make friends

China
July 21, 2009 2:22am CST
i live in a small social circle and so all my friends are in this circle too. i want to make many new friends, but in fact, i am shy and not that sociable. do you have the same delemma? share with me and give suggestions to me
3 responses
• India
21 Jul 09
Its good that you are aware of the negative points in you to mingle in the society.. i would suggest you to first get those negative thoughts out of your mind , you might be frightened because of your physical appearance, your speech , your knowledge or any other reasons .. now if you eliminate these you will love and enjoy to move into big social cirles,thus giving you more friends..
• China
21 Jul 09
u are right, i really fear something in my deep heart. i think it is that i pursue perfection. i always want to make some true friends, not just fair-weather friends.i fear that some day they may betray me and our friendship, which will give me a heavy blow and which is more than i can shoulder.
• Indonesia
21 Jul 09
Yes, I'm a shy person too,, but now not really,,haha^^,, I find some way to make myself look a little bit more sociable,, first, ask. just ask is enough. ask about everything related to the discussion or that people say. make yourself look want to know more / curious about this people. Look the people directly into their eyes when they speak. Then, just smile^^,, This way is work on me. I think everybody have same position so you don't have to be afraid or shy. Everybody is unique. Plus, not every people must be a sociable person. As long as you're not a bad person and be yourself, it's ok^^,, Have a nice day!
• China
21 Jul 09
thank you for your response. u seem a sunny person and smile a lot. i really admire you, you are right, everyone is unique. i will be myself and try to make new friends like you.
@med889 (5952)
21 Jul 09
You have to gain back your confidence in yourself, being shy is not a problem but you have to get the gut to ask something and therefore to be able to have a long conversation. I was shy too and when I entered college then I learn to talk to others freely and from that time I am said to be a a very talkative person. I am happy though the way I am now as I can talk in all subjects with conviction.
• China
21 Jul 09
thank you for sharing your story with me, i know i should learn to start a conversation, not afraid of making mistakes. but you know, it is not easy to make the first step. i will try.