Would you go out with someone you have nothing or little in common with?

Philippines
July 26, 2009 9:20pm CST
would you? They say opposite poles attract? Is it really true when it comes to relationship? How can you make it work if you are just too different?
10 responses
@eLsMarie (4348)
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
in my case, i use to hang out with people who has an opposite personality with me because i feel that there is so much to us that we should explore about... it makes more exciting if we know that both of us are learning through exchanging our interests... :)
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
That's definitely an interesting way of looking at it. Thanks a lot for that insight!
• United States
27 Jul 09
No, you have to have some things in common. What would you talk about?
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
Exactly! It can be pretty frustrating!
• Canada
27 Jul 09
From what I've learned, similarities aren't always a good thing. It's good to have a balance of both. I've always been far more attracted to people with completely different personalities than me. I guess it really depends on the dissimilarities though. Are they really enough to drive you apart? You never know until you try!
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
Well, to a degree and in some ways I think that differences give excitement to the relationship. But if it comes to the point that you have nothing to talk about, would you still think it's worth a try? I really like a guy because of his passion and well, he's just a great guy, generally. But when we talk, everything just fizzles because his interests are different from mine. He likes things that I don't have any or little idea about and I'm into other things.
• United States
27 Jul 09
In my experience opposites definately attracts. I have been attracted to complete opposites. But, I think people can make it work as long as both parties are willing to compromise. So, yeah I have and probably will again date someone that is my opposite.
@modstar (9608)
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
I would but that would put in a little bit in defensive mode. You like i'm a simple guy and i would go out with a sophisticated girl so i guess i need to show a little class at least intellectually just so i won't be left behind though it's best if we'll just be ourselves but sometimes that's not the case. First impression still matters to some. In relationships, i guess different interests doesn't really affect it at all in a sense that you have learned to live with it. You should worry more if the difference is in the ambitions/priorities.
• United States
27 Jul 09
It always said that opposite do attract and i have say that is true. I am with someone now who i share common thing in but not much i think it works better this way what you have in common you can share but then the thing you dont have in common you can try teaching to who ever you are with then you have more to talk about, like why they dont or do like the things to do.
@tatiana07 (498)
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
Going out with someone i have nothing or little common with him is such a very nice idea.I love to go out with him.i think it's really interesting. Knowing things about him, about what he likes that i rarely don't even know would really interest me much.I love to conquer things and experience things that far beyond my league.Getting to know and experience some things would excite me and i know i will not bored. we'll gonna enjoy each other!! happy mylotting!
@jlamela (4906)
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
It depends. Even if we have nothing in common but understood each other in various aspects, I would still go with him, never mind if we don't have something in common. Well, according to other people, opposite forces attract.
@esp2_mayn (135)
• Malaysia
27 Jul 09
Well....I think I would. I have went out and even conemplated marriage with people of different cultures, work and background....it is possible. I don't think what you have or have not in common is the issue. It is the other idiosynchrocies that you have to deal with.
• United States
27 Jul 09
On the surface a person can appear to have little in common with a person. I believe in getting to really know a person before totally shooting them down. Hanging out as friends is a good start. As long as both parties understand its just a friendship to start with. You never know what lies under neath the surface. Who knows you may end up meeting "The One" just by giving someone that you didnt think was your type a chance.