would you marry somebody for money?

Hmmm. I really don't know. I have always though that when the time comes that I really really need money, I would have other options, like doing some weird temporary jobs or something, nothing illegal, just weird. I have never thought the marrying somebody would be an option.. I don't think I could do it.. I really believe in love, and I am a die hard romantic, so I don't think I can really marry somebody whom I do not love.

I hope I can say absolutely not but, honestly, should the situation arise that such an action was really necessary and the money could be obtained no other way and the person wasn't totally morally bankrupt or hideous or some kind of nut I might think about it. But, I can say with 92% certainty not going to happen.

Make a living is always the most importance thing in the life.

I dont think its the right thing to do, its true that we need money but when it comes to marry for somebody that another story, money is only temporary but our loveones remain in us, money cant bu anything.

Sounds like a soap opera. But yeah it could happen. I've heard people went through this dilemma. It's difficult to be put in a situation like this where my values will have to be compromised. I mean, I guess we all want to get married and spend our lives with someone we love, right? It is going to be a difficult choice.

hmm.. i can't marry someone due to money problems. well, as you see its common here in our place. but on my own perspective, i just cant marry someone just because someone's sick. I mean, there are other alternatives aside from marrying. thats my opinion. but somehow, you are right. feelings will develop later on. i just hope that whatever your decision is, you will be happy

Wow. I can see this type of situation happening alot more often than not, and I am sure some people will find themselves on a road to some sort of happiness regardless of what the original plan was. Some people ONLY find comfort in an established bank account and the security that they will always have enough. (My mother is one classic example of this.) Many people only imagine what it would be like to live beyond their means based on what others can do for them. I think marrying for money is a cop-out. What is wrong with an individual trying and creating alife for themselves if that is what they want? Then again-as you stated, a single mother (as I am, of 3 children) would not marry a man who was worse off than me for the fear I may have to carry his weight too. So, yes, in my case, having the extra money that would come with an established partner would be the only way to go. Great topic.....What do you think of my opinion?

I could never marry someone for money. I want to marry someone for love and if I marry it's for life, so marrying someone for convenience, I couldn't do. I think the temptation to cheat would be strong, for both of us because neither would really be happy.

Hi patofgold, The situation is very miserable and having somebody who can provide better in terms of financial it would be very tempting. But First, I will just give the man a chance. I'll let him court me, and see if I can fall for him. I won't marry that fast. I will try to find something in him that is worth loving. Maybe he have a good heart that he will accept all my problems. So, probably I will fall in love and marry him. It was just hitting two birds with one stone. Happy posting!

oh well it depends everyone's case is different,everone is different

AS THEY SAY MARRIAGES ARE MADE IN HEAVEN,how can anyone marry just for money wen marrying and money are not anywhere related.Most of the people have their life's selected to live with a partner of lifetime.Being the ultimate partner ,money won't change anyone's mind.For the money to do so the the bond won't be so strong that can be replaced by money,love comes a lifetime but money can come once again in our lifetime.

i really hate to admit this because i like to think i'm an honest, well rounded, good hearted, sweet, down to earth, generouse, loving person. :) lol. but i think i probably could marry someone just for their money. i can definatly seperate my emotions from other things. now... i would make sure the person knew i was only marrying them for money. i wouldn't lie and say i was in love with them. i would be kind to them and do things they asked me to do, but probably wouldn't sleep with them. i wouldn't lead them on by any means. so i guess we would both know it was like a bussiness type marriage. or marriage for benefits. but for now i'm very happy being married to the love of my life! :) how does the song go....? "i'm gonna marry for money.. be so dang rich it aint funny..." :)

hi potofgold I have read your discussion and I gues if it would happen to me it's not really what you called a sacrifice because in the first place you are not inlove with any man by that time knowing that the situation is that you are a single mom...any girls who are in distress and so down, when given a hand and comfort by any man would surely fall for that man, well sometimes not right away but she would learn latter on. It is not actualy sacrifice, but instead you found rescue. If you see your family is happy and your kids is contented then you don't need to regret what you did though you started for the wrong motive but later you will find yourself thanking and loving that man.

I knew a Phillipino lady who married a British man she moved to United Kingdom with her two teenage children. It worked out very well. He met her in the Phillipines and went back to see her a second time. It was hard at that time to understand why he wanted to marry her but over time you could see genuine love. The children have also benefitted greatly from being in a western society. I think instead of going into an arranged marriage, see if there are anyone wanting to meet you as the woman you are even though you have little to offer financially you may be a caring and loving person which is hard to find. If you just go into marriage for the money only you could find yourself feeling lonely.

It would really depend on the guy I was considering marrying. If he was an absolute jerk and I hated being around him, then no way. If he was a nice guy, and I got along with him and I enjoyed his company- even if I wasn't in love with him, then I might consider it. I'd rather be with someone who treated me nice and I got along with even if I wasn't in love with him than be with someone who was a jerk and we fought a lot that I was in love with... regardless of money!

Well, now, it depends. If it was a mutual agreement type deal, then sure. To do it deceptively, no. I've got my own money and I don't even like to talk about it when talking about relationships. But that's just me!

All i can say to you, just have faith in God that your mother will healed and your financial needs will be filled. Do you know that God can make a poor man rich in an instant? As God said, what profit a man if he gain the whole world but loses his soul? So if you think you will commit sin or violate your own will of marrying somebody you dont love, then you just have to decide, let your yes be yes and your no be no, and leave to him (God) the outcome of your decision. It is just a matter of faith. Have faith, and you will see.

I would never marry for money as the relationship would never be fullfilling in enough ways to make it worth the effort. You cant buy happiness although lots of people try. It's just not my taste.

ya!if thei have a guy rich propose to me a marry i accept that... cos now we need to be practical specially here in phillipines... so if i have a oppurtunity to mary a rich man why not?

Honestly, I would have to say that I have thought about it. Although I never carried through with the action because I view it to be against all moral; the thought still crossed my mind.