Do you have trouble making choices and decisions or are you quick to act?

United States
July 8, 2009 1:54pm CST
Hello all. I know people who make decisions rapidly, and usually with intelligence. And then there are those who tend to over-think a thing. They hesitate, they waver back and forth, and they have a great deal of trouble making a choice or a decision. For myself, I fall somewhere in-between these two groups. Some decisions and choices, I make readily. Others, I tend to agonize over. Where do fit in? Do you make decisions and choices easily and with confidence? Or do you have trouble doing so? Karen
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@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
9 Jul 09
Hi Karen! Normally I donot procastinate or postpone decisions in any matter. I believe in the dictum - "It is better to take a decision than not to take a decision, even if the decision comes out wrong". I believe that not taking a decision on any issue causes more tension to us than taking a wrong decision. I do not delay, however, sometimes, in my hurry to take decisions, my decisions turn out wrong. If any of my decision comes out wrong, I convince myself saying that at that time my mind decided to take this decision, keeping in view all the facts and circumstances of the issue, therefore, I did the right thing. Good Post!!!
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• United States
9 Jul 09
Hello D. Thank you :) You seem to be a wise man in general, so I can imagine that you do indeed decide rapidly. Yes, any decision is sometimes better than no decision at all. And if we do make a wrong choice, it is good to take away the lesson, for we have learned something important, yes? Thank you for your input on the discussion. Karen
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@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
10 Jul 09
Hi Karen! Yes agree with you that it is better to take decisions. Thanks for telling me that I am wise..........LOL!
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• United States
10 Jul 09
LOL, but you ARE wise, so you should hear that :)
• Philippines
9 Jul 09
you know what?i have experienced difficulties in making decisions too... let me tell you about it. it was when my boyfriend proposed a marriage with me...but i felt difficult to answer him because i am still studying.he let me chose between him and my study. of course, it's really hard to chose because i love my boyfriend and i have also a dream to finish my study.. i spent many times of thinking it over... later i decide to let go of him and chose to continue my study. it doesn't mean i don't love him,...i love him so much but i can't afford to sacrifice my future. i come to think that if you are really loved by that person, he will not let you chose.he can wait for you until you finish your study. what i did is to think both sides...weigh it over and think the most important one that you might not felt sorry for lifetime. it hurts but i know i did the best decision... just think the advantage and disadvantages of both sides... just like mine, said to myself that i boyfriends can be found someday but education is the opportunity that might not knocks on my door again...
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• United States
9 Jul 09
Hi Lib. This had to be a truly hard decision for you! I can see by the process you used to think it through, though, that you made what I believe is a very wise choice. True love will still be there after you finish your eduction, which is so important! Congratulations on making such a difficult choice. I think you will not regret it! Karen
• Philippines
10 Jul 09
yes, and i'm sure with that... that was a year ago and as of now, i have moved on... for now, i am just hoping that he will be happy with his life without me...
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• United States
10 Jul 09
If he truly wants to be happy, he will find a way. :)
@EliteUser (3964)
• Australia
28 Sep 09
Hey, Well usually I have trouble making choices and decisions, I am never too quick to act. This is because their is a constant battle in my head that is negotiating with myself to see whether the choice I am making is good or bad. Make sure you have a good day, God bless and Happy Lotting!!
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• United States
29 Sep 09
Hello my friend. I can identify with this. Although years and experience teach us a lot, I still grapple inside my mind at times with facts and options, hoping to make the right decision, as wrong ones...eeek! So many undesirable consequences! But...in an emergency, I can indeed make decisions quickly. Thank you for sharing your experiences with this. Karen
• India
3 Aug 09
Hello my friend PeacefulWmn9 Ji, I am happy that I fall under your catagory, whereas my hubby is just opposite. He takes immediate and quick dicissions like he is going for fire-fighting. he nevr turns his back. Also he never repents for any of his dicssions. May god bless You and have a great time.
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• India
4 Aug 09
Hello my friend PeacefulWmn9 Ji, So nice of you for accepting my expressions. May god bless You and have a great time.
• United States
4 Aug 09
Hello dear friend. Yes, it is best to accept ourselves as God has made us. We tend to be happier then. And it is also good to accept others as they are, even though they may be quite different from us. :) God bless you, too. Karen
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@Jill22 (263)
• Philippines
8 Jul 09
I think that before you make a very big decision, you should think it over. But sometimes, there are circumstances that needs quick thinking ability. I think everybody has its capability to do both, it matters on the circumstances that they are in that they need to rethink or make decision quickly.
