responses but if I don't get it, I pick up the best response and move ahead. I do feel sad but I don't lose sleep over it and start thinking about a more interesting topic to start a discussion on.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
7 Jul 09
It happened to me so the creation of this post. Since am an old guard here I think it is not surprising that I have through the years established my footings in mylot and gathered a sizable number of friends that can create a two way traffic at any one time. The mutual understanding among friends has long been established. I am trying to bring in the newbies to be in my circle of friends so they'll be able to emulate the veterans.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
7 Jul 09
I still new here in my lot and encounter a discussion with no single response. maybe, the question loss its sense and is similar with others participant. I do not send messages to my new friends or force them to reply with my post. They have their own free mind. It is up to them if they are willing to reply on my discussion. I try to reply on their discussion as much as possible. But, their are days that I am busy and cannot participate. I am glad when they reply to my discussion and I will make a comments to ensure that they are being responded too.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
7 Jul 09
You're right let the discussion drive its own responses and there is no need to ask friends to response to our discussions. They are duty bound to response when they feel that they have something to say on the discussions as we have done with their discussions.
@wings143 (133)
• Philippines
7 Jul 09
it is fine to send pms to your friend...i really do not see anything wrong with it...it does not bother me if a friend of mine would send a pms to me... i would gladly reply to any of her discussion...
but as to your question as to what would i feel when no one responds to my discussion, i guess i would feel bad or somehow doubts my discussion topics but it will not stop me from making another discussion...but, of course at the back of my mind, there is always the possibility that i would get 0 response to my discussion...but fortunately it did not happen to me yet..
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