RIP RIP RIP... what do you all take this to mean EXACTLY?

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So I have been seeing this a lot lately - in light of the fact that several well known people have died in the last few weeks. I hope this doesn't sound classless to ask exactly why you all say it. I know that if you lose someone close to you, a family member or a friend - that while you want nothing to mar your memory of them, it doesn't mean you want people to STOP TALKING ABOUT THEM. In fact, it irritates me if people suddenly decide to not discuss the person who died at all, as if not talking about them will remove the elephant from the room. Yes people are sad. Yes people all grieve in their own way. Some people may even be relieved. It doesn't mean that after all that, the person should cease to exist even though they died. Now my personal take on this though doesn't mean that we should just say whatever comes to mind though, when someone is gone, they are gone from this place, gone from where we can reach them. I don't know if that means they have no idea of what's happening here though, and that's why I brought this up. It's kind of sick to consider that someone who has passed on has a clear view of people rioting, fighting, arguing, smearing their name(s) after they are gone, just as sad as it must be if they are gone and nobody says another word about them, as if they never existed. What's your take? When someone is gone do you still talk about them as if they were here, so you keep them 'alive' in the future? Do you share your memories of them with people who never met them so they can live on that way? Or do you commit them to memory and end it there, taking 'RIP' to mean they were here but now they aren't, and that's the end of it? Or do you go further and blast and attack them for any perceived wrongdoing that occurred in their life, such as drinking or drugs, affairs, mental issues, suicide? Does it depend on your/their involvement or influence within each other's lives?