Spouse or kids

United States
July 21, 2009 4:09pm CST
It's been one of those days as a stay at home mother when all I want to do is go hide in my bed. Between my kids and my husband I am not sure who takes more advantage of what I do for them. Between the driving around to book clubs and play dates and bringing him lunch I have barley had enough time to be at home none to mind I only got 3 loads of laundry done and everyone seems to be mad that I didn't wash what they wanted. Most days I do not complain but today I think I will not make dinner and let them fend for themselves. Who is worst in your home your spouse or your kids?
4 responses
@fatragu (349)
• United States
17 Oct 10
I am in the process of getting divorced now so I will speak from past experience. It was defiantly always my husband above the kids. He would take days off if he felt sick and lay in bed and yell at me and the kids. I had major surgery and he wouldn't even take time off from work to come home and help out. My dad had to take time off from his considerably higher paying job to take care of me and the kids. I would spend all day with 3 kids that weren't in school yet cleaning up after them and taking care of them and taking care of the house. He would come home and complain that I didn't do anything all day long. So glad that we aren't together anymore lol.
• United States
18 Oct 10
Well good for you, get yourself into a healthy relationship with someone who will treat you right.
• United States
28 Jul 09
In my house neither is worse. The one that is bad is my BF's brother he flips all the time when I don't have dinner ready for him, or if I make him help out with stuff in the house he is 18 he should be able to do a lot more than my 2 year old daughter dose. But she dose more than him. It is so frustrating
• United States
28 Jul 09
Wow and you let him stay. Sometimes a swift kick to the bottom makes a big difference in attitude
• United States
21 Jul 09
My kids by far. My man is smart enough to recognize the work that I do around the house and thanks me for it on a regular basis. He also puts no pressure on me to get anything for him done, except maybe wash his work clothes. My kids are smaller and have no idea how demanding they can be. Like today, I am so tired, and they are supposed to be grounded for doing a BIG no no yesterday. But I don't have the patience today to make sure they get reading done, and the bathroom clean like they are supposed to. So, in true horrible mom fashion, I have just banned them to a bed room for the afternoon with a stack of books to read. I am not stupid enough to think that they are going to sit in their and read all day, but at least they aren't running around like crazy driving me nuts.
• United States
21 Jul 09
Great minds, I too banished mine to the bedroom (they share one room). I just could not handle the arguing (rainy days have that effect)especially since I seemed to be the common enemy today. I do not remember being so into clothes before I hit high school never mind before middle school. My husband just very tired himself as he was on an emergency call since 3 am, and I do not mind bringing him food but when tired he can be a bear.
@amalexda (19)
• United States
4 Aug 09
I would say the kids are worse but my husband isn't far behind! He doesn't EXPECT things from me but he leaves his crap laying around just as much as the kids!