I abused my father

@bhanusb (5709)
India
July 26, 2009 2:16pm CST
In my childhood once I abused my father. I can't remember why I abused him. Then I was only 6 years old. My father died 10 years ago. He loved me and my siblings very much.That's why still I feel myself guilty.This is a nightmare of my life and haunts me.Dear fellow members I think you have no such bad memory in your life.How can I get rid of that?
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7 responses
@rsa101 (37932)
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
I do think that you father does understand you and loves you despite that. I think Father's love for their children can reach far since it is their own child. As a child we tend to be a bit self indulgent on many things that we want to have. But this must not be the reason why you should not let go of that guilt. I know your father is happy and so should you be. The guilt will just stop you from being happy in life. what has been done in the past is done. We should all move on with what is left with us and should dispose of the extra baggage we are carrying in our lives.
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
28 Jul 09
Yes I'm also a father.I ignore my child's innocent wrong doings.I know my father also treated me like that.Thank you for your consolation.
@marguicha (215325)
• Chile
26 Jul 09
Dear bhanusb, Noone can say thy "abused" a parent at that age. Children misbehave, parents try to teach but neither the parents nor the children have had a dourse on how to be perfect parents or perfect sons and daughters. What is important is that they try to do it as best as they can because they love each other. And many times there are reasons to forgive from both sides. DonĀ“t worry. Try to pick up another wonderful memorty to putwith the bad one. Take care
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
28 Jul 09
That's not not a emotion.Dear marguchia really that nightmare haunts me.However I shall follow your advice.Thanks.
@dodo19 (47045)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
26 Jul 09
There are a lot of things that we regret, later on in life. As difficult as it might be, sometimes you just need to forgive yourself. I think that for your own piece of mind, you need to put it to rest. I don't think that it's really healthy for you to keep all of this emotion bottled-up. I'm not saying that you should go see a therapist or anything like that. All I'm saying is that I think you need to find your way to forgive yourself and put this to rest.
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
28 Jul 09
It's easy to forgive others,but difficult to forgive ownself. However I shall try to forget that childhood memory.
@fwidman (11514)
• United States
26 Jul 09
Speaking as a father of five, I can easily tell you that whatever you did he forgave you for. Probably right after you did it I'm sure he would not want you to suffer a lifetime of agony for that incident so please, forgive yourself. What is done is done and there is no changing it. But you must move on with Life
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@bhanusb (5709)
• India
28 Jul 09
Thank you a kind father.My father will live in my mind as a a great loving person.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
1 Aug 09
in the pass i've done so many bad things to so many people. from freinds and my own family. first thing you need to do is learn to forgive yourself for what you have done, and learning to have to let it go as well learn from your mistakes. knowing you see life is too short not to treat other well, and express what they mean too you.
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
1 Aug 09
(I shall try to learn from my mistakes. Thanks a lot.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
26 Jul 09
You need to look at this as an adult looking at a child's reaction to a stressful situation. You know that a child doesn't look at any side but his own, nature make him full of self interest at that age in order to help him survive. You would not blame a child that did this to you an adult, you would understand he was very young and just doing what young children do. SO FORGIVE YOURSELF
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
28 Jul 09
Thanks pat.You are so sympathetic .I shall try to for get my childhood's wrong doing.
• Denmark
26 Jul 09
Oh dear hon'. You must let this go. It was never you intention. He loved you and you siblings. He was great, I think. You must remember him as the loving person he was. Do not let this bother you. Talk to a friend, if it to hard, you might find someone with a likely memorie. It would be best if you talked this over with someone you trusted. Good luck my dear
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
28 Jul 09
Thanks a lot for your advice.I shall only remember my loving father.