• United States
8 Jul 09
Hello Jill. You make perfect sense. When someone's life is at stake, we must act with speed and accuracy...no time to think it over. But with other things, not as pressing, but big decisions, we need to take our time. I appreciate your feedback and wisdom. Karen
@Jill22 (263)
• Philippines
9 Jul 09
Thank you! I hope I'm making sense to everyone not just to you! Happy myLotting!
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• United States
9 Jul 09
Hi Jill...I am sure it did. Your write very clearly! Karen
@seanbryan (349)
• United Arab Emirates
4 Aug 09
Hi Karen! My friends would always regard me having a strong personality as I readily have decisions with confidence on things happening around me. Most often I can prove my decisions right, however there are times that I need to suffer the consequence of my being an abrupt thinker. Well this is the fact of life, what matters most to me is along the process I tend to become a better and wiser person the next time around. Cheers!
• United States
4 Aug 09
Hello there :) I admire your ability both to make quick and firm decisions, as well as learning from the ones that are mistaken. You should go far in life...sound very much like leadership material :) Karen
@just4you0 (421)
• India
9 Jul 09
I think i am the most confused person of the world. Even in small decisions i fail to select one quickly .Actualy, i am dissappointed by my some of wrong decision that realy hurted so now i am very carefull about everything.
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• United States
9 Jul 09
Hello Just. This sometimes happens. We decide wrongly and then seem to lose confidence in our abilities. I think with time, though, you'll regain that confidence. Thank you for sharing your input here Karen
@geniustiger (1694)
• Philippines
9 Jul 09
I did also rapid dicisions and think right away. But sometimes regrets why I have it decide like that. I'm so impulsive about making dicisions and oftentimes but some great deal I also sad why accept without thinking the advantage and advantages to it. I think thats me heheheh.
• United States
9 Jul 09
Hi Genuis. You are not alone. We've all made hasty decisions we later regret, but hopefully, we learn something valuable each time and gain experience. As we do, we will make better choices, even if we make them quickly. Karen
• Malaysia
9 Jul 09
Hi. I'd like to think I make decisions quickly and hopefully wisely. Usually if i came across a problem i'll ask myself the following to lead to an answer... 1. is this problem urgent or can i take my time? 2. how much time should i give myself to evaluate the pros and cons? 3. is the pros and cons based on facts or assumptions? 4. who is affected by this decision? 5. What could possibly go wrong if i chose the wrong decision? 6. Is is possible to undo? If a complex decision have to be made in a short time, the probability of being wrong is strong. Based on my experience most people thought their assumptions are facts instead of vice versa. Most people will choose a decision that they can undo. Only the strong (people with principals and values) have the guts to decide what they think is right. They are aware of question 5 and 6 but they go ahead and do it regardless of it because the decision defines who they are.
• United States
9 Jul 09
Hi Yusuf. Oh, I do love the questions you ask that lead up to making a final decision. They make perfect sense, and I can see where they up the odds of one choosing wisely. And yes, choosing purely on principal or what defines us, is not always a good idea. We need to be open to change, to trying new ways of doing things. Thank you so much for your input! Karen
• India
12 Jul 09
Sometimes yes and sometimes no. So, I'll put myself in the category in which you are. I also fall somewhere in the midst.
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• United States
12 Jul 09
Hi Sweet. It is good not to be in the middle all by myself lol. I do find decisions and choices come a bit more easily as we age. I suppose that is how it should be...experience as a teacher. Karen
• Philippines
10 Jul 09
I try to weigh my options carefully before I make a decision. For example, I wanted a laptop and it costed like $458 with twelve months to pay via credit card. i really wanted that laptop and wanted to buy it right then and there but i decided to think it over for more than a month and see if i still like tha laptop. i pretty much felt the same way after a month of mulling it over and bought the laptop last week with no regrets so far after.
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• United States
10 Jul 09
Hello Ran. It is good not to purchase major things on impulse. I think you did well to make sure the laptop was truly what you wanted. I appreciate you sharing your views on decision making here :) Karen
@thebox2 (15)
• United States
10 Jul 09
Yes isn't it a pit,youn know they say we are defined by the choices we make...Well we do pay the price for them anyway... who ever said it was easy? So much can go into a choice...maybe little ones are easy, but remember they all lead up to the big ones we make.Whats a healthy bondry? Do you know how to define the things you will allow in your personal space?I can't say I go back and forth, unless it is in the begining discusion I have with myself. I always hated them too, cause I worried about them....then one day I didn't worry...and it was easier. Try that one thanks Madell
• United States
10 Jul 09
Hi Madell. Yes, our choices definitely impact who we are and who we become. I like your statement about knowing what we will or will not allow into our personal space. Thinking the way you do would definitely help one make wiser decisions, and I will keep your advice in mind when deciding :) Karen
• India
9 Jul 09
i too have problem in making decision and after taking the decision. i think may its was right to take other option.i always feel this way when i take any decision. and i am really poor in taking decision.
