Is it wrong to want to be alone if that makes you happy?

United States
July 19, 2009 1:47pm CST
I just am happier when I dont have conflict with others. Is that wrong of me for shutting people out of my life?
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@b1zarr0 (69)
• United States
19 Jul 09
I wish more GUYS would want to be alone so the ladies would be forced to check me out by default XD
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@Signal20 (2281)
• United States
19 Jul 09
LMAO!!!! Funny....
@Signal20 (2281)
• United States
19 Jul 09
I think exactly as you do. I was so content and pretty much happy when I was single-not alone, have 3 kids. I was independent, did my own thing, no worries. Now, I'm stuck with someone because of this economy b.s., and it sucks. Fortunately he's not rotten and mean, just childish and immature, but I am definitely looking forward to moving and becoming my old independent, loner, and single self again lol.
@Wink24 (167)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
Hello. I think if that would make you happy, then there's nothing wrong with it. But let me just remind you that no one can alone all the time. Sometimes, you need someone to be by your side. it's a good thing to be independent but not all the time. It's hard to live alone. Maybe yoou can say that for now but Even the rich person who can buy anything in this world sometimes complain that why is it that he have all the wealth but still feeling not contented/happy. Then i think that's because he doesn't have someone to share his happiness/sadness with.and How can you say that you're happy being alone when you don't even try to let someone enter into your life? it's not bad to change your routine sometimes, who knows that by doing so, it could make you feel happier than you thought. Happy mylotting.
@lelin1123 (15635)
• Puerto Rico
19 Jul 09
There are people in the world who are consider loners. Then there are people who need people around or they are lost. If you are a loner that is your business and people should respect it. However if you are shutting people out of your life due to something you are doing that is bad for yourself and or health that is another story. I myself can be a bit of a loner. I like my quiet time. I don't need to be in touch with everyone in my family all the time. I like to keep to myself and not have to deal with the drama in the family.
• United States
19 Jul 09
If thats what makes you happy then no its not wrong at all. I like to be around certain people, like my husband and my kids, but im not a very social person either. I might go out once in a while with my husband, but I just dont like to be in big crowds. I would much rather be at home, cuddled up and watching a movie. I know what you mean by not liking conflict, i hate it too. When my husband wants to argue, i let him win right away. Ive learned to pick my fights because he is very stubborn, and he will argue with me for days over one little thing, so i figure if i just let him win, then he will let it go and everything will be okay. I grew up with my mom always having to be the center of attention, and for the longest time i was hapy just sitting in my house not doing anything. It wouldnt bother me if i didnt have to see anyone for a while because my mom likes to start drama just to have some attention and i think thats so annoying. If i were you, i would try and find at least one person you could connect with so on days when youre feeling pretty good and you wanna get out and walk around or something you have someone to go with, but i dont think its wrong at all to want to be alone.
@wolfie34 (26789)
• United Kingdom
19 Jul 09
The song goes 'its better to be alone than in bad company' I can definitely relate to what you are saying, I am very happy single, I wouldn't have it any other way, I am deeply suspicious and mistrustful about people, after two abusive relationships I intend to spend the rest of my life alone and single. I am not a people person, I prefer my own company. I need to live alone, I am far too independent and selfish to share my life with others. I am extremely defensive and if anyone comes close to me I push them away! I guess our experiences in life and how people have treated us change the way we feel about others. Your happiness is important and if that means spending it away from others then there's absolutely NOTHING wrong with it, join the club!