Do you believe such thing as romance ?

India
July 12, 2009 9:12am CST
The women are almost always complaining that their men are not romantic enough. So whats your idea of romance ? Is it the sweet nothings ? Or getting all gooey ? Or may be just some chocolates or roses ? Do you really care about the small things or believe in just the substance ? Do you believe in such thing as romance? Is there romance in this life? Or is romance just plain lust? Do you crave for romance? Will it ensure a marriage that will last forever? I know these are a lot of questions but believe me they will tell a lot about relationships.
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@iriscot (1290)
• United States
12 Jul 09
Men, if you want to have a great time in bed with your wife, you better use a little romance. Why didn't we learn that earlier? Take her out for a nice dinner, then to a romantic movie, and don't forget to cuddle up or hold her hand during the romantic parts of the show. You might even take her to a nice downtown bar for a nightcap before rushing home and jumping in bed. Just a lesson that I learned, but a little late. Always give her a kiss and tell her that you love her before going to sleep.
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• United States
13 Jul 09
Amen!
@frinces (419)
• Philippines
13 Jul 09
It is heart-touching. Love lots, Iriscot!
@iriscot (1290)
• United States
13 Jul 09
Thank you, believe me Men, it works!!!
• India
13 Jul 09
Romance is real if you want it to be.just like "true love".No on knows exactly what "true love" is, because there isn't such a think.We've just made it up.So, if you want romance to be real,then it is.
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• China
13 Jul 09
As a girl, I also crave for roamance and I like romance.I have been going out with my boyfriend for almost three years.At first, in order to make me happy or something.My boyfreind gives me a lot of surpriese and made me moved,such as he worked overnight to make a picture of LOVE which is made of light sticks at the night Valentine's Day.In daily life,he is always very considerate,such as he always walk around my left and right side in order to protect me from the danger of traffic.When I knew his purpose,I was moved deeply.I think romance do not need very expensive gifts or other sustance.Many times,a little love act or you two get on well with each other is very romantic. As to marriage, I think romance is a little hard to maintain,becaust we have to take care of our children sometimes include our parents.Maybe at that time,we do not have the time and enthusiasm to pursue ramance.But,what is romance has different meaning to different people.Perhaps, we need to find out what is romance in our life.
• Philippines
13 Jul 09
I believe romance adds spice to every relationship and i think it's necessary. Everyone wants to feel special by receiving something from a loved one like chocolates and roses. I care for both substance and small things. Writing a short poetry or giving sweet small gifts won't be such a bad idea.. Yes i do crave for romance especially when i feel depressed. ROMANCE IS LOVE. Ü
• China
13 Jul 09
the most romantic i can think is an old couple walk in the road hand in hand.
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• United States
13 Jul 09
I personally believe that romance comes in two forms: serious and silly. Most people don't find pet names and "mushy" talk romantic, but this is how my husband and I communicate very often, and I do. I find it romantic when my husband says "I love you" even in the weirdest situations. Sometimes we'll be doing something separately and he'll just look at me and say it. It lets me know he was thinking it beforehand without me having to make him. ;) Romance isn't lust. If it were lust, I wouldn't have a husband. I've had men lust after me before. If love weren't so special to me, I wouldn't have gotten married. If I were like a lot of people, I would have stayed single and enjoyed being intimate with every guy who thought I was pretty. If the romance isn't taken care of, it may not ensure the relationship's long length because it fades. My husband and I keep romance in our everyday lives--it's what comes first, before everything else. We work hard at it, and I would never leave him if the romance began to be non-existent. I don't believe in divorce because I think wedding vows mean something, so we'd work it out. Romance is very important to a relationship, but sometimes you need to work at getting it. :)
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• United States
13 Jul 09
I do believe in romance, but I think the romance in the movies is unrealistic. You don't need rose petals and poems to be romantic. There are all sorts of little ways to show people you care. I think romance is more for the dating stage of a relationship. Once you get married and settle into things, it's an entirely different dynamic. I believe they call it "comfortable love" or something. Marriage has to be built on something deeper than romance, but it sure doesn't hurt to have it around every once in awhile.
• United States
13 Jul 09
For me, it's not about what is done, its about the thought and feelings behind it. Bringing me chocolates and flowers at work, just so you can get something later, is not romance. Sneaking out to Kroger while I'm taking a nap to buy me flowers for the anniversary of the day we got engaged, just cause you knew it would make me smile? That's romantic. It's about gestures of love and caring, showing someone that you want them to be happy. That's what matters, and yes, that will certainly help a marriage last. I don't believe that it's called "romance" when done just for the sake of romance, or for getting something out of it. There's a difference between artificial gestures and real ones, and the difference is the emotion behind it. It doesn't matter whether the gesture is small or not, though some times it's the small, out of the blue gestures that matter the most. Some men can't make any gesture at all, and some have weird ways of doing it. If you can't find it, then its up to the woman whether or not that's okay with her. I was fortunate enough to marry a very romantic soul, who relishes every moment he can to show me how he feels.
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• China
13 Jul 09
I just believe every seconds with him is romantic moment, no matter what we'll do, just be together.
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@janebeth (2033)
• Philippines
13 Jul 09
romance somehow is sharing your deep feelings to your partner, we girls really love guys that are sweet. with that kind of chocolate, roses and etc...!! so sweet..!!
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@x_Jo_x (1041)
12 Jul 09
To me romance is just being there for each other mainly. The little small things that make you know that they actually thought about it, as long as they try and come up with something half decent then im happy. Something simple is sometimes better, i dont need anything too fancy.
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@phyrre (2321)
• United States
12 Jul 09
I do believe in romance. To me, romance consists of a lot of things. It's really the little things that he does to let you know that he loves you. It's the way my husband looks at me or how he'll bring me home chocolate milk if he thinks I've had a long day. It's the way that I'll go bring him lunch at work or buy him a mountain dew and bring it to him if he's having a bad day. It's the lying in bed or sitting on the couch just cuddling and talking after having a rather long week and finally getting even half an hour to spend together and catch up on everything. Of course, romance is different to every person. What I find romantic isn't necessarily romantic for everyone. And romance in itself will never ensure that a marriage will last. On top of romance there needs to be love, trust, and communication, in the very least, for any relationship to last. Doesn't matter how much romance there is if there's no trust or love.
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@phayeth (519)
• Philippines
12 Aug 09
well i do believe in romance.. co'z if theres no romance theres no love
• Indonesia
12 Oct 09
hahaha.. i agree about that.
• Indonesia
12 Oct 09
yes, i do... if you don't trust about romance, maybe you can't apreciate your girl.