Which is better a lie that draws a smile, or the truth that draws a tear?

@n30wing (4768)
Philippines
July 18, 2009 8:33pm CST
I rather just know the truth and tears on my eyes, then just lie and draws smile.Anyway if in the end I will loose the person who will make me smile, I rather just loose her now and tears in my eyes. In the end there will be pain, loneliness of missing the person around, and just remember the happy thoughts we shared. How about you guys which is better a lie that draws a smile, or a truth that draws a tear? Have a nice day to all of you!
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20 responses
@yugasini (12838)
• Anantapur, India
19 Jul 09
hi friend, if it is painful to others it is better not to spell the truth,you are right, i do not wish to give pain to others,but some time due to emotion i have to do,but then i will tell excuse for the thing...have a nice day
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
Hi my friend yugasini, I don't know from the start I want it to be plaine and simple and don't wanna hurt anyones feelings. I just don' wanna up set and ruin everything so I rather be true then lying! I rather have to have tears then someone who could me all this time. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@yugasini (12838)
• Anantapur, India
23 Jul 09
hi friend, thanks for the comment,have a nice day
@amybrezik (2120)
• United States
19 Jul 09
I can understand lying to get a smile, but I think in the long run it comes back to bite you. I am of the opinion that you should always be truthful. If it is a hurtful truth, then you can tell it as gently as possible... if possible.
• Singapore
19 Jul 09
I agree. It's because of the principle that lies simply get more complicated and difficult, that I would prefer a truth be told, than a 'white lie'. Yet, in all honesty, I find myself lying often to save the feelings of myself, or someone else.
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
Hi amybrzik, I can't understan lying, I rather just be truthful and honest all the time cause I don't want to loose a friend who is nice or a real friend could be. Seldom could you meet someone who is honest to you so why lied if you could be accepted for what you are. I think anyone who just wants to fool peoples feeling they have a big problem. They just want to push people away from them. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@NotaBene (111)
19 Jul 09
I personally believe that it depends on the severity and magnitude of the situation. If it is something of little consequence, there is really no need to hurt someone's feelings - for example, if someone cooked you a meal and you didn't particularly like it, there's no need to say that you didn't and upset them unnecessarily. However, when it comes to important matters, the truth is necessary no matter how much it might hurt.
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
Hi NotaBene, I just want to know the truth from the start. Yes it depends on the situation. But I just don't want to mistrust anyone and getting hurt. Sometimes the person just want us to get there attention but they cannot understand the logic of just making thing worsen from them. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@kdmlrys (399)
• United States
19 Jul 09
If you're spiritual, you know that lying is something that God forbids. I'm not someone who will insist that I never lied my whole life. There are times when you can't help but blurt out something that isn't true. But for the sake of this discussion, I'd honestly say that I would choose the truth that draws a tear. In situations where emotional distress is at stake, I don't want to cause something which I may be guilty of, knowing that a certain person found out the truth in the end regardless of how enticing your lie is.
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
Hi kdmirys, I rather be honest from the start even it will cause pain. I just don't want anyone to get hurt, and me being blame, and ruining everything. Trust is earn, and maybe I can forgive that person still it will take me time to forget. Have a nice day to you!
• United States
19 Jul 09
I would rather know the truth no matter how bad it hurts.
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
hI dreamangel01 same here! Have a nice day to you!
@isakuiki (95)
• Indonesia
19 Jul 09
Hi n30wing I agree you, if the honesty must pay with tears, I prefer know about the truth right on that time.delay will not make the pain a little more. happy myLotting
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
Hi isakuiki, I rather not hear a lie, honesty is the best policy. I don't like to be upset, but to know the truth from the start even it will hurt me maybe I can still forgive. The someone who has fool of lies and just want to complicate things and ruin everything! Have a nice day to you!
@VisuUnome (208)
• India
19 Jul 09
a lie which brings a smile is better than the truth which brings a tears...the statement is true until the person came to know that lie
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
Hi VisuUnome, I rahter know the truth from the start even it will tear me apart. Maybe I could still trust her even if it hurts me now. Then someone who just want my attention and will ruin everything and complicates matters. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@kafrosGR (138)
• Greece
19 Jul 09
Really nice question that i have been thinking this days. But its not that simple. to tell the truth that will break down someone have to be done by a way. not just tell smth and brake him completely down. By saying it via a way that will take him less down . I dont think much people would preffered to be lied by others just to feel happy.
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
Hi kafrosGR, I rather know the truth from the start even it will hurt me I might still forgive the person. Trust is to hard to earn same with respect. Once the trust is gone everything also fall out. Nothing will just remain in the end. Have a nice day to you!
@maharlikah (1045)
• Philippines
19 Jul 09
The truth that draws a tear.
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
Hi maharlika, same here! I rather have the truth from the start then someone who just want to fool me and get my attention, and in the end everything will be complicated for both of us. Have a nice day to you!
