A relationship i do not think.......

I think one solution for him to listen is that you should reprimand him. It's no use for you to give hints about the problem. Seems like he just does not deal with the fact that your relationship with him is disastrous and not working out. Maybe he just does not want to discuss things with you because he was afraid he might lose you in the end. Well, you could just threaten him that you're gonna leave him if it does not straighten up. If you are not happy with the relationship, I think it's about time that you should tell him how you feel about it and that if he does not do his job as a husband, then you better get rid of him. Marriage takes two to tango and it should be a commitment that both of you would work things out no matter what. Ending the relationship could be harsh and dreadful. I would not want that to happen to me. Since marriage is supposed to be a sacrament. Then before jumping into the idea of splitting up, I think you should give yourselves another shut. If it does not really work, then it's about time that you should call it quits.

I think you two need to open up each other. You need to have time to talk to solve whatever problem you have. If you both unhappy, im sure there is a reason why. But im sure you still lvoe each other. Im going to share my experience with you. I and my hubby sometimes had a problems in money and everytime we going to quarell about it, it makes me feel unhappy for what's happening but we still love each other and that's the important,we are still happy with each other. Hope you will settle what ever problem you have. Cheers.

everyone is different, some people will want to resolve issues and others will want to ignore them or leave them.if your both not happy then maybe you should both move on, life to short to be wasting it with someone you dont want to be with.

Well, i have an idea Write in a letter addressed towards him putting all your thoughts and feelings about him. Place it in an envelope addressed to him. He definitely will pay attention. THe concept is: You are so busy i had to communicate with you through a freaking letter! goodluck!

same or diferent will get relation,so you need to be same or diferent. life is processing or goal,someone say yes ,someone say no. i feel life is feeling,luky feel good than unlucky,that is all

I think in such a situation you have three ways to go: - Wait ( Which is, I think, what you've done in the past. Sometimes things work out better if you're not forcing them, sometimes not) - Change it in a nice way ( try to force him into a discussion - try to somehow find a time where you both are relaxed and not occupied again too soon, as people can make decisions they do not really want to make when stressed. also, maybe he avoided talking to you because he's frightened for some reason. try to give him the impression that - no matter what the two of you are going to find out while talking - everything will stay alright.) - Change it the hard way ( get rid of him. if he's not willing to listen to you, then you cannot mean that much to him and thus you should give another one the chance;) )

Well because we do not know your husband it is difficult to give you an exact answer but I can relate my experience. I was with my first wife for 37 years. Countless times she would tell me that she wasn't happy about this or that and even though I knew something needed to change I could never hear what. At that time I felt the problem was lop-sided. I was happy, mostly, she was not so I had no clue what needed to change. Well I know now that I did not give her the attention she needed. Even then I am not sure it would have helped to know that. There were many issues on both sides that caused her to look for comfort elsewhere. So we divorced. You say you are leaving plenty of hints. Men do not respond well to hints as we do not know how to interpret them. We often feel that we could never understand or that we don't have that problem so what can we do. What you need to do is try your very best to get him to a marriage counselor. You may have tried that and already know that will not be easy. Men often view that as the last resort....a kind of failure if you will....so they will not do it. But you both need a third party to translate. I would be very surprised if he had any clue that you are thinking your best option would be to break up. If he does know that and still does nothing then perhaps you are right. Don't let him off the hook because that is exactly what he take if you let him. Tell him just like it is and do not make it sound good. He needs to be woke up and that is the only way. You are very right in that a good marriage is one where there should be nothing you can't discuss. To be married to your best friend is a wonderfull thing. Please do not put this off because in time you will loose all love that you have for him and there will be nothing more to do. Wake him up now before it is too late.

Well life is to short to be unhappy, sometimes relationships just run their course, everyone wants the forever thing but sometimes it just doesn't last that long, people change and life experiences can change a relationship. It doesn't mean you have failed, people just get bored alot easier and they always want something more. Thats my outlook on it.

you know, life is full of happiness, sadness and things that would complicate you as a person. but if there's one person who could choose what's best for you, it is YOU. If your not happy, why your still there? c'mon move! life is too short to waste to all the problems you encounter in life. love deeply, be happy, be contented, be young, be pretty/handsome, be intelligent. there are lots of things to do, spend every breath you have with a meaningful life, not to someone who doesn't care...

Many old people say that marriage life is a crucified life..because when you're married, there will be more responsibilities that you must do... its also the same when you're in a relationship, you must be considerate for each other..you must understand what your partner feels, you need to give in or give way sometimes to things that they like...coz, you're no longer single that you only think about yourself...

Hi jugsjugs, So sorry to hear about your relationship. Maybe you should give it some time though and try to get him to communicate. If he still won't and you're still unhappy then maybe it's time to end things

I'd say stop giving hints and go straight to the point. No point of giving hints anymore since it is not working. Either one of you need to start talking to sort this out. It's not always we find the love of our life. You have found yours so dont let it go to waste. Try to salvage whatever is left between the two of you and never give up too easily. Things might have turn sour, but, try to sweeten it back. Only when you think there is really no hope, then should you think of a way out. But now, I'll recommend for both of you to patch things up. It's a waste to let it go just like that... good luck.

I think you're right. I believe that if you're married, your partner should not only be your husband/wife, but also your friend and family. I am not married, but I am engaged, and my fiance is by far my best friend. We talk about everything. Sometimes that's not a good thing, because we tend to stay in our house a lot instead of going out with friends, because I love just hanging out with her. We don't even have to be doing anything, we can just watch TV and be silly together and cook together, and it's just always fun. I would suggest talking to your husband about how you feel. Maybe he feels the same way but doesn't know how to change things. If nothing else, if it can't be fixed, at least by asking you'll get it out in the open instead of hiding how you feel all the time.