Love is an act of endless forgiveness,
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
Malaysia
July 11, 2009 2:37pm CST
what do you think of this ... i believe it is very tru .. i experienced it myself. there were times when i was with my husband then boyfriend for 14 years, we had arguments and disagreements over our individuality .. we fought like cats .. we still have scratch marks on us. my husband has a broken rib ..
but we forgave along the way .. as we believe what ever angered us during those times has its reasons ... Now we are happily married and we do have misunderstandings but it is forgiven and forgotten ..
what do you think
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11 responses
@bargainbaby (29)
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12 Jul 09
Although I believe that you should forgive, especially a spouse every time you are hurt there is something about the comment that just doesn't sit right with me.
There is something similar to that sentence that I have heard before that I agree with. It went something like this. I know that my spouse loves me so I will always assume that whatever happened he/she meant no harm. I like this because it is always a positive thing. Maybe that is why I don't like the love is an act of endless forgiveness because it seems really daunting and it sounds like that is all that you will be doing.
Personally for my relationship Love has made two people become one. I can honestly say that we don't fight, we don't yell, we may disagree but I can think of very few times when we have had to forgive each other.
Go ahead and believe I am naive, but I am telling you that the love that I share is about as close to ideal as I can think of.
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
12 Jul 09
hi bargain ..
congratulations on your nearly perfect partnership ..
i can only add 1 thing to you .. be coutious as we can only feel our heart and control our thoughts .. the other part is still the other part .. there is no way 2 can become 1 but alot of ways a 1 can be 2
mathematically derived .. 1.5 ~ 1.9 is still 2 but 2.0 can never close to 1.
I remember my mother kidding about this thing called love once she said "Just because you feel that you are 1 - only 1 person eathing does not mean you can survive" or something like that
the actual thing she wanted to say was - we are 2 different individual - living and eating for our own self ...
Sorry if i offended you in anyways ... but it is the truth
cheers
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
13 Jul 09
hi bargain
" Love is my commitment to your success despite the cost to me " - agree on this but, how sure are you the other party has the same feeling - remember they only say what we want to hear .. not what their heart says most times ..
Just to share a gossip :
Mel Gibson and wife Robyn divorcing after 28 years of marriage. The Gibsons have seven children together. So how did Oksana Grigorieva, 39 come about - For goodness she was only 11 years old when Mel and Robyn started their life together. Robyn was there all through out his journey to success and now you have a new girl to play with
I dont say there is no tru love but being coutious in your relationship does not hurt anyone
cheers
@bargainbaby (29)
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12 Jul 09
You definitely didn't offend me. It was a very intriguing comment. My whole philosophy though is that marriage is meant to take two people and have them become one. But here is another definition of love for you...tell me what you think. Love is my commitment to your success despite the cost to me. Maybe I should start a discussion...but to tell you the truth I am brand new to this thing and still haven't figured it out.:)
@koalapenguin (2707)
• Philippines
12 Jul 09
I agree with your statement. Forgiving is like understanding. For us to have a good, though not perfect love life, each of us are entitled to love and understand each other.Ü
@friendship4lyfe (520)
• Saint Lucia
11 Jul 09
I think that is true but physical fighting isnt acceptable in my relationship.Love is about forgiving and putting things in the past.I know that there are some who thinks its true love i dont.
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
1 Aug 09
dont worry we beat each other .. and he has more control of his temper than me
@tony_terance (219)
• India
11 Jul 09
may be your points are true .....but love is more depends on emotions which affects our character.
@tosatyamishra (59)
• India
11 Jul 09
parents have given us good education to find solutions for our difficulties. it is not for unnecessary arguments. in case of husband and wife if both don't thing in a same way or dose not find solution together then there is something wrong with the problem. it is easy to create problems but it gives a best experience when the solution has come out form the mind of both. never think as an individual. think as together. forgiveness should be there.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
12 Jul 09
Hi Anjana!
You have a point to make and I believe that your past experience has made you much more wiser. Yes, I buy your argument that if you forgiveness towards your partner and forget the trivial fights/arguments between both of you, you can go a long way. Life is all about forgiving others and keeping aside our egos. The moment, we keep aside our ego, we surrender ourselves to the other partner and he/she feels happy that we have surrendered and s/he has won. But surrendering does not mean that you have lost the battle, in fact you have won it by becoming more wiser.
Good Post!
@rockydam83 (846)
• Italy
1 Aug 09
I agree that is a true spirit of love. Now a days everyone is looking for perfect partner and we all know no one is 100% perfect in this world soo i think we should realize that whoever will be our partner we have to accept him with good and bad things. I ham happy that you have chosen the right way.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
11 Jul 09
yes sanjana, forgiving is the best giving in life and this is applicable to love and marriage too.
You may find my blog relevant to this topic, here is the link:
http://vijayanths.blogspot.com/2009/01/forgiving-is-best-giving.html
@Sylvia00167599685AG (75)
• China
12 Jul 09
Yes, I can not agree more with you.Several days ago, I also argued with my boyfriend. We have not talk with each other for almost ten days. I was very angry, becaust he quarrel with me during my examination.For ten days, my heart can not calm down, or even I could not concentrated on the praparation of the fianl examinatiom.At that time, I even hate him,becaust I thought that it was him who influenced my mood to study and I forgot the reasons why we would quarrel.After one day or two days thinking, I fianlly calm mysely down.To my surprise, my boyfriend also sent message to say sorry to me and explain why he was also so angry with me.Almost at the same time,I also want to sent message to say sorry to him and explain the reasons.Yes, many times, lovers need to put himself or herself in the other's place whenever quarrel.Only in this way, can you settle the problem smoothly.Otherwise, the quarrel will develop even worse or develop into break up.
