what do you think of having a wife? that has much higher salary than you!

Hi, Scooby! Especially in the current economy, with so many problems for everyone concerning jobs and money, this is bound to happen to a lot of couples. I've always made a lot more money than my husband, and he's proud of me and the work I do. Maybe it's a cultural difference, but not too many men are concerned about such things any longer. Neither a man's pride nor his masculinity is at question just because of inequality in earnings. We think of all we have as ours, not any yours or mine, and our relationship is based on equality. If it's that important to you, then surely, you'll find a way to increase your income. Until then, remember that your wife isn't in the relationship for money!

While I understand what you are saying- its important to realize that this is 2009 and times have changed. Women have just as much earning power as men if not more. It would also be important to consider- was she making this much money before you were married- because if so- you knew it when you married her and it isn't right to hold it against her now. I know this may sound harsh- but you need to get over it and remember that when you marry someone you join lives (that includes everything, including money). So in short at this point it shoudl n't be her money and your money- it should be 'our' money. Good luck and I hope this helps! Happy mylotting

This qustion does not surprise me at all, coz that's also quite a dangerous line to walk here, but i m guessing you are sort of migrated oriental person living there.Before i was holding the same grudge, but my friend's live example reshaped my view towards this. His girlfriend is earning almost doulbe as he's earning, but he is not supposedly to behave week to feel protected by his girlfriend.they put the salary together as collective money.but anyway they are planning to get married. that dounts haunted me before and i couldnt help asking, do you feel anything different to be with her? His answer cooled me down, 'What's the big deal, we are working together for the same goal,i m working hard as well, in a way that helps relieve my burden so far'. for me, i think, How do we get along with the other part comes more from the personalities of the each other and how we direct ourselves in pespecting it than the salary difference.

oh my god that would be awesome ha ha ha sat at home not having to earn anything sounds like heaven lol, seriously though it should never be a competition between the couple, its the 21st century the old fashioned roles should no longer exist where the female needs to look after the house and kids and the man needs to earn. Thats an old fashioned view on the roles in couples, who cares who earns and who stays at home with the kids its the 21 st century

As a married couple, it is never a competition about who gets the highest pay or what, or who is dominant or what. My parents had the same thing as what you've experienced and they never argued about that issue since that higher salary will help you pay your bills. You have to settle for that than having nothing at all, right? I know that it can be so demeaning on a man's part because men have been labeled as the bread winner of the family. The problem is not with your wife, but maybe with you who cannot seem to accept that. Men as the bread winner of the family is no longer the case now because women are also entitled to the same right too. People have always considered that women are the weaker ones, but it does not mean that we should not be given the opportunity to become the breadwinner of the family. In the new generation, we are considered as equals. I guess, you should just live with it and settle the case with your wife. Usually the big problem encountered by married individuals is about the issue on money. When you have nothing, there would be more trouble in the household. So, you better stick with that than lose everything (your wife and her earnings)which helps your family to pay the bills.

This would lead to another question: "What do you think of having a wife who has a higher qualification than you?" For both questions, my response is - there's nothing to think about because to me, it's normal. If you're not ready to have a spouse who earns more than you, or is better qualified than you, then why marry her in the first place? My wife earns more than me, she's gonna have her Ph.D, while I'm still with a B.Ed. So, what? She's my wife, it won't hurt me if she's intellectually better than I am. In fact it's better for the whole family. You see... it's all in the mind. It also has something to do with ego and stereotypical mindsets that women cannot be more superior than men. I think it's time we stop being stereotyped. Times have changed, we need to change our mindset too - if possible. It will take time.

My salary is bigger from my husband. His reaction is odd because he thinks his dignity is hurt by my earning. I don't understand with him since my earning is because of my work not because of his dignity. Now, I try hard to make him understand that his role in the family is not a matter of having a bigger earning than mine... the most important is how to sustain the family. So, my message is to every husband who has lower salary than his wife.. please realize that his wife's earning is not meant to hurt his dignity. There are many ways to show your dignity as a husband such as helping your wife to take care children, cooking, cleaning the house, etc.