"If you really love someone, let them go" is it really true?

@Nir360 (139)
Israel
July 14, 2009 5:26pm CST
I guess i'm trying this thing now. i'm wondering what was your experience and did it work for anyone?
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14 responses
• Philippines
16 Jul 09
No, I do not believe on that...But, It still depends on the situation... If He still loves me, then I win fight for him...But If he is already the one asking me to let him go, then that is the time I will give up.
@Nir360 (139)
• Israel
17 Jul 09
But maybe he doesn't know what he's losing and he needs time to realize it and then he will come back to you
• Philippines
17 Jul 09
Then, he should suffer the consequences of his action... He should realized that earlier.
@abby01 (65)
• United States
14 Jul 09
I think it just depends on the situation. But alot of people say seeing your love one happy, will make you happy.
@Nir360 (139)
• Israel
16 Jul 09
Yea it will make you happy in a way.. but i think it will make you think: what about me? doesn't she want me to be happy too? what if i'm not or won't be happy?
• China
16 Jul 09
I don't think it's ture or it's easy
• Philippines
14 Jul 09
well someone tried that and he did regretted it...I'm married now but he still wanted me back...
• Philippines
14 Jul 09
i agree with pbrockington...Fight for that someone you love...But if the feelings not mutual, if she doesnt want you to fight for her, then let it go..it's not worth it...
@Nir360 (139)
• Israel
16 Jul 09
So you didn't really love that one who wanted you?
@jaiho2009 (38988)
• Philippines
15 Jul 09
i haven't experienced like this my friend,but,if u ask me about my opinion,well,yes i will let go.If after all the efforts and best i can do i can't let him stay with me or love me,then,i will let him go and find his true love.I would rather set him free rather than loving him but i know he loves someone.It's a matter of loving him and self respect. Besides,how can i be so happy seeing him sad and longing for someone else.
@Nir360 (139)
• Israel
16 Jul 09
I see.. i'm still wondering.. is there anyone who tried it and it worked for them? if so, how long you been waiting for it?
@nigarish (70)
• India
15 Jul 09
now you are on the right way dear.....wondering is the best part of love life...if you really love some than you know the advantages and disadvantages of being with them......so you know what is right and what is wrong and you work according to those circumstances..if you think that this could be the best way than just follow the heart and do whats is the need of time..
@Nir360 (139)
• Israel
16 Jul 09
I am ready to wait as much as needed.. so that there might be a better situation in the future and a better option to be together but i don't know.. i'm still a lot about this whole thing..
@stealthy (8188)
• United States
14 Jul 09
The only experience I have had with it was when I did it and have regretted it ever since. I firmly believe that we both would have been better off in the long run if I had been more persistant and tried harder to hang on to her rather than following that old adage when she broke up with me.
@Nir360 (139)
• Israel
16 Jul 09
So what you're saying is that you have a bad experience with that? but what else could you do? if it doesn't work right now and you still feel it could be working.. what to do?
• United States
14 Jul 09
ok this phrase is miss leading. If you really love someone, then let them go and if it was ment they will return. Look if you love a person you fight for what you belive you have. If the person dose not feel the same as you do then you should let them go because you would be living a lie. The part about "let them go" mean that you love them enough to allow the3m to be happy in what ever choice they are free to make. so this phrase is real but you have to understand what it really saying. I mean... you have to love them so much that you put them first.
@Nir360 (139)
• Israel
16 Jul 09
Well i do love her.. that's why i decided to do that. it's really strange for me cos i'm not used to it and yea i'm hoping she will be happy with whatever she does, i'm just hoping she won't get hurt or anything..
@phayeth (519)
• Philippines
15 Jul 09
yes it is true... co'z if u love someone u need to learn to let them go when u can feel that his not happy being with u anymore..
@Tayudo (115)
• Peru
15 Jul 09
I think that's is true, if he or she is you love, come back .
@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
15 Jul 09
I've never experienced it before, but I can tell you that it's true. This happens when someone is on the verge of a break up - going separate ways. One refuses to let go of the other as the other is ready to leave. By not letting the other person leave, you're being very selfish as you are only concerned about your emotions. This is not what love is about. She (I'm not gender-biased) wants to leave, let her. You could at least still be best friends though living miles apart, and one day, you might be together again. Love is not only about mutual affection between two humans. It entails sharing happiness together; it's about sharing responsibilities and making decisions that create happiness for both of you. A break up is not a joyful occasion, but if you really love your partner, then you need to let her go so that she's happy about it, and you can be happy too since you could still see her. I wonder if I make sense :)
• China
15 Jul 09
It is really a sad decision and need courage...But some times there is no other choice except let it go.. better for both.. I just break up with a man. Before the last moment, I felt living without him would be very very terrible, but after it, I just feel so good, cos my heart can live in peace now, no suffer anymore, I can breath feel free, relieve
@eLsMarie (4348)
• Philippines
15 Jul 09
well that is if your love is no longer happy bein' with you or if she wants you to set her free... you can't do nothing about it, you'll just keep fooling yourself that she loves you and aside from that she'll only be prolonging the agony if she'll continue your relationship... let her go boy... :) fortunate for me that i haven't experienced it.
@zed_k4 (17624)
• Singapore
14 Jul 09
I believe this is true. But in some cases, sometimes love is selfish too and we can see some people making hasty decisions in times of panic and need. Like losing someone through a deadly illness, watching them wilting away, the heart feels burdened to let go. And wishing for that love one to survive and even to a point where the love one itself confesses to slowly let go mentally, but with refusal of the mind of the healthy one. I feel that love is priceless and to have come to chance upon it is just a lifetime opportunity. I have known what love is like, feels like and to have it taken away too. I still miss this particular someone but I know that I can never be with her again. Love can be any types of love, it can be love for a parent, love for a friend, a love one and many more. And when love needs sacrifice, there's no other decision except to abide by it. Good discussion here, thanks for sharing, Nir..
@esp2_mayn (135)
• Malaysia
14 Jul 09
Definitely very true....what good in unrequited love? And what good is forcing them to stay? It is painful but yes.....time does heal.