I really do not understand this child!

Well, not like this exactly in the sense that it was mental and not physical but my son, for a prolonged period, developed a habit of making careless mistakes in his school work. It was becoming ridiculous coz he was not really looking at what he was doing…as if he was in a perpetual daze! I don’t know what exactly I did, I even came here on mylot for suggestions but at the end of it all and having failed in my mission, I left it up to him to change his act…I told him that ‘I don’t know can no longer be an answer…its his mind so he better learn to control it and its his school so if he fails, its him who’s gonna face the music’ I think it hit him somewhere inside and he started making a distinct effort which is now showing. Why don’t you make him stitch up the holes himself? I know he cant, but some of those shirts will have become unusable, anyway. So why don’t you make him feel what he is doing?

I haven't had a problem like that. Other than being rough on the clothes, I think it may be a cry for attention of some sort. Seems like kids only do stuff like that when they need attention or something is lacking. You know like they do it to get you mad, wich then gets your attention. I personally wouldn't buy him anymore new clothes til school starts and have him wear his ripped up stuff at home. And maybe have a good heart to heart to him about things going on in your household and in his life.

He Is Normal .. Don't Worry Kids Need time For Everything .. He Will Grow Up .. You Need To Have Patience .. Try Advising him When He Is Happy .. Thank You ..

i have this puzzle,because i find i couldn't understand her,i hate her behaviour,you know she have 23years old,but she often angry at me,and behaiour like a child,i couldn't say serious words to her,this can hurt her self-steem.she often shout at me,i often ask myself why she do like this,she often get up late and could not find a job,why did parents foster her the rest of her life?why did she know she sould learn how to communicate with other people,why did she know what she have done often hurt other people's heart,i don't understand her,in my mind,she like a child,how did she learn to grow up,it is difficult for me to change her character and her ability of independence.

Ive never had this problem because i do not have kids but if it were me I would have made him pay for his clothes himself, or like suggested make him stitch them up. He was probably just bored and wasn't thinking about the fact that those clothes are ruined now and if he wants to wear them he is going to have a BIG hole in them! I'd give it a little time and he will probably hate himself.

I would say that they are rebelling. But this usually only happens if you have kids that are younger than them. He may just be wanting some more attention from you. I would sit him down and talk to him about it.

Wow!! This is something I have never heard of. Could he be trying to seek some attention for some reason, or acting out for some reason? Maybe you need to find him things to do to keep him distracted to where he will quit doing this, or pull him aside and find out what might be bothering him, and see if there is something you could be doing that might help him out better as well.

hi,lily It is funny!Maybe he think the voice of ripping clothes is wonderful.I think you can stay with him all the time,then he will have no time to do that,or teach him to play something!

Hi lilybug. Your child might be seeking your attention. He needs less questions on "why did you tear it" and more on "how did school do today." Boys 9 1/2 years old are asserting their independence from their mothers. Try to have your conversations when you are tucking him to sleep. Talk about his friend and not about him. Kiss him in the kitchen before he goes to school and never in front of his friends. Throw the ripped clothes. If he asks, tell him gently that you do not want him looking untidy so you threw them away. If this does not work in , say, two months, go for professional counsel.