Which life you prefer? Working or Being Stay at Home Mom?

@shia88 (4578)
Malaysia
July 9, 2009 12:11am CST
Frankly speaking,I prefer working life whereby I can earn money for myself,can buy whatever things that I like without asking money from hubby. Too bad,after giving birth to my boy, I stay at home taking care of him 24/7. I spent most of my time for my boy.If someone can help me taking care of him,sure I will be out for work rather than stay at home. How abt u??? Which life u prefer?Let's comments.
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@celineml (126)
• Malaysia
29 Oct 09
hi,shia yes me also perfer working life. After born my girl than me also resign my last work and stay at home 3month. They time me is stay with my hubby but is no good like u say want buy thing than want take money with hubby, than must hubby will ask many and also say want save. If own working than want buy anything never ask hubby because this is own earn money. So me perfer own working better dun want stay at home.
@vingyan06 (2487)
• Malaysia
29 Oct 09
Hi Celine,I agree with you. If we woman works, we are financial freedom, we don't need to depend on our hub. We get to spend money to buy what we want. Some how career isn't the only thing we want. Life is beautiful and full of surprice with children. The experiance in raising our own kids is so priceless. Motherhood is exciting and full of callenge. So I don't mind to stay at home raising my own kids.
@celineml (126)
• Malaysia
30 Oct 09
Hi Moon, yes we working can earn money and many freedom. But some people is can not working like if too many child until she working also no enuf to pay children give nanny take care money so like this better she no need working than stay at home more good. But if many children but me own mother or mother in law want take care than we can go working is better.
@shia88 (4578)
• Malaysia
17 Feb 11
Hi Celine and Vingyan, There is actually pros and cons being at home with our kids. I do agree with what Vingyan's said that motherhood is exciting and the experience in raising our own kids is priceless and once we passed through this stage,it won't be back again. But if the financial status in the family is quite stable,then it is find to just depend on husband alone to find money for the family. But if the financial status is not that stable,then both husband and wife have to be out to work and let their children taking care by others. How I wish my mother in law will help me taking care of my son,then I can be out to work.but too bad, my mother in law is not really willing to help up and I also don't want to depend on her always.
@vingyan06 (2487)
• Malaysia
13 Jul 09
Shia, most mummy want to have all their time belong to their kids, but some how we need to work to earn a living, and hope not to get financial support from hubs. If my kids are still small, below 5 years, I might drop my jobs and take full respond to raise them. I will go out for work once they grow older.
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@shia88 (4578)
• Malaysia
19 Jul 09
Some woman prefer to work rather than stay at home taking care her baby.Different people will have different thinking.
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@vingyan06 (2487)
• Malaysia
29 Oct 09
Yeah Shia,Not all the woman want to sacrifice their career and stay at home. But still I know a number of stay at home mum. They are some engineers, educators, and some are holding degree. Do you think it is a waste for them to drop their job just for the children?
@shia88 (4578)
• Malaysia
17 Feb 11
HI Vingyan, I do think it is kinda of wasteless to drop everything and then be at home for our kids,but I am doing so. Actually I also a degree holder and for the sake of my son, I stay at home and take care of him full time. Sometimes, I think back...am I doing the right decision for my future? If I am working, I can earn money and spend on whatever things I like.
@silverglint (2001)
• Philippines
9 Jul 09
maybe you can ask for an allowance from your husband that you can spend for your own needs or you can try to buy and sell stuffs so you can earn for yourself without having to sacrifice your time with your boy. I would give anything to become a full time mom. But I am stuck here at work because I have to help provide for our family. I would like to have that chance to be able to watch my boys grow up and reach the different milestones in life. There are many moms out there who would rather stay home with their kids than work.
@shia88 (4578)
• Malaysia
9 Jul 09
Tq for ur comments...different ppl will hav different thinking.Althg hubby giv allowance every mth, I juz feel uneasy...maybe coz I get used to work for myself and spend my own money previously (be4 married). I feel easy to buy watever thing I like with my own money rather than use my hubby's money.
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• United States
30 Dec 10
Call us weird but I am the same way shia. I would rather have my own money that I have earned myself rather than someone else's, no matter how close they are.
@shia88 (4578)
• Malaysia
1 Jan 11
HI, I just feel more comfortable to spend on my own money rather than spending on my husband's money. Although he has the responsibility to support my spending ,but that kind of feeling just lie in my heart. By spending on my own money, I feel more comfortable to buy things I want. But by using my husband's money, i have to really think carefully before making the final purchase.
• United States
1 Dec 09
I know the feeling. I would love to get a job to help with the income, but I can bring myself to let someone watch my little one. I have trust issues with that. But I hate having to ask for money too. I was so use to getting a steady pay check, and since having her and getting out of the military I have be depending on the hubby. Sometimes i feel like I am not doing enough. But being a mother is enough.