@Elixiress (3882)
19 Jul 09
I would rather be told the truth, because in the end it will come out and I would be more annoyed at the person to lied to me about it than I would be at them if they had just done something to upset me but was honest about it. My ex-boyfriend kissed another girl and didn't tell me for 6 months in case I broke up with him. I broke up with him not because he had kissed a girl because it was obvious he regretted it but because he didn't have the guts to tell me straight away.
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
Hi elixiress, I think I would do the same if it happens to me. I rather know the truth, anyway the truth will come out and it will just gonna make things complicated for for both of us. Once is enough twice is to much to trust her again. Have a nice day to you!
@jb78000 (15163)
19 Jul 09
everybody lies. i think lying to your boss is ok but lying to your partner isn't. if he lied to me i'd be way more upset than if he said i got wasted and kissed somebody else at a party.
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
Hi jb78000, that made me laugh! I just don't know yes it will upset me but in time the wounds will heal. I rather be true to someone,especially with someone who I love. I just can't stand it facing her and lying. I rather be honest all the time. Have a nice day to you!
@chivann (138)
• Cambodia
19 Jul 09
If it's not neccessary i think we should not tell the truth anyway. But if it's the big problem to the future, say it out even it would draw a tear. feel free to drop by at game4pal.com my personal site
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
Hi chivann, I think I rather know the truth it's part of making things better and not make things complicated. A person who can't be real is just an illusion, someone who can't be trusted anymore or even to believe. Seldom you could see someone who is real with you why do they have to lie if they could be accepted for what they are. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@dephie77 (106)
• Australia
19 Jul 09
better to tell the truth, the tears won't last forever though. While when you say a lie, all seems untrue, even it's for someone's smile, it won't last.
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
Hi dephie77, same here I rather tell the truth and be honest, then someone who just wants you to believe but just for a while. They just push people away from them. Honesty and trust is still the best policy. Have a nice day to you!
• Philippines
19 Jul 09
i would also want to know the truth rather than a lie,in whatever emotion it may cause the important thing is we have to face the truth and be ready to overcome it,.this is how tough person do and want.
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
Hi cintiu110, same here I rather know the truth than all this time I trusted and believe that person, it will just make me feel stupid to trust that person again. That will be also the last time he/she could talk to me or see mee again. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@andy77e (5161)
• United States
19 Jul 09
Truth is always best. Lies will eventually be revealed, and the longer you hold a lie, the worse it will hurt in the end. Better to simply say the truth to start with, that way you can move past the pain sooner.
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
Hi andy77e, you said that right truth is always the best and best policy. It's better to tell the truth and just be honest with anyone, once you fool the person you cannot earn that person trust anymore. You can't just buy trust and the attention that person given to you. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@jenlooi (60)
• Malaysia
19 Jul 09
I would prefer my partner to tell me the truth if he wishes to call off the relationship. At least we can still remain as friends because we have a mutual agreement to call it of. If he lies to me by telling me that he still loves me but his actions reflect the opposite, it will hurts me very much and the love I have for him will turn to hatred one fine day.
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
Hi jenlooi, same here I rather know the truth now and in the end it will just hurt me more. Someone who lies and just making you smiile for a while are jerks, there not even a friend but just to fool you all along. They are self center people who just think of their own and can't be trusted anymore. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@trisha27 (3495)
• United States
19 Jul 09
I totally agree that I would rather hear the truth and be crying that's something I've always wanted. But then you know there are just some people who like to continously lead people on and lie then just be truthful with them. I've had people done both to me. Be completely honest with me and I was left in tears and then other times where people have led me on and lied to me and I eventually found out the truth. Sometimes its just better to be honest with someone then lie.
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
Hi trisha, I think I rather know the truth and tears in my eyes. I don't give a damn if it will hurt me then just smile for a while and just miss the person or hate the person in the end. Anyway I am a honest person so I just deserve the truth. Then just hurting me in the end it's why not now. Have a nice day to you!
@just4you0 (421)
• India
20 Jul 09
We can not hide truth forever , telling a lie may make a person smile for sometime but when he/she will know the truth then situation will become wrost. In that way that person will cry and you will surely loose him/her. Happy mylotting!
• Philippines
20 Jul 09
truth really hurts, but it is better to know the truth than having a lie that would make me believe on something which in reality would hurt me the most..it would hurt if somebody tells you negatively, but would definitely hurt the most if somebody is making you believe that you possess all those positive things when in fact you don't..if somebody is telling you bout something, it's ok to believe but don't believe in it deeply, that's the worst thing, if you believe deeply and you found out later that all of it was a pure lie..
@kabudel (175)
• Philippines
19 Jul 09
Better to slap me with the truth rather than give me a run around. It hurts more to know in the end that you were betrayed. Besides, reality bites, it's just a matter of staying productive even when it feels like your world is crushed into bits.