Insecurity

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Hi. I'm back after quite a long time. It's good to be back. I wanted to ask all you mothers and child psychologists out there about something which is bothering me. I have only one child, a boy who is nine years. I feel he's suffering from a lot of insecurity. Although we are happily married my husband and I have had bitter fights and a lot of unpleasantness earlier when our son was smaller. Our son is a mature boy and listens in to everything that goes on. We have never neglected him and our focus has always been him. In fact, I've given up my career so that I can look after him. He's also very sensitive and innocent in his own way. Last year my husband was posted away and it is my son and I who lived alone for a year. Right after my husband left, my son's behaviour and performance in school deteriorated drastically. I used to get complaints from his teachers regularly. He went into severe depression and even talked of jumping into the sea using the word suicide once. He's absolutely and completely attached to his father. Father and son talk at least 5-6 times a day and he visits us whenever possible. I tried to organise various activities for my son during that period so that he doesn't feel alone. Gradually he settled down and both of us visited my husband three times last year, each time for a period of around one month. Those were lovely times. The problem now is, I'm very insecure and I feel it has passed on to my son who has strange kinds of fears and anxieties like the world coming to an end or he not being able to wake up the next morning or that something or the other keeps troubling in his body. He is otherwise a completely normal and active boy and loves people and friends. He cannot remain without friends for even a day. His performance in school especially his behavior has improved and teachers are quite fond of him. His father is quitting his present job and is returning home next month to look for a job to be with us. Do you think matters will improve and that all these insecurities of my son is just a passing phase? Do you think they will leave any repercussions later in his life? My son is very affectionate and loving. My heart hurts to see him feeling the way he does. His feelings are mostly after evening hours, especially during bedtime. I, too, suffer from evening depression and anxiety, especially when I'm alone. Please reassure or advise me, dear friends!