@shia88 (4578)
• Malaysia
17 Feb 11
Hi, It is always feel good to earn income for ourself and our family, How I wish I can contribute in this part,but at this moment, I have to be at home to takecare of my son full-time. Asking money from husband is not really that nice and I am not get used to it,probably because i used to work and earn my own money,but now, I have to depend on him solely.
• Malaysia
29 Oct 09
I don't have my own kids yet, but I think if I have kids to take care someday, I am still going to work so that, the income of the family will be doubled and we can plan something without worrying about money. However, it also depends on what kind of work I am going to do. If I can open my own business, it will be much better because I will be my own boss and I don't have to get up as early as I know how mothers have to handle everything as early in the morning and working non-stop until they finally surrender to bed. Are you doing any online job at the moment? If yes, than I think you can set up a mini office at your home and do something like you are really working and set some targets. In that way, you won't miss too much about working life at the office or outside.
@shia88 (4578)
• Malaysia
17 Feb 11
HI, AT this moment, I am not working and I always have the intention to set up an online store,but problem is what thing should I sell and where to get the stocks from. And of course, I must have enough capital to run my online store, another headache issue again. So at this moment, I just hope can earn more from MyLot and doing some paidposts.
@Ritchelle (3795)
• Philippines
9 Jul 09
i was in the same situation as you. however, fate forced me to take care of my child. i was actually bent on doing it only for a few months till i realized the joys of motherhood and the realization that there is more to life than work. i realized when i was staying at home and seeing my child grow up why some parents have no control on their children: why their own children don't treat them as parents. no offense .
@shia88 (4578)
• Malaysia
9 Jul 09
Taking care our kids full time is a kinda of challenging job...it will takes up almost our times everyday. Tats true that we can spend more times with them n see them grow healthier.
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• United States
30 Dec 10
Being a single mother, getting no help from father or family, I have no choice but to be a working mother. I have been serious about starting my own online business, and will do so in the coming year. I have other limitations that keep me from getting most jobs, and I am determined not to give up on myself nor my children, even when everyone else has.
@shia88 (4578)
• Malaysia
17 Feb 11
Hi, I salute you..not easy to be a single mother. Working and juggling with your kids at the same time....hard to do it. I am not sure whether I can be like you. Doing an online business is another good option, I do think of doing it too,but just need to really consider before making such a big investment.
@Bellapop (1281)
10 Mar 11
I know what you mean, nothing beats the freedom of being able to earn money for yourself than having to be cut off from society and having to ask for money from someone else. Don't worry, you can still do both, would you be able to work at home while looking after the baby? I know a few people who did this - one of my neighbours who used to go out to work, has stayed at home working ever since she had her first baby. It is possible - it depends what yo worked as before - would you be able to do it on a freelance basis? Also, the internet is so useful now, perhaps you could setup your own web business? If you prefer to be out and about, would some be able to look after the baby - or perhaps, a nearby creche or nursery to where you would be working? Good luck! And don't give up your life because of a baby - you can manage both!!
@shia88 (4578)
• Malaysia
11 Mar 11
Hi, Thank you so much for your advice.I really do hope I can be out to work again to earn money and lighten my husband burden. Standard of living is pretty high now and no money, life will be miserable. There are plenty of childcare at my town,but the main issue, I feel unsafe to leave my son there and if he were to fall sick one day,there won't be someone at home to takecare of him. That is my main concern,that is why I decided to be at home take care of my son. Of course, I do think of setting up an online business,but I am yet to find the best things to sell to society. Temporary, I am doing Mylot and writing some paidpost to earn some bucks.
• United States
28 Dec 10
I am a stay home mom after mom daughter was born. I do not ask my husband for money because his check is direct deposit so, when my daugter and I want a day aout or want to do something I just go to the bank and get the money out for us to do something or if, iwant to buy myself something I just put it in lay away and bedone with it. I love staying home with my daughter but there is days I wish I went back to work. I realize all the things that I would be missing out in my daughter's life if, I was working. You should not ask your husband for money , let him put money in a saving account with just a ATM card no debtit on it so, you will not over spend or no visa either. I get the ATM card and my husband has the debit card to pay the bills. I am happy married for over 22 yrs and my daughter is almost 5 yrs old. My husband wants to to do things with her that our parents did not do with us because we both came from a family of 6 siblings including ourselves.
@shia88 (4578)
• Malaysia
17 Feb 11
HI, Too bad my husband never transfer any money to my account,so everytime when I need money,then I have to ask from him. I never expect more from him,as long as, we can go through the normal life, it is more than enough. But I always wish can go back to work one day. I don't wish to stay at home all the time.
@dreamnishu (1253)
• China
18 Mar 11
hello friend! i just like to work in outside of home.i am a medical student and will be a good doctor for this i want to help people.i really want to earn money for do help poor people.it is my dream.it is also important to spend time with family.i really prefer working life. thanks a lot.
• China
18 Mar 11
I do prefer working. Because staying home is some time really boring and working is a very good way to spend time. And with work we can make our life busy. And i think busy life is batter then non busy life. Have a good time!