Would you continue to sleep in a bed if someone had died in it?
By Amber
@AmbiePam (85484)
United States
July 22, 2009 3:00pm CST
I'm not talking about anything weird. For instance, my great aunt woke up one morning and got up, and when she arose from the bed, her husband yawned and turned over. An hour later she went into their room to awaken him, and he was dead (this happened years ago). I don't know if she kept the mattress. I mean, she probably had a lot of sweet memories of sharing a bed with him (no, I'm not talking about anything dirty). But then again, I don't know if the fact that he died in that bed would enable her to keep sleeping in it.
I am sure this happens to a lot of people. They find their spouse or partner in bed, non responsive. Perhaps even a mother and child share a bed, and that child dies in their sleep. I don't know if I could go on sleeping in that bed with that kind of trauma. What do you think?
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@jerzgirl (9233)
• United States
22 Jul 09
Yes. I slept in a bed on which someone had fallen after being shot and I slept on my mother's bed the night after she passed away in it. I didn't allow myself to dwell om the images that preceded my needing to sleep. It's not easy for some, I know, but sometimes you just do what you need to do.
@jerzgirl (9233)
• United States
22 Jul 09
Although, I would think that having shared a bed with someone for decades in the comfort of knowing they are there at your side would make sleeping there far more difficult after they are known to never be coming back. In that case, I could see even changing rooms.
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@eaforeman6 (8979)
• United States
23 Jul 09
I think I would not. It would be better for me to get rid of it, simply because of the memmory. I would not want to think about that all the time.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
22 Jul 09
I think I would have no problem sleeping in it in those circumstances. Of course one never knows until in the same exact situation but just thinking about it, I don't think it would be a problem for me.
I can think of two things that could happen. |Either sleeping on the same bed would give me some comfort remembering the many wonderful years that I had been with that person, or it would be a constant reminder that caused pain, and in that case, maybe it would become a bit of a problem. But I am more inclined to the first one.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
22 Jul 09
I really think it would be hard for me to do that. I am alone so don't have to worry about that right now. don't plan on having anyone sleeping in my bed either, lol. I think if i was married & that happened it would be hard for me to sleep there. Interesting discussion, Ambie.
@camomom (7535)
• United States
1 Sep 09
I don't know if I could sleep there either. I don't really want to find out either.
@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
13 Aug 09
That has never happened to me yet so I don't know. Now that I live alone that's not going to happen or at least I don't think so. Though I think I would just wash the bedding and move on. But if I was disturbed by it, I guess I would change the bed or do whatever else was necessary.
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
23 Jul 09
It is difficult to say how I would feel because it is not something that I have ever experienced. It would depend; if it was my husband or daughter I may feel comfort sleeping in the very bed they were in when they passed or it could completely freak me out and would have to get rid of the bed. I get the feeling that the second option may be the way I would go but I cannot say for sure.
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@starlight70 (316)
• Malaysia
23 Jul 09
What a spooky question, but yet interesting! :) I think if I am not aware of it, sure - why not? But if I do know, at least please change the cover sheet. Not the same one.. uhmmmm... Wait, I think I did sleep in one for months, when we rent a place. I was only 10 years old. Could not sleep well for months. Always slept only at 4am. Freaked me out.
