how to set goals for our kids

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There is nothing like goal. He wo created this universe does not have any goal, he is just acting with the knoledge of what he is doing. So there is no question that what should be future goal for your little ones. Do not think of future of your children. This is the habit which spoils present of any one. Expectations out of any one from future is dengerous. it deprives you from your act. And make you expactant. So never set any goal for your little ones, only preach them that Knowledge and act are superior and always do something with knoledge of act and there will not be looking for future at all. All the best.

i will educate them well and i always keep track on their activities and i will create a good base ment of their thoughts which will give better way to their future.

I think you should just have them set the goals for themselves

I congratulate myself for paying attention to this discussion. All the above answers are excellent and of great importance for someone that, like myself, is raising a kid.

future of a child is the dreamof a parent. generally, parents gets more focussed on to their own choices than the taste of the child. i have written a book on this subject titled - learn english through memory link method - in which i have raised this topic - emancipation of a child - empowering a child - that is to say that a child needs to guided and parent to play the role of a friend rathan than an administrator. i am trying to copy this one file on emancipation of a child for your benefit - let us see whether this space will accommodate the same Human development: We all are human beings driven by destiny. Depending on destiny alone will not help us to achieve desired goals in life. We have to be focused on our conduct and plan well to achieve economic strength to live respectfully in the society. We do not know the exact date of human evolution. The theory of big bang makes scientists estimate formation of solar system itself thousands of billions of years. After that earth was formed and earth was uninhabitable for millions of years and there was no vegetation on the earth. Subsequently, human evolution occurred. Humans initially struggled for survival because they were not aware of handling various resources that were made available to them by the nature. Slowly, need of the hour made humans to ’THINK’ better ways of using the resources and create better living conditions. THINK: Now the word ‘think’ has been used over here in the above paragraph. The word ‘think’ makes us think that we have a faculty to think. This faculty is nothing but ‘THE BRAIN’. The brain is made up of approximately 12 to 13 billion cells. As per the estimate by learned scientists on an average a human uses about 10 per cent of the brain’s capacity. It means, when we die we leave behind approximately 10 to 11 billion cells in ‘the brain’ unutilized. We can surmise from the above that though we have enough scope to achieve better things than what we have so far achieved, we the average people ignore our own potential. The study of ‘the brain’ is a complex subject and whatever little now we have become aware of ‘the brain’ is the result of research undertaken by scientists in the last 100 years and we will come more to know about it in future. The structure of the ‘brain’ is so vast that one scientist quoted that if we were to create a computer of the capacity equal to a human brain, to store such a computer the empire building in the ‘U.S.A’ would not be sufficient. KNOWLEDGE: Knowledge is ‘power’ ‘weapon’ ‘capacity’ ‘ability’ ‘achievement’. When you acquire sufficient knowledge, it influences your behaviour. Your behaviour influences your audiences, who will be judging you always. Your behaviour’s experience by others makes your mission in life a success. Your economic strength comes from success through knowledge and behaviour. The word ‘behaviour’ signifies your individual’s performance in terms of ability to ‘comprehension’ ‘initiative’ ‘responsiveness’ ‘accountability’ ‘truthfulness’ ‘dedication’ ‘honesty’ ‘loyalty’ ‘dependability’ ‘capacity’ ‘creativity’ ‘efficiency’ ‘proficiency’. BEHAVIOUR: What makes us behave like we behave? Our success or failure directly affects our behaviour. Let us consider a case of an individual, who despite being educated is unable to find a good employment. We have surmised the term ‘educated’ and still the individual is unable to find a good employment. What could be the reason for this? How it affects his behaviour? The reasons can be many and let us consider a few of them. This individual may be very good at academics and must have achieved a first class or distinction. But, then, this individual may not be having sufficient courage to take responsibility in the area of his specialization, which makes the prospective employer to reject his candidature. The failure in achieving good employment disturbs the mind of this individual and it will be visible in every aspect of his behaviour/performance. This individual would lack self-confidence. As a result, he would acquire negative body language. At the same time, if this individual is able to shoulder responsibility in relation to his academic qualifications, the prospective employer would definitely engage his services and as a result of this success, you can see vibration of self-confidence in his body language and behaviour. How to acquire knowledge? What is knowledge? The principles of guidance to your behaviour through experience are ‘knowledge’. What is ‘experience’? We are aware of ‘perceptions’ – or ‘panchendriyams’. We must have heard about ‘panchendriyams’ at one time or the other from our parents, gurus, and forefathers that we must control our ‘panchendriyams’. Are we really aware of the effects or meaning of ‘panchendriyams’ in general? There are five perceptions – taste, sound, feel, touch and vision. Result of these five perceptions creates ‘wants’ and ‘wants’ make us greedy and some may lose track of them and become very greedy and sacrifice human values. That is why the need for control of ‘panchendriyams’ and indirectly ‘wants’. Every experience of ours leaves a lasting impression on our brain, which will influence our behaviour. Let us now analyze this in detail. Let us assume that one of these days a person was driving a two-wheeler in the evening and there was power cut and visibility was very, very poor. If that person happens suddenly negotiate a large pot hole in the same speed he was driving till then, that person would experience a sudden jolt in the movement of the vehicle, which could be sometime very fatal or he might have escaped unhurt with some shock. The same person happens to go by the same route in similar circumstances at a later date, as and when he reaches the spot where he experienced the previous incidence, without his own effort, he would apply breaks and reduce the speed of the vehicle to ensure safety of his negotiation of the bad road condition. Have you noticed a change in the behaviour of the person? Let us take another example. A child of six months old capable of crawling sees a candle burning nearby. It fancies the glow of the candle approaches it and would endeavour to hold the glow in its hand. The child would experience the heat of the glow and cry. The next time the same child sees a candle glowing, though it is not capable of expressing its agony other than crying, would not venture to touch or hold the glow of the candle out of its previous experience. We will agree that experience changes a person’s behaviour. There are similar examples related to – taste, sound, vision, feel. Each of our experience makes us to behave in a manner compatible to our needs or wants. Now let us go through the process of acquiring ‘knowledge’. Every one uses the phrases ‘abhimanyu factor’ and ‘hanuman factor’ These two factors relate to ‘knowledge’ and ‘motivation’ First of all each one of us must realize that even before we are born, our ‘brain’ has some knowledge and generally many refer to this capacity as ‘in born quality’. To prove this point, let us place two eggs on the bank of a river – egg of ‘hen’ and ‘duck’. When the eggs mature and the chic comes out of the shell, the duck chic would move towards the water and the chic of hen would move towards the land. How is that the chic of duck is aware that it can survive in water and how the chic of hen realized that it would not be able to survive in water. Are we now sure that we have some knowledge even before we are borne? MEMORY POWER: The basic quality of MEMORY is that whatever we experience the 5 kinds of perceptions leaves a lasting impression and every time we see or think about such a thing the recall would be very good. Our elders advice us to speak always truth and do not tell lies. If one were to tell lies about a matter and if the same person questions another time the point, the person answering will not be give similar explanation and may tell a different version. One has to carefully observe the point I am raising here. If the person had told the truth on the first occasion, he would have repeated the same version a hundred times without fail. We all experience this type of feelings, but we do not realize the same. HOW TO IMPROVE MEMORY POWER? Memory power of an individual is related to the level of his motivation. What is motivation? Motivation exists between the need and the satisfaction. Let us now analyze what is need. We are all human beings. Our existence mainly rests on energy we possess and if we consume our energy, we become weak and our immediate focus would go towards regenerating the consumed energy. Hope, you have understood now the focus towards regenerating the consumed energy is the NEED. Once you identify the need, you would focus on ways and means to identify the ways to fulfill the need. MOTIVATION WHEEL SATISFACTION IDENTIFY NEED EFFORT IMPLEMENTATTION PLAN STRESS I would now try to explain the points listed above for your benefit. · IDENTIFY NEED: Once you identify your need you will start finding ways to achieve the methods to satisfy the need. Let us take an example of a boy, who might have just returned from school at 3.30 pm and is totally tired. He is expected to meet his mother in the house and would be expecting that she would have kept some eatable ready for him. Once he reaches house, he sees that his mother had gone out leaving a message for him with one of his neighbours. In the message his mother has written that she had to go out on an urgent mission and hence, she could not make any food for him. She is leaving a ten-rupee note on the refrigerator and request him to buy something from nearby shop for eating. Now the condition of the boy is loss of energy and h

Goals: 1. They have to study well in the school 2. They should inculcate interest in hobbies 3. They should have some good friends 4. They should be truthful to parents 5. They should be kind, compassionate 6. They should not be influenced by bad people 7. they should be punctual in their life 8. They sould be honest in all their activities 9. They should participate in sports and 10. They should have courage and convictions. 11. They should be ambitious and should develop positive thinking to achieve their ambitions.

i'm probably going to get boo-ed for this but i've got to say it. my daughter is 16, i want more than the best for her. i want her to be healthy, wealthy, be married to a fine up standing rich young man. i want her to have an awesome career in law, with a side career in acting. i want her to have that boy and girl once they are settled in a beautiful home in the " right " neighborhood. i want her to have more than i ever did or even than i had the chance at. i don't want her to live in our small town either.