July 14, 2009 10:29am CST
Do you think that it is worth to love somebody before marriage. I have seen many people love for years and either the girl or boy will starts to love somebody else. Later he or she marry somebody else outside their love. I think this is all a time pass and seeing no virtue in it. What about you
15 Jul 09
i think everyone deserves to be in love and be loved in return... married or unmarried couples should loved each other. it's a must in a serious romantic relationship. there are valid reasons to why couples tend to have divorced and it is not an issue to whoever loves most or loves less... it's just a matter to how people tend to give up or fight back to the different circumstances that happens
14 Jul 09
Um, I think we they love each other, they are going together. When love is gone (even only one part of them do not love other another one anymore, the love is ended between them), they break up. This happens no matter when they are in a marriage or not. And this is reasonable. Love comes and love can also go. That is it. You have to get to know it and accecpt it. The key is that you need to keep your heart on ONLY ONE about your love at ONE time, if not, I think it is immoral and can not be forgiven. And I'd say the love's appearance only because of "time pass" is very pitiful. In reality, I think lovers' breaking up may be attributed many mixed facters, not jut "time pass", usually. Hard to know the truth under the surface.
14 Jul 09
Totally agreed that love and marriage is a commitment but requires a lot of effort from both parties to make it work. Falling in love is easy but staying in love is hard work. It requires undertanding, tolerance, trust, selflessness and sacrifice above all.
14 Jul 09
Love or Marraige... both require commitment, I have seen people being married for a long time getting divorced too. Love is the same love that we have for mother, for father, for brother, for sister there is nothing wrong in Love, its the commitment that makes the difference. I have seen people being committed but not happy in a marraige too... just because they do not fall out it does not mean that they want to be in the same relation deep inside. Over the period of time things change for good or bad but it does change for sure. What you are talking about is called Attraction or Infatuation, which only lasts for few days. Like explained by Adam Smith, the father of economics, Every additional value added diminishes the demand for that value. Marraige or Love is the most challenging relationship of all, being mother, father, sister or brother is one thing and being a lover or husband or wife is quite another. In love people need to make sacrifices and expect sacrifices too, failing to understand this rule may lead to a fall out.