People who forgot to give back what they borrow!!! things, money...

@icesmile (7160)
Romania
July 19, 2009 1:21am CST
"Don't mind if I borrow this, do you? I'll bring it back in a few days". How many times do you heard this words, and was just empty words, because people who borrow forgot to bring it back? I have a problem with books. I love books a lot, and many people who know me well ask me to borrow my books. Few times i accept, and never i saw my books come back to me. This is to much, i have old books, who i can t find any more, and for me are like a treasure. i don t like to barrow things or money, just because i like to use what i have, nothing more, nothing less. But i don t like to barrow to others too, i try before, and i lost my things... Do you like barrow things?
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@psyche49f (2504)
• Philippines
19 Jul 09
Borrowing money and things.... - I hate it when people borrow something and they don't return them...like money, books, even umbrellas...that's why most of us hesitate to lend our stuff because there is always the possibility of them not bothering to return...
When somebody borrows my stuff, I just half expect them to be returned. I have tried lending a lot of things like books, even money, and seldom are they returned. In fact, I had a friend who borrowed money from me but she never repaid it back. But the good news is, she can no longer approach me again to borrow...the nerve if she does again. Anyway, one consolation is that I am not the one borrowing money, so it means I am better off than others, right?
@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
19 Jul 09
You right, can be a consolation to know that others borrow money too
• Philippines
19 Jul 09
I do borrow things. Asking for help is a sign of strenght for me but of course I will return it. I don't usually set a date for return but i'll make sure I'll return it. I love it when someone ask to borrow something from me. I don't ask if when she/he would return it. I really don't mind at all as long as he/she is close to me.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
19 Jul 09
Hi, is important to see if people will return your things, all people like to have his own things
• Singapore
19 Jul 09
I must confess that i am one of those borrowers that's why i do not borrow any more i think it is just psychological or just plain lazyness i mean we all are part of the problem. I mean can you honestly say you never borrowed something and never returned it before?
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
19 Jul 09
Few years before, i borrow a dvd with a mouvie, from a center,and i really forgot, and i borrow to a friend, and after a year i remember, and i go to the center and pay that dvd.
• Canada
19 Jul 09
I have a really hard time loanding things out to people, because often they don't give them back to me. There are a few people that I can trust with my belongings, but i will still put my name label on the item I've loaned out, so that they will remember that it is mine, and to bring it back to me.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
19 Jul 09
Your answer remember me that i have a friend who have almost all books withaut last page, just because i like to use my signature to last page...you can imagine, and she say that she return all time my books...soon my library will move in shes home
@jdyrj777 (6541)
• United States
22 Jul 09
I do not loan anything anymore. Im not a greedy person but these people i know never return anything. I feel bad about not loaning but i already know its not gonna be returned. I dont afford to replace everything so these people can have my stuff for free.
@jdyrj777 (6541)
• United States
22 Jul 09
Maybe i should just rent stuff out. They can give deposit for the cost of item then when they return it they can have their money back. If they dont return it then i can go replace the item at their expense.
@meapas (2436)
• India
21 Jul 09
Shakespeare had said once never lend or borrow money, you will stand to loose both, money and friend. Follow if you like. meapas.
@trixyteddy (1072)
• India
21 Jul 09
You're telling me....I've had this problem with so many people. Frankly, when I was loaded with money, I really did not mind. But when things got rough and I requested people who had borrowed big to return, never did so. One of my neighbours was in trouble and I bailed him out. When I asked him after five years, he did not even remember anything. How can you forget what you borrow? If I've taken even a tiny pin, I'm not comfortable till I return it. Then books, that goes without saying. I had three trunkloads of books, I'm down to practically nothing now. It is so irritating.
@mces0925 (196)
• Philippines
21 Jul 09
It's very rare that I borrowed things. I try to returned it as early as possible. Now I have a problem with my friend, She borroed one of my niece dress for her daughter graduation last summer. We had a misunderstanding in a cell phone text messages a month ago. Now I foind out that my sister haven't receive what she borrowed to my niece. I thought she would responsible enough to return the dress. I don't want to follow up her I might say something she wouldn't like to hear. She's very sensitive and sometimes it's irritates me. We are old enough, we should opeh our mind. I just hope one of these days she would returned what she borrowed.
@vingyan06 (2487)
• Malaysia
21 Jul 09
Me too don't like to borrow my personal belongings to others. If they really need that, okay, i will lend to them, but hopefully they will return it on time or as what they have promise. I would not borrow to people who never want to return the things to me or always delay in returning the item.
