What is the best relationship between parents and children?

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What is the best relationship between parents and children? Some people say they should be friends. They say this kind of relationship provides a comfortable atmosphere? for children, so they will grow less stressed and have a more positive character. But others believe that a friends-like relationship between parents and children is somewhat “dangerous” for both of them. Under this relationship, no strict discipline can be enforced, so the children may become troublemakers. As these people say, if you spare the rod, you spoil the child. Another issue is whether it is good for them all to live together after the children get married. It is true that a big family has many advantages that a nuclear one doesn’t. But most children don’t want to live with their parents, saying, “We don’t want to be interfered with.” Do you think parents have the right to criticize their children for refusing to live with them? My parents say they’re only happy if I’m healthy and my business is going well. They have no other wishes except my family’s well-being. I know they have spent their lives worrying about my safety, education, and success. They never received any formal education themselves, but their top priority fell on my getting a college education. When I passed my college entrance exam they looked like the happiest people in the world. My dad said learning is everything and knowledge is more valuable than money. When I become a parent myself, when it comes to educating my children, spanking is the last thing I want to do. All parents should know children are wiser than we think. They understand their parents’ every intention. For them, advice and persuasion are stronger weapons than force and violence. Spanking can never be justified as a means of education. This is what I remember when I was young. My mom would alwyas say this line. It can never be regarded as anything but violence against children. And violence begets violence.