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• United States
9 Jul 09
Hi Manoj. I sometimes hesitate like that, since I am afraid of making "another" wrong decision. At least when choosing wrongly, we learn a bit more each time. I think as years go by, we get better and faster at making good choices :) Karen
• United States
9 Jul 09
One of my finer qualities is the ability to view a situation from all angles. People tend to come to me for advice because I am open-minded and can see things from a variety of perspectives. However, this is real hinderance when it comes to making a decision. I mean you can make a Pro/Con list, but many things can be both Pro AND Con depending on your perspective, or someone else's perspective. I blame it on my Libra-ness!
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• United States
9 Jul 09
Hello Sun. I, too, am a Libra! So I can understand your dilemma. Seeing things from many angles, and actually understand them all can be good for some things, like getting along with others. But it is not always so good an ability when it comes to making choices or decisions! lol Karen
• Philippines
9 Jul 09
I think I am also like you, I fall between the two of those decision makers. I don't have trouble in making decisions and I don't make quick decisions. I think out of the box. I am confident what will ever be my decision as I try to analyze and see what will be the pros and cons of that certain thing before making a decision. I am firm in my decision making and I don't change my decision not unless there is a justifiable reason and I will make an exemption to change my decision. I am not fickle minded like other women.
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• United States
9 Jul 09
Hello Sophie. The way you go about making decisions, finding out the facts, and weighing the pros and cons, seems a very wise route, to me. And yes, unless there is an emergency, or the decision is on a minor matter, it pays to take some time. Like you, I am also open to changing my mind if that seems the best way to go after all. Karen
@anetteh (3590)
• Sweden
9 Jul 09
that is a god question and my fast decision was to answere. Well, I do right away what I have in mind I do not think much before make a decision. However, I might think of different possibilities before the decision to make. I like to know what the consequenses might be of my decision depending on what the issue is. For example, make a choose of what food to have for dinner, it´s not only mine to make, that is a family decision since it has a direct impact on each one of the family member. I always ask my son, becouse if I make that decision on my own it ends up with me cooking two different type of dinners, since my son with ADHD AND AUTISM do not eat everything. We make decisions, and chooses every day, and some you have to make at where you standing, but some do need some thinking before to make them.
• United States
9 Jul 09
LOL Anette, thank you for deciding so quickly to respond :) You are wise, even when acting quickly, to imagine various possibilities! And true, some decisions rightfully include the input of others, such as your family. I love the last sentence on decisions: Some you have to make where you are standing, but some do need some thinking before to make them. Very wise comments. Karen
@pickoy (733)
• Philippines
9 Jul 09
I can make quick decisions even if it involves a matter of great importance; specially when it's urgent and even device plans or certain course of actions when things go out of hand. Maybe I'm just trained that way, coz when I was a child, being the eldest, my father have such high expectations from me, sometimes its really crazy but I get used to it... there are really people who are born to be good leaders and good decision-makers while the rest are good being a team-player.
• United States
9 Jul 09
Hello Pickoy. You're sound very much the capable leader. Yes, I am also an oldest child, and much is expected of us at a young age. I think it acts as a form of "early training." Also true, some are leaders; some are team players; all are important :) Karen
@check23 (448)
• Philippines
9 Jul 09
It depends on the situation.
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• United States
9 Jul 09
Hi Check...yes, I think this is true for us all. Sometimes, the decision must be rapid, as in an emergency. Other times, of course, we are allowed and should take enough time to choose wisely what to do. Karen
• China
9 Jul 09
good topic,actually, i always hesitate when make a decision or a choice, it is necessary for me to learn more to make quick decision.
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• United States
9 Jul 09
Hi Jerry. Thank you for joining in on this discussion :) I believe the younger we are the better it is to take our time and get all the facts before making especially big decisions. The process seems to grow easier with time and experience. Best wishes to you. Karen
@ashia101 (203)
• Philippines
9 Jul 09
Well as for me, I don't make decisions right away especially unless it requires me to decide abruptly.But usually when i decide on something I always think about the future and hows it gonna be.It's draw back and advantages. when I'm so sure, then i can decide.
• United States
10 Jul 09
Hello Ashia. I think you go about your decision making in a very wise way. It pays to consider what future consequences, good or bad, may come of our decisions. Thank you for your input! Karen