Is the system of Dowry and Dowry harassments are common in your country ?

Bangalore, India
July 29, 2009 10:21am CST
Are you married? If you married whether you got the dowry or you gave it? If you are not married, Whether you are planning to take or give the dowry. Here in India, there is a practice of dowry and dowry harassments. Request my mylot friends from other countries to keying, what is the practice in your respective countries in terms of dowry
3 responses
@xfahctor (14126)
• Lancaster, New Hampshire
29 Jul 09
This isn't really a practice here in the U.S. People here marry who they themselves choose out of love and usualy do not involve the family in the choosing (though they may ask advice ocaisionaly) I'm not even sure if a dowry is legal here. There are parents who will try to nudge their offspring towards a particular person, or out right nag them in some cases. But most often it is a matter between the two who are getting married and a dowry here would be considered more of a "bribe" than anything traditional. We do have a tradition where the paretns of the bride pay for the wedding, but it is only a loose tradition and not often practiced. Many couples here have already lived together for a while before they are married and often pay for their own weddings. Some, just stay living together and never get married too.
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• Bangalore, India
29 Jul 09
Hi....xfahctor Thank you for the quick response. It is happy to know that there is no dowry and related harassments in U.S. Happy mylotting
@scififan43 (2437)
• United States
1 Aug 09
Like the other myloters have said. Dowery is not allowed here. It does not go on here and I do not think it ever has. in the old days a man had to ask the fathers premission to marry. that is the father of the bride. but that couston has long fated away. today people marry for love in the U.S.
• Bangalore, India
1 Aug 09
Hi...scififan Thank you for the participation and sharing the system of US. I like the American system of marrying for love. If the marriage is happening in a dowry system, people are marrying money not the love. Thanks once again and wish you a happy and great friendship day ..........Happy Mylotting
@jlamela (4906)
• Philippines
3 Aug 09
Here in the Philippines, we never practiced such dowry offering in marriage. We just marry the one we truly loved, except for unlawful or immoral issues, parents always accepted and agree to the marriage of their children. Our customs and traditions in the Philippines only agree to the "pamanhikan" as part of the process, pamamanhikan means--asking of the woman's hand (by her boyfriend) from her parents and announcing the plan of their marriage.