100% HUMAN: The right time to love is when the heart says so. Is this true?

Philippines
July 18, 2009 12:52am CST
When I was in high school, I have read a poem (sorry I don't remember the title and the poet) with the lines "the right time to love is when the heart says so". The poet was portraying that when you feel you are in love, do not question if this is the right time to fall in love. He used the words "it doesn't matter whether it's sunny April or...", and I think he used them as metaphors, meaning to tell the reader that whether your life is going well or you have many problems as of the moment, you just can't help it when love comes knocking at your door. I have known people who settled down at an early age. Well one of my cousins actually had her baby when she was still 16 and is now living with her bf (actually she calls him asawa or husband already even though they are not married yet because she is still a minor) and their child, and she's perfectly happy. I am amazed that she had found her true love at an early age. while as for me, (I'm 25) and people keep on asking me why I am not married yet! Both my cousin and I are get a little pissed of with these people. They are telling me to find someone to marry and they are telling her to leave her partner because they thought "she is too young to actually know if she's really in love with the man or not"! I mean, is it our fault that she had found the man she wants to be with for the rest of her life at 15 and I, on the other hand, is still not thinking about having a family of my own? How can they be sure whether one is ready for love or not just by knowing his age? I still think the line "the right time to love is when the heart says so" is true. After all, some people at their "sunset" part of their lives can even say that they haven't found their true love yet. How about you? Have you found the right one? and how can you tell if that person is the right one or not? I'm just wondering...
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• Malaysia
18 Jul 09
hi dz i fell in love when i was 21 and married when 35, we love each other very much .. the delay in marriage made many people question me too but we had reasons ,, my advise , sometimes if we wait too long for love we may end not finding it, and for ladies age and biological factors plays a big role .. why dont you try giving chance for a man who loves you and you may learn to love him to cheers
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
I have tried that already before. I gave a chance to a person who loves me. That person did everything to make me fall in love: cooks for me, brings me gifts all the time, calls me everyday, tries to pick me up from school everyday despite of being busy, I meant EVERYTHING! I also tried doing everything for that person, I've had my share of sacrifices, even more that what was done for me. yet, it still didn't work out after some time. I guess I was really not inlove. we parted ways, yet I will never forget that person and I know I wont be forgotten also. we are still friends as of today. bringing back the relationship comes to our minds since we still care for each other, yet, still I don't think that is such a good idea. if it's destined to be, it will happen. There's no sense in forcing ourselves to make it work right? hehehehe.
• Philippines
18 Jul 09
What if the heart says so to TWO? How will one know it is really the heart and not the eyes or the appreciating brain? What if it is only your heart not his or her? or if he or she changes? What if only your hearts agree and fate fights against you? Finding Mr. or Ms. Right will never happen. I never thought of looking for one. I am waiting for the BEST. I know you know it is not an easy task. Society loves dictating. Fortunately, we have the freedom to be in conformity or not. I would not mind those people pushing their opinions, annoying you with their questions about when are you getting married. Getting married is not a race. The only reward one gets when one hurries to it is regret. I'm half a decade older than you are. I'd rather think of how to feed myself instead of signing that marriage contract! (^_^)
• Philippines
18 Jul 09
TWO? then I believe that a heart that feels it is inlove with two, is inlove with NEITHER of those two. Why? Because the heart that is "REALLY" inlove doesn't look and WANT someone else. I believe if you are really in love and you have found the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, that person will be the ONLY one you want, despite of his being imperfect. I agree with you when it comes to waiting. Yes, wait for the best. Why hurry? After all, it's you who will get to spend and share everything with that person and not "the society", SO WHY LISTEN TO THEM? It's best to wait than regret not waiting afterwards when the one meant for you comes.
@sybil02 (185)
• Philippines
19 Jul 09
This one good topic to discuss, I must say! I have the same dilemma as what you're experiencing right now. Some people are being too insensitive of the feeling of others. They kept on telling you their opinion without pausing or thinking if their opinions hurtful already. (stop the bitterness, LOL) I think what your heart says alone doesn't validate the thought of getting married or not. It should be your heart, mind and soul desire to fulfill your life long love. Too deep!
@kaykaygee (117)
• United States
19 Jul 09
I think that this whole "You're too young to know what love is" thing is crap. I think that even though a lot of teens and young adults are throwing the L word around casually, it doesn't mean that none of them know what it means or that they aren't capable of it. The way I see it, you can love someone at any age, once you feel you understand what it means, BUT... When you're younger, you're still growing and changing, and so is the one you're with, and they won't be the same person in a few years or even a few months or weeks, so you may not love them anymore. Make sense? That's the only reason I frown on relationships that young and new. Even adults go through major changes that can affect their relationships. And as for when you get older, I think that love shouldn't be forced. Most of the time, if you go looking for love, you won't find it. If you wait patiently, it finds you. Sure, you may need to stop and think about whether you can handle a relationship at that point in your life, but still...
@kianne (1)
18 Jul 09
I have found the right one and it is the best feeling ever.. its true....only your heart says wen it is the right time for love... wen its time you will definately feel it.....theres someone out there for every1....
@tomjoad (551)
• Philippines
18 Jul 09
the line sounds familiar. i think that poem was derived from the bible. in Songs of Solomon there's a verse there that says, "do not awaken love until it so desires." well, falling in love and its timing is still trivial to me. i don't really know when the right time to love is. i'll just know it's the right time when it comes. it's really hard to explain. an analogy would be like the wind in your face. you don't see the wind nor know when it will come. you just feel the breeze when it comes to your face. sheesh! sounds pretty poetic but i hope you get what my point. have a great day!
@SHAMRACK (8521)
• India
18 Jul 09
Dear friend, It depends individual to individual I hope so, as some do not consider much importance of love in life. But to get the perfect one is some thing really unique and it is really lucky for that couples. The miracle of this could happen any time as I believe that there is some for everyone in this world.
@cmnavarro (251)
• Philippines
18 Jul 09
hmmm... we can never tell if our current partners are really "the one" for us. it is hard to determine, we don't wanna end up hurting ourselves because we expected too much from them. i guess, we just have to take it easy and if it is the right time to settle down with him/her, then it is.
• Philippines
18 Jul 09
I agree with you that if your heart feels that you are in love then you cannot do anything about it and I really believe that you do not look for love because love will eventually find you no matter how you try avoiding falling in love with someone.
@jules67 (2790)
• Philippines
18 Jul 09
[b]Loving with all your heart no matter what. Love makes your heart alive. Loving is all pointing to the work of the hear[/b]t. Your heart feels good when you are in love. You are absolutely right. When your heart tells you that this is it, then go ahead. It feels good to be in love and it talks to you. You will never feel regret if you love with your heart. For you know that you give your best.
• Philippines
18 Jul 09
I agree with that.right now,my brain dictates my life more.my practical side is dominating,and I have decided to put off having a relationship with someone first.call me selfish,but I decided to spend more time,earn more,and love myself more.my mantra is "me,me,and me".I think 25 is still a young age to get married.I still have a lot of growing up to do.I don't really care if people find my life boring because I don't have a bf.
@rlaknar (616)
• India
18 Jul 09
I have the same scenario.I have not yet felt to be in love with someone.I agree the line "the right time to love is when the heart says so".And i am waiting for that time. Happy time! Thanks for the discussion!!!