Do you want to escape from the world?

Taiwan
July 26, 2009 10:36pm CST
I haven't talked to any of my friends for a month. Actually I turned my cellphone off and stayed in. I turn on my phone in order to contact with my family last week and two of my really close friends asked me to hang out with them because they worried about me. I lied to them. I told them I had plan but no I just wanted to be alone for awhile. They later kept calling and texting so I turn my phone off again until just now. I felt really bad ditching my friends, I've told them I need some space but they're trying to encourge me to go out. I do go out sometimes this month but usually alone in the really early morning like at five a.m.. I've done that last summer. I traveled abroad alone for three months. I did feel lonely sometimes but somehow I enjoyed it a lot. Has anyone here had experience like mine? Want to escape from your life?
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@Milesxiao (104)
• China
27 Jul 09
Frankly to say, I have the same idea with you sometimes. In this world, everyone has his/her own small world. when you feel leisure to be alone, then you could keep it for a period of time. you can think quietly and adjust yourself. As a advice, I suggest you come back to your family and friends group when you feel better.
• China
27 Jul 09
I see, sometimes keeping curious is a good habit, just like a child. we could learn a lot from other people, from their talk and behavior. And you can try to communication with someone you like to know at any time, besides your observation. Good luck!
• Taiwan
27 Jul 09
Yeah I talk to strangers sometime. It feels really good to talk to someone you may not meet again. Oh and thanks for your advice :)
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• Taiwan
27 Jul 09
Actually I live with my parents. I just don't want to hang out with my friends. It's not like I stay at home all day. I go out in the morning at around five when most young people are still in bed. I talk to strangers, play tennis with them. It feels really good because it also gives me an opportunity to "watch people." I like observing poeple, including myself. So when I'm alone, it's the best time to do my little observation. :-)
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
It's not escaping from your life actually. It's living your life to the fullest extent of living. Having to do what you want to do, all by yourself, without any fear of being humiliated or having no one to be your obstacle in doing so...I really kind of like to live life that way once in a while. And I do so, frequently in fact. There are just times when you feel like you needed to have time all by yourself so that you can figure something inside you. Uhm, well, some people call it soul-searching, in fact. Happy MyLotting!
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
I've done both, and to my satisfaction, I have found myself. It's not the usual drama about being a rebellious kid, then finding light while traveling to some far-off place. I just went ashore, studied my college degree at a university away from my hometown, had a room to my own, and closed off my connection to the busy world, by staying within the inclusion of the four walls of my room. I preferred not to purchase any phones because I thought that would defeat my purpose of being alone. I bought my phone when I was already in my third year.So you could say I did a combination of both. (",)
• Taiwan
27 Jul 09
WOW! I think I know how it feels because I've done that before.:) I didn't use my phone and computer for months before a transferred examination. By doing so I can really concentrate on my study. Thanks for your replay again. :)
• Taiwan
27 Jul 09
Hi icenjerlrocks. I like your explaination-soul searching.:) You said that you do that also. Do you travel alone or stay in all day? How do you spend your time alone?
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
27 Jul 09
I hope that you are enjoying a peaceful time in your escape from your normal life. I think it is excellent that you traveled for three months last year. I imagine you have happy memories of it. You might not be able to go off traveling again but at least you are having a rest from your responsibilities. I feel much pressure to be well and always available to look after my toddler son. He has spina bifida so he is disabled. In late June my baby daughter was born and then I lost two and a half liters of blood. My blood pressure went dangerously low and I got a high temperature. I kept fainting because I was in such a bad way that I guess my body wanted to shut down to have a rest. I wanted to escape from all the awful things that were happening to me so much. I got taken to hospital in an ambulance. I just wanted to be with my baby girl and be healthy. I had the worry of leaving my toddler son and was concerned about his catheter care. I had much pressure to get well enough to come home to care for him. I heard screaming all night and I felt scared. I had to see all different staff. I discharged myself and went to stay at my local hospital after a few days there. At my local hospital I tried to get well quickly. My mum brought my toddler son to me several times a day so I could do his catheter. When I go traveling I take my toddler son with me and we have wonderful times.
• Taiwan
27 Jul 09
I'm sorry that you have to carry responsibilities like that. It must be really hard for you and your family. I do have happy memories last year. In fact, I needed that trip because I ended up a seven-year relationship with a guy who's supposed to get engaged with after I graduate. Anyways, if you can find someone to take care of your children for just half day or so, it would be wonderful you go picnicing alone or something to let our your stress. I always believe that I have to take care of myself really well before I go take care of other people. So, Maximax, don't forget to care about yourself little more. :-)
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
There are really times in our life when we wanted to be just alone. Ive done that too. I went home to my mom's place and turned my cp off for 1 week straight. When i went back to work, theyve been asking if i changed number and i told them i didnt, i just turned my cp off..i wanted to spend more time with my son and my family since i dont usuall get to go home that often. Its not ditching your friends..and if theyre really your friends, they would understand if you dont want to communication with them sometimes or that you needed some space on your own.
• Taiwan
27 Jul 09
Yeah I alredy did. They're all really close friends of mine, I believe they would understand.Also I feel happy for your little escape from work :)
• United States
27 Jul 09
Oh gosh how I would really love that my life is so busy and rushed I would truely love to do that believe you me.
