What do you think about using the term "I will love you forever" ?

United States
July 19, 2009 11:52pm CST
Maybe i have just been burned badly in relationships past, but I have a hard time making this type of commitment, I have no problem telling my boyfriend that i love him, as i do, but i find myself unable to add the commonly used "i will love you forever" with him, wait, let me reword that, not just with him, but i would not be able to use it with anyone. In today's society it is so common place for people to have many relationships in their lives, even to have many long-term relaionships. Do you feel that if you tell someone you will love them forever, then in the future something happens nd the relationship ends, it is a form of betrayal? Is it ok to say it as long as you mean it at the time? Because one can never know what may happen in the future. I am just curious, as i was flipping through my notebook of poetry tonight and came across a poem i wrote shortly after my split with my ex-husband, and it just made me start to think about things. It also made me realize how crazy it is that that getting hurt once, by one person, can change the way you veiw love for life. Here's the poem for anyone interested in reading it Forever Remember when you said forever? I do. I just wish i hadn't been stupid enough to believe it or at least been able to realize that in your mind, you added a sub-claus. Forever...if i don't get bored. Forever...unless something better comes along. Forever...or at least a few years. I guess i forgot, that with your A.D.D. your attention span is too short for forever. So now out wedding pictures hang in the shadows, the ones i still have anyways. Taking up space on the wall Keeping company the photos of the rest of life's important moments. Graduation parties, school dances, family reunions Just there to look nice, collect dust Possibly inspiring a conversion "Hey remember that time when..." Still, silent reminders of the past Forever frozen in time Sort of like my wedding rings Just taking up space in my jewlery box Sitting there quietly Waiting for the day that i find them Always when i least expect if of course. Brushing against my fingers as I rummage around Searching for a spare earring back Or that necklace i seem to have misplaced The smooth gold band against my fingertip Or the light reflecting just right Off my diamond engagement ring The twinkle catching my eye The ring which you gave to me And asked me to be yours forever Through good and through bad, til death do us part Everytime i come across themm I can't help myself I have to try them on again Slip them onto the fourth finger Of my left hand I wore those rings all the time, for years They were like a part of me I felt naked without them on But now they make me uncomfortable Like shoes that are a half size too small It's not because they don't fit anymore Though in all honesty, they are a litle loose now It's more over that they bring back memories Memories of love, of happiness Of promises of forever These momories are painful Moreso than anything i can imagine Painful because you no longer love me Because you hurt me more than i thought possible Though you claim you never meant to And painful because Forever is gone now
3 responses
@jaiho2009 (38990)
• Philippines
20 Jul 09
Hello there my friend, The word FOREVER alone is FOREVER.There is no such things as FOREVER in this world.LOVE will stays FOREVER,but the people will passed away,everything seen will fade away. It is not necessarily saying " i love you forever" and all of a sudded they separate ways is a betrayal.Becoz,just like what u have said,we never holds the future,we never knew what will gonna happen tomorrow.But,people who uses that word feels that way.He/she wants to love their partner FOREVER.But,some fate doesn't allow them to love each other FOREVER.And there are also instances that,some relationship broke up,but in ther hearts,they still love each other FOREVER,even if they are living with another partner. So,saying " i love you FOREVER" is not a big deal.Becoz we are really capable of loving one person FOREVER.
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• United States
20 Jul 09
I suppose what you say is true..we are all capable of loving one person forever...but i think for me it is a self-defense mechanism now..i don't want to set myself up for some unobtainable dream of perfection, only to have my heart broken again....it's the whole once bitten, twice shy thing with me.
@allie4712 (132)
• United States
20 Jul 09
I never say 'I will love you forever' anymore. For one I really don't belive in true love anymore because you never know what's going to happen tomarrow. You could be happy one day and the next 'oh I'm sorry I meet this chick the other day...'. Why love when you know you're just going to get hurt?
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• United States
20 Jul 09
Oh no, i don't agree with you there, though i am sure you have your reasons, i don't beleive one should ever give up on love...yes...we may get hurt at times, but if you don't put yourself out there and be true to your feelings, it makes it difficult to be happy in your life. I just think we should becareful about making promises we might not be able to keep.
• China
20 Jul 09
I think this is a term which should be carefully considered before speaking it out.if one day the relationship break up,it will bot be a betrayal if we have considered well when we were saying it .all in a world we should cherish it
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• United States
20 Jul 09
Exactly....it is not a word that should be thrown around lightly...just as saying 'i love you' should not be something you just jump into saying at the begining of a relationship