How do you make a child tough?
By mommaj
@mommaj (23112)
United States
July 21, 2009 4:22pm CST
My daughter is so sweet and so loving, she doesn't want to hurt anyone or get anyone in trouble. She has always been like that. If someone made fun of her she would just try harder to make them her friend. She is so special and an exceptional person. I just wish she would be tougher and take up for herself. I don't want anyone walking on her. Have you ever taught your child how to stand up for themselves?
I'm considering karate. Something disciplined that she won't be upset that she has to hit someone. She always tells me she doesn't want to be as mean as the other kids. She's only six. I don't think she realizes she has to be, because they certainly aren't going to change.
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@happyness3 (394)
• United States
21 Jul 09
I don't think this is such a bad thing, because she is a girl. I have a son who is this way. He is so sweet, and kind, and even opens my doors for me (he is only 8), but he isn't into tough things. He cries when he plays football. He is just so sensitive. I worry about him when he hits the older grades where kids are meaner. I don't know what to do. I have thought about karate, but I am scared it would be to hard on him.
@happyness3 (394)
• United States
21 Jul 09
I never really worried about it until my fiancee became concerned that because he is a boy, what happens when he has a PE class and he cries, he doesn't want him to be made fun of. So he tries to take him and play basketball and football, and he just cries if the ball hits him. It breaks my heart, because he is such a sweet boy.
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
26 Jul 09
Oh dear afraid I'm zero help here - actually your daughter sounds a lot like me until just a year or so ago and even now I don't stick up for myself nearly as much as I probably should - easier just to walk away. Maybe I should take karate :) It just may help your daughter and myself :)
@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
26 Jul 09
I was thinking the same thing - could go together, I've actually heard it is a good low-impact exercise. We have a place here in town that used to teach I may check to see if their still open, am guessing they have classes by age group or something,
@Canellita (12029)
• United States
24 Jul 09
Will you stop stressing and let this child be? When she needs to she will more than handle her business. Would you prefer she was getting into fights everyday? She does not have to be like the other kids and you wanting her to be that way is the wrong approach.
What you need to do is find ways to help her school create more kids like her!
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
24 Jul 09
I would love for other kids to be more like her. Do you know what kind of wonderful place we would live in. There would be butterflies everywhere and rainbows all over the place. LOL I would personally prefer it but it's not realistic. I am trying to get the school to do more to get the kids nice.
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