arguement between friends

savypat

@savypat (20216)

• United States

14 Jul 09

It has been my experience that trying to alter another's course in this life is a exercise in frustration. Particularly an addict. Until your friend asks for help your friendship is going to be rocky.

@HelScream (2822)

• Philippines

15 Jul 09

You are right about that my friend, but I do believe it would strengthen our friendship , having a single friend is already a responsibility one must undergo and in any means i am willing to go through rough road with him just to make his life worth living for. thanks

@HelScream (2822)

• Philippines

14 Jul 09

As a friend I think telling him this would be proper since I dont want them to ruin there life and see them go down because of this things... I know he is mad at me as of now for stopping him but one of this days he would realize that there is more to life than destroying it...

sarahruthbeth22

@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)

• United States

14 Jul 09

I am sorry about your friend.If he is really an addict ,he won't listen to you until he is ready to change.When I argue with my dear friend it isn't about something as serious. Usually it is because a break down in communication.We usually can fix it up quickly and are closer than we were before.

sarahruthbeth22

@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)

• United States

15 Jul 09

No, you shouldn't remain silent but you shouldn't argue either.Just say your peace and let it go.Either they will hear you are they won't.At least you said your piece.

darksorrow

@darksorrow (4666)

• Bangladesh

15 Jul 09

@helscream, Can you please tell me what you actually did. Did you argue with your friend or just remained silent?

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@HelScream (2822)

• Philippines

14 Jul 09

well I wont really have any arguments with any of my friends if I just let them be with there thing but that would make me a hypocrite calling myself there friends and not doing what a friend should do.... thats why I rather argue with them than to pretend nothing is wrong

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Poison_Girl

@Poison_Girl (4150)

• United States

15 Jul 09

Well, there's nothing wrong with worrying about your friend. There's even nothing wrong with showing concern. However, I think HOW you said it might have been a little harsh. It kind of sounded a little judgmental. When one thinks a friend is judging him, one tends to get a little irritated and might even get a little defensive. You weren't wrong in voicing your concern, but I think you might have been able to say it a little better. Know what I mean?

darksorrow

@darksorrow (4666)

• Bangladesh

15 Jul 09

Did he realize his faults? What was the outcome? Is he still taking it or stopped taking it?

@HelScream (2822)

• Philippines

15 Jul 09

in a way your right but the heated conversation between us was way to much to handle i keep myself calm at first then he said he would stop then I just let him be for now and let him realize those things ....

commanderxo

@commanderxo (1494)

• Canada

14 Jul 09

You are correct in the fact, that your friend smoking "maryjane", won't solve their problems, but you'll never be able to convince them to quit, until THEY are ready to, or really want to. THAT my, friend is more than likely, an impossibility. It's unfortunate, but some people seem to like learning the hard way, and wind up doing more damage to themselves than need be. You are a good friend. Perhaps some day, they'll understand that. In the meantime, just stay close to them, and be there for them. This is your only role. Good luck to both of you. cdrxo

@HelScream (2822)

• Philippines

14 Jul 09

I dont know if I would be able to tolerate someone taking it my friend I just hate persons who are not man enough to face there problems be there yes but being close to them I think I will have to pass on that one at least if he treats me as a real friend then he would take heed to what I say. I already told him this and he said he would stop but would take it occasionally I just dont know how often that occasionally means

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commanderxo

@commanderxo (1494)

• Canada

16 Jul 09

If he took heed to HIMSELF, then he would take heed to your words. Until then, there isn't much you can do. cdrxo

jshekhar

@jshekhar (1562)

• India

14 Jul 09

I have a very small group of individuals whom I really refer as "friends" and I can say them anything i want, be it good or bad, on their face. They are mature enough to ponder about it with a cool head rather than start arguing straightaway. I do not even try to suggest something to an individual whom I don't consider as my "friend" because they might take it the other way and create a scene out of nowhere.

@HelScream (2822)

• Philippines

14 Jul 09

Well the advantage I have of being far from this friend is good at least he wont make scene all he could do is turn of all communication thats all well I can leave with that for now I choose to ignore him and let him be

edmltw

@edmltw (287)

• Singapore

14 Jul 09

Argument is a way of showing concern to a friend. When you bother to argue, it means you bother about your friend. Hopefully the conflict resolves soon.

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darksorrow

@darksorrow (4666)

• Bangladesh

15 Jul 09

WoW. You are ready to break friendship with him. VERY VERY VERY STRONG friendship you have with your friend. I really appreciate it.

@HelScream (2822)

• Philippines

14 Jul 09

i really dont care if the conflict wont resolve as long as he would stop taking it I mean totally stop taking it he can forget the friendship as long as he would love himself first and be mature enough not to take it anymore.

ckyera

@ckyera (17332)

• Philippines

15 Jul 09

i think you just do a right thing and for me you are a real friend! well all i can say is try to talk to him again when he is not under the influence and try to talk to him nicely and if you can don't use the term addict on him coz people like them will not accept that...they don't think that way... talk to him in a diplomatic way and if he still don't listen to you, don't lose hope and if possible tell it to his parents...i think you have done your part as a friend...

jayrene

@jayrene (2708)

• Philippines

14 Jul 09

what you did was right and shows that you are a real friend because you are showing concern to him even though you know it will cause an argument between you and your friend. some people will really take it against us if we tell them that they are doing something wrong, but in the end they will realize that we are right. i say, just keep on giving advise to your friend, even though at times he will resent you for it because he needs it more than if ignore him and just let him do what he is doing wrong.

@HelScream (2822)

• Philippines

14 Jul 09

sometimes a friend will have to stop if one those not listen to your advice and just let the person be for the more you argue with that person the more he would be encourage to take it but if you let them be they would realize that" why dose my friend take our friendship at risk to stop me from taking it" they would think this way then realize maybe just maybe ..... thats why I choose to ignore him coz I only say once after that it would be his choice....

candy2306

@candy2306 (576)

• India

14 Jul 09

You did the right thing. At that point of time whatever you say will be against him only. You don't lose hope, keep talking to him and tell him that he is on the wrong direction. You're his friend and you can't bear looking at him like this!

@HelScream (2822)

• Philippines

14 Jul 09

yes that too my friend everything I say seems to be wrong and wont get trough him so what i did is just give it a break then keep silent... at least it wont be on my conscience anymore that I did not do anything about that....just plane immature stuff..

bookfreak24

@bookfreak24 (88)

• India

14 Jul 09

You did the right thing...it would have been easy for you to watch him spoil his life takeing that nast stuff but you took the hard way and tried to talk him out of it.That is commendable.You are a true friend. :]

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