greener grass

United States
July 10, 2009 7:38pm CST
Why dose it seem that the grass is always green in another yard... i love my guy very much but I keep feeling like i am missing out on a man who is more on my level of making things happen.
2 responses
@khayshenz (1384)
• United States
11 Jul 09
If you feel like your missing out on something bigger, then why are you settling?? If your not satisfied with your relationship - then you should break up with him. Because you're leading him on! He probably thinks that you have this GREAT thing between you and yet here you are thinking the grass is greener somewhere else? That's not right - to lead someone on. If you truly love him like you claim you do - then tell him you're not satisfied with your relationship and that you're not ready to settle for anything less. Don't pretend and don't settle. It's unfair to your significant other and to yourself. Good luck!
• United States
11 Jul 09
ahh... I never thought of it as settleing. but you given me an area to look at. My liove for him is real and because of my love i think maybe i should share with him how i am feeling. thank you for your comment. I will see how things go.
• United States
11 Jul 09
I agree here. If you have any doubts then you need to talk about them right away. I think that if you are thinking about the greener side of life then there is something that you haven't finished or something that makes you want to see what else is out there. I have been there before and I finally just said okay I can't do this to you any more I question myself a lot about what else is out there. He was upset but he is now with someone that is perfect for him and I couldn't be happier.
@andy77e (5161)
• United States
11 Jul 09
I wager most find out the reason when they have kids. Children are amazingly good at showing us how we ourselves act. What happens when you give a child a toy? He plays with it for about 2 hours or less, drops it in the backyard to be lost forever, and demands another toy. My parents have a second hand, swing set and slide in their back yard for my nephew to play on. They bought it for under $50 and it's covered in rust. I happen to be there when the neighbors kids came over to play. The mother marveled that they had just purchased a $1,000 bran new jungle set, that her husband had spent a whole weekend putting together, and here they were playing on our $50 rusty swing set. Here's the answer... there is a sick part of the human soul that inherently wants things it does not, or can not, have. We always believe that there is somehow something more, than what we saw in the "getting". When we're going after the girl or guy, we look at all their positive aspects. All the good qualities they have. But as soon as we "get" them, we start looking at their flaws, their hangups, their issues. Suddenly all those around us have all the good qualities, and like you said, the grass is greener. The problem is, the grass isn't greener. This is why most move-in unwed couples are on their 5 or 6th relationship, because each time they get into a new field, it turns dark and brown, and suddenly the next field is greener. If you are not married, I'd suggest you move out, stay single, and remain that way until you choose to pick someone and stay with them. If you are married, you should stay with whomever you are with, and realize you will feel exactly the same as you do now, with someone else.