• Taiwan
27 Jul 09
Of course you can if you want.:)
• India
27 Jul 09
I really alone now and feel depressed because I missing my friends and family as I am away from them I really bad feeling I can't go ahead and baffling about me and future.I am unlucky
• Taiwan
27 Jul 09
You're lucky enough to have a chance to start a new life. :) Don't be so depressed, you can talk to me if you want.
@nanayangel (7879)
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
Alone - time alone
Hi there Wanyu!Well, I haven't felt that for a long time now, ever since I got married and had my own family but I used to feel the same when I was younger. It didn't mean that I have problems or sad, it meant that I just needed to rest, to get away from it all, to refresh my mind, find inspiration or just be at peace and experience new things and learn new stuff in the process. I think that you're lucky that there are lots of people who cares about you and worries about you. I understand that it can be annoying especially if you really want to be left alone but maybe you can just send them a text message or something assuring them that you're fine and loving your time alone and would get in touch when you need them and how much you appreciate how much they care about you.
• Taiwan
27 Jul 09
Thanks Nanayangel :-) I do feel lucky that my friends care about me. I've told them I need space but I think they probably think it would only last one or two weeks maybe. I stay at home with my mom everyday lately. I don't know why I used to love hanging out with friends and left my mom back home without feeling guilty. When I get older(I'm 22), I want to spend most of my time with her. We're much closer than ever.
• India
27 Jul 09
Hi friend, One shouldn't think like that.See friend,if you think you are alone,it makes you come down and down throughout the day.Just do good to others.Try to speak to your friends who are ready to encourage.If you take life in a miserable state,you won't get anything.If you take life in a happiest way than it helps you a lot in doing good things.Each one is having their own problem,some are trying to solve their problem and some are going into depression state.But keep one thing in mind if you are in depression,you would lose all the energy in yourself and at one point you even don't know what you should do.See try to communicate with good people every day.See i think you are really a lucky person because atleast they are some friends with you who wants to encourage you.I hope you are more better than others who even don't have anybody with him to encourage or tell good things to them Try to lift the calls and talk to your friends and enjoy with them.Life is small enjoy each and every moment of it.If you have time try to do good things surrounding you. Have a nice day
@amybrezik (2118)
• United States
27 Jul 09
I think everyone at some point wants to escape from their life. I know at times that I do. I don't have the luxury of just disappearing for a month though. I have 2 children who need me and a job that i have to go to every day. But yes I do know the feeling. Sometimes I just want to get away and start over with a completley different life.
• Taiwan
27 Jul 09
:) Thanks for your reply Amy. I'm a student and have a par-time job at home(I grade some high school students' homeworks). That allows me to escape from my life. It's weird that when I go dining alone in a restaurant, people look at me the way like I'm dumped by a boyfriend or something. I don't understand what's wrong with being alone? Weird.
@mama_bear (1118)
• Canada
28 Jul 09
yeah i have been a hermit many times over the last few years. i am one of those people who is content to be alone and not weirded out about the solitude. since i moved here i have not really had contact with anyone i am pretty much a loner, it can be very liberating and you learn a lot about yourself, i guess that is why some people do not like it. i think it is very healthy to take time out to be alone and re-evaluate life in general and all that.
@chi2nasrin (1101)
• Malaysia
27 Jul 09
Oh yes, sometimes I want to do that too. Everybody who ever done that have their own reason. For me, it is because I am really tired of these life, maybe I should change the way I live, or the way I look at life. I am (I think) surrounded by many fake people. Sometimes people are nice in front of you but somehow you can see it in their eyes what they really wanted. If you have something that they want, they just want to use you for their own benefit. I, as a friend and human being, am really tired to make an effort to make everybody happy, to satisfy other people. What about me? Actually I am saving money so that I can get away, go for a holiday alone, where nobody knows me and nobody cares who I am and what I have or who I am with. Hmm... Thank you for triggering this discussion! All the best!
@dappad (33)
28 Jul 09
hey wanyu311 this is something i am planning on doing very soon keep it up trust me you don't need trouble
• India
27 Jul 09
Ican say u that we I am on vacations and nothing to do then I do feel that I should escape this world and get myself into another world where I can do things that I like
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
Don't we all want to escape from the life that we have, even for just a little while? I know I do. There are just days when everything is too much and I wish I can just go away from it all - to breathe, collect my thoughts, and just be me. I haven't tried going away yet, but I wish I could. But sometimes when the need to get away overpowers me, i just go to my special nook in the house, which is my room, turn off my cellphone for the entire day without talking to someone, i just sit there listening to some soothing music, or read a good book or sometimes just stare at the ceiling imagining i was in some island paradise or anywhere else in the world. It somehow helps me feel better. :)
• India
27 Jul 09
Many a times i too have felt so and terribly wanted an escape from this world. to me the world was a creul place where everyone did selfish deeds and just for their own profit. They don't have any love or care towards the other guyz who are living around. I read a book called "The third level" which is really time travel. A temporary refuge from reality. The character in the story hates the new developments and wish to go back some 150 years back. and finally he does go back. He is happy there and and story ends happily.
• India
27 Jul 09
No way!I totally expect my life to have ups and downs so I don't mind when I hit the bottomcause I know it'll get better. If the world ends tomorrow, well, I'll be ready but I don't really want it to end any time soon! I'm having too much fun:)