@airakumar (1555)
• India
21 Jul 09
Well, When I was kid once or twice, I don't remember exactly, I forget to bring a pen, I borrow pen and my friend gave me. But I returned her immediately after I was done. I used to help her too. We help each other whenever needed so I don't feel bad borrowing anything from my friends. Yes, I do not forget to return. But I had one friend who have never returned my some books and also money. I didn't say her anything thinking she was my friend. Whatif she didn't return. I didn't mind at all. We are still friends and I have never asked her about this.
@haiershen (1082)
• China
21 Jul 09
in our offices, those thing were often happened, somebody come to my seat and remember to write something use by pen, then she/he went away with my pen, maybe pen is a litter things, so it is very easy to forget return back,but it doesn't matter with me,i don't expect them to return, i will use another pen,for me, if i borrow something from somebody, i will get it back. good luck and have a nice day
@bellis716 (4804)
• United States
21 Jul 09
After a reasonable length of time, I ask if the borrower is finished with the book or whatever they borrowed. Usually, they say that they forgot and hand it right over. If they say they are not finished, I give them that much more, then ask for it back because "I want to read it again". Should that offend them, then they were a leech, not a friend.
@tjburcham (690)
• United States
21 Jul 09
The only thing I borrow is cash, and that is only when I know I can pay it back on time. I figure just like with you, somethings might be personal to someone and I don't want to 1. put them on the spot and 2. I don't want to be responcible for something that isn't mine. Like you have had to many things lost this way.
@RawBill1 (8537)
• Gold Coast, Australia
21 Jul 09
I have lost many things over the years by lending them to friends. I even caught some so called friends years back who swore that they returned some things to me but then I later found that they had hidden them! They were no longer friends after that!!! Lately I have not had too many problems with this as the friends I have now are more responsible and we are older. When I borrow things, sometimes I keep them for longer than I had planned but I always feel bad about it and try to return them ASAP!
@Annmac (949)
21 Jul 09
People who know me well, know that if I said they could borrow it, it would mean I couldn't care less if they bring it back or not. I don't let anyone borrow something I'd hate to lose! All my family and friends are avid readers though and we often swap books. Some books I know I'll have no desire to read more than once and some of my family never read the same book twice, so it's a good way for us to expand our reading. None of us could afford the number of books we want to read..... lol
@jwfarrimond (4474)
20 Jul 09
I never ever lend books and if someone borrowed something else from me and did not return it or did return it but in a damaged condition, that would be the last time that they'd ever borrow anything at all from me - EVER!
@andy77e (5161)
• United States
20 Jul 09
Generally, no. I rarely borrow things, and if I do barrow them, I tend to make absolutely sure I return them as quickly as possible. As for letting others borrow my stuff, here's my rule of thumb. If I absolutely can not replace the item, I refuse to let someone borrow it. I only let someone borrow something as long I myself understand I may not see it again. For books, I'm not sure how it is in Romania, nor do I know about your books, but many books, especially older books sometimes, are reprinted in cheap paperback. You might be able to find cheap paper back copies of your books, and give them to borrow. Obviously never let someone borrow twice without returning what they borrowed the first time.
• United States
20 Jul 09
I have had this happen to me before and I have had people take advantage of me too and then end up not to be truely your friend i wish I had all the money I ever loaned out I would have alot.
@ShellyB (5242)
• United States
20 Jul 09
It is a situation where the person that is asked to lent things suffers one way or the other, for saying no and for saying yes. I am not lending things right now, the last thing I did was lend a nitendo game to a friend, but that's ok and it is likely that he will keep as we did not play it anymore. In your case learn to say no, I can help a little tell your friend your book is part of your collection, and you would not want to be angry with your friend if they lost that book, and never return it, good friends understand, and bad ones go away, either way you win at the end right?
• United States
20 Jul 09
I agree with you on the book borrowing. I love to read, and I treasure all the books I purchase, even if I never read them again. Therefore, when someone asks me to borrow a book, I cringe at the thought, because I know I may never get it back. A dear friend of mine lost one of my favorite books, and from that point on, I have never let her borrow them again. Sadly, I wanted her to enjoy the books I have, but I am afraid to lend them to her again. If others don't want to spend money on new books, they should just go to the library. This may sound selfish, but I have invested alot of money in my books, and it isn't to be taken lightly.