relation based on beauty?

@kafrosGR (138)
Greece
July 20, 2009 4:21pm CST
Hello MyLotters , I would like to ask your opinion and generally what you think about it. there is a girl i had feelings for months ago but she wasn't interested in me. I have to see her few months now. I don't know how to translate it exactly in English but she asked me to send her a pic of me coz she enabled mms today and she would like to have a pic of me. But the way she told it was more like "If you are still as handsome as you were maybe we gonna have some fun" or something like that.. does it wroth? why yes? why no?
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14 responses
• United States
21 Jul 09
All relation are at first based on beauty. That's how you notice that person. Oh look at that waling this way must say hi. Hi turns in to I am,you are. That turns into my number is,yours? That turns into coffee? Diner? First kiss? Then if you are lucky love.
@kafrosGR (138)
• Greece
21 Jul 09
Thanks for your reply Esmeralda, Yes you are but you would still mainly care for appearance about a person you know for long time?
• United States
21 Jul 09
well that's the thing its the looks that get you. Its there heart that keeps you. Now some people say,what about ugly people. There is no such thing as a ugly person. To you what is beautiful is not to me, and to me what is beautiful is not you.
@Citychic (4067)
• United States
21 Jul 09
relation based on beauty........... Hello mylot friend, why did she have to wait a few months before deciding to get back in touch with you? If I were you I would probably leave her alone. Usually most people know if they like someone else right in the beginning. They almost always have some kind of clue. It's up to you whatever you decide to do but I say no, leave her alone because she didn't give you the first consideration. Happy mylot.
@kafrosGR (138)
• Greece
21 Jul 09
Well she was always a bit strange closed. I mean not expressing her self. she did only once in the past but she was still a bit shy and nothing happened. if we just talked a bit more when we were out we would maybe be together from that time till now. to see if really cares I feel like doing like what you said. leave her alone. if she really cares she will still bother or something. what a common girl would do about it? :D
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
20 Jul 09
Sounds like she already thinks your handsome..of course you haven't changed that much in just a few months. I think that she is flirting...I also think that initial attractions are normally due to the way someone sees us. Chemistry helps this along too. I don't think it's good to base relationships by looks only but we do need to be attracted to have interest.
@kafrosGR (138)
• Greece
20 Jul 09
Thanks for your reply jenin, It's a bit complicated. and more looking like summer love. something that probably gonna break me down. something i really don't want.
@UK_Shree (3603)
20 Jul 09
Well it sounds like she is flirting with you, and is perhaps interested. But you should ask yourself why she was not interested in you before. Yes maybe her feelings do depend only on your physical appearance and whilst that may be what is required to start things off, it definitely won't be enough to keep you happy. I'd give her a miss if I was you.
@kafrosGR (138)
• Greece
20 Jul 09
well call it flirt. I really like the way you are saying these stuff. really helpful thanks. and yes surely will brake me down soon
@UK_Shree (3603)
21 Jul 09
Well thanks for your comment, but I do think you should stay away from her. Why not find someone who likes the way you look and likes the ways that you are inside too?
• China
21 Jul 09
That's depends on your own opinion. What kind of relationship do you want to have? Do you want true love or just be together with a girl who has no love to you? It's up to you.
@kafrosGR (138)
• Greece
21 Jul 09
Thanks for you reply Butterfly, its easy and can almost find any time a girl that juts doesnt have feelings for you just to be next to you. I am not really looking forward something like that. I find it pointless
@romina26 (48)
• Philippines
21 Jul 09
To many people,physical appearance is important when it comes to relationship. Sometimes we just love the person based on their outside beauty. Yeah, physical aspect is also important but the main point of loving someone is not all about what are eyes can see,it is about what are heart can feel.
@kafrosGR (138)
• Greece
21 Jul 09
yeah. but first steps are appearance. I guess so.
@fifileigh (3615)
• United States
22 Jul 09
i dont think so. she doesnt sound serious about getting into a relationship. i think if u want to have some fun or u need to get laid, go for it. that is all it is. but if u r looking for a serious relationship, move on and tell her that u r busy.
• Saint Lucia
20 Jul 09
As the saying goes beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.If she is saying that its simply means that she is very shallow and looks for certain body type,job and figures.Trust me this kind of relationship isnt worth going into and i will advice you to stay clear or you may get hurt badly.I use to do that same thing and in the end i realize love isnt about looks,job or education.Its how important that you feel when you are with that person and how much they care about your well being and happiness.So my advice is to think about it and maybe you can give it a try if you think its worth the shot.
@kafrosGR (138)
• Greece
20 Jul 09
Thanks for your reply friendship4lyfe, well the point is that such a relation can only hurt. i am sure we gonna have some fun and surely gonna be better than being single. but it gonna end fast and put me down.. so i dont belive it really wroth. but i am still thinking of it
• United States
23 Jul 09
Sounds like she is after your looks and not whats in your heart. If you like her you need to be careful and guard your heart so it don't get broken by her. If she wasn't interested in you before what makes her think you should be interested in her now? Just try not to let her hurt you.
• United States
20 Jul 09
is it worth it maybe if your still hot. haha just kidding. well i don't think it is if you don't like her alot or if she only likes you if you look nice it isn't worth it. because you two might not be together as long as you think if she meets someone else who looks better. but do what you want its your life.... hope you might the right decision.
@kafrosGR (138)
• Greece
20 Jul 09
Hi Tifanny, thanks for your reply surely a girl's opinion is more intersted and helpful. so you belive hurt will be soon? wont feelings grow with a relation?
@whateva (786)
• India
21 Jul 09
cous you know doesnt matter how you look right now.in the end when you will grow old, its the person thats inside(though ugly from outside) will you still choose to love her do you even know what she is like what kid of person she is... can you handle the beauty with no brains.. if you understand this part please go and tell her
@whateva (786)
• India
21 Jul 09
seems like you've been hit by a sl*t
@kenraku (241)
• Australia
21 Jul 09
If you still love her, why don't give her a shot? Nothing to lose. Try or give up, no other. Just keep it simple. Wish you best luck.
• Romania
21 Jul 09
People may not agree with me, but I consider this as fact. Women respond well to playful guys. Don't take yourself too seriously and don't take her too seriously either. If she's only toying with you, you've got nothing to lose if you don't get all worked up. But if you do send her a funny picture of yourself, she'll know you're game. I'm going to disagree with "ask yourself why she wasn't interested in you before". Who cares? Women sometimes do silly things like that. I've seen my own friends doing it. They go for the tough guy who ends up hurting them, keeping the nice guy as a friend and a shoulder to cry on. Sometimes, when they've had enough of the bad boys they turn to the nice guys. Maybe that's the issue, I don't know the whole story. What you want to do is act confident, but be yourself still. Treat this as a game and not something serious. Flirt with her, show her that you like her, but don't drool over here. Don't call her everyday, but when you do ask her out, or call her at your place. Show her a good time. Then distance yourself a bit. If done properly, they bite and they will come to you, no matter how you look. If you think about it, you've seen the proof yourself. How many times have you seen on the street a good looking girl with an average looking guy? I'm seeing it every day.