Do You keep in touch with loved ones in a "mass" way?

Malaysia
July 30, 2009 9:11am CST
Mylot is a good place to interact with one another but there is one or two of us here who stand out differently from the rest. I have read a daily confession from a lonely heart through a daily posts how he made his feelings known to the mass. It seems he is missing on someone presumably another member of mylot. But there seems to be no end to his plea for her to return a favor in kind for his troubled heart. He must have been touched by this lady and she keeps her silence despite repeated calls for her to response only fell on deaf ears. I do not understand what made this person so much 'in love' with this virtual friend and creating a mess of himself. By reading through all his writes, I can feel that he is so weak as though he has not taken food for weeks by the way he mumble through his words. Most people live incredibly lonely lives. Their worst pain comes for their ever present isolation. They may be surrounded by people, but truly known by so few, if any. He longs for a soul to soul connection and when he did find someone that stirs his heart she disappears without trace. Would you think it is appropriate to make it public of your feelings for someone in mylot?
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8 responses
• China
31 Jul 09
I believe that people have feelings,the world is so big that can not meet,but can communicate with each other I think that is a fate. I think I can here and you have been very happy to exchange.
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• Malaysia
19 Aug 09
Anything is possible in the name of love.
@croamer (165)
• Taiwan
31 Jul 09
hmm.. frankly, I've seen some guys you described whose live in the virtual net world instead of facing the reality, in my opinion, that's the bahavior of immature.
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• Malaysia
19 Aug 09
According to his profile he is in his 50s so where did his maturity goes.
@dpk262006 (56734)
• Delhi, India
31 Jul 09
Hi aleg! I think the fellow mentioned in your discussion must be a very passionate and emotional person, as he keep searching for another of his friend on mylot. For him the virtual world would have become more important than the real world. He might be finding some peace and solace in the virtual world and may be feeling at ease by making daily 'confessions'. I think it is upto the individual, how he wants to express himself. I hope that his message goes across to his mylot friend and she takes some pity on him..........LOL! I for one, would never want to make such kind of confession publicly and would not write daily mails/dairy for a particular person. I think, if any of the friend is very dear to me, I would use other channels to communicate with her/him. Have a nice day! Deepak
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• Malaysia
2 Aug 09
It is quite embarrassing to communicate in public some private matters. I think the lady must have felt the same way, embarrassed by his actions.
@kawalnarang (1095)
• Trinidad And Tobago
30 Jul 09
It s; hard but possible to keep it out of MyLot,, no matter how much attraction, u have for one another,, private business is private,,
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• Malaysia
2 Aug 09
Definitely private business should remain private but I think mylot is the only mode of communication between them as she might have turn off her chat box.
@eLsMarie (4348)
• Philippines
30 Jul 09
actually, it depends... whatever issues/discussions that most people post here in mylot gives me the idea to what kind of person they really are... i based it on how they react or they give comments/feedback... it seems that the guy that you're talking about is so madly in love with the girl but he couldn't express his feelings for the girl because of the fear of rejection or maybe the girl has no interest for him... that's why in order for him lessen the pain or to ease his hidden emotions, he simply post all his sentiments for that girl here in mylot...
• Malaysia
2 Aug 09
I think initially she must have given him high hope. She must have feelings for him too as I can read between lines that she has been in communication with him earlier and now she seems to have lost interest towards him. Poor guy he doesn't believe in the word 'no'. It is only a false hope.
• India
30 Jul 09
I don't have anyone very close to me.I suppose that its very difficult to find who is really speaking his heart out right here and who's here to earn money and only be popular..
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• Malaysia
30 Jul 09
Maybe not everyone happens to be in this kind of situation and not everyone here come for earning purposes. They are here for the mere fun of meeting new friends
@x_Jo_x (1041)
30 Jul 09
Awwww that sounds so sad Must be so hard when someone you really love just isnt at all interested. I think he should try and move on, find someone who does love him. I think there is probably nothing wrong with making your feeling clear for someone on Mylot, although to keep doing so several times is probably no neccessary, it might be upsetting her! Although it is kind of sweet! But i can see how she might feel too. People can live incredibly lonely live,like you say, that thought makes me so sad. If i was in their shoes i cant imagine how i would feel. Id long for someone to be with, someone to give me a hug or just listen to me. If i didnt have my family and friends around me i would probably go crazy. I would imagine this guy is feeling something similar! Just so lonely, and wanting someone to share things with. But Mylot (when you dont actually know the person) Is the wrong place to do that. Words are fine, and they can mean so much and by the way someone talks you can tell so much about them. But if you were in a relationship with someone, there would reach a point where words just arnt enough. You long to be with them and spend time with them in person. I think it is much better to find someone who is closer to you, who you can actually meet. I hope this person manages to find someone decent and loving, so he isnt quite so lonely! If you see any more of his messages tell him I wish him the best in life, and hope she replies to him soon =/ Sometimes even if a person replies saying "Im not interested" At least that is some closure for him - He will know, and can move on. To just not answer, I think, Is quite cruel. But it depends on the situation i guess! Hope you have a nice day!!
• Malaysia
30 Jul 09
Hi Jo, looks like she is uninterested otherwise this fellow would not be writing such a sad posts for everyone to read. It can happen here that people have crash on each other after interacting frequently and words can be as sensitive as physical meeting. It can be the beginning of a beautiful relationship if by reading the writings they can stir the hearts. We are in the virtual world and our life are partially influenced by things we do in the net. The internet have encouraged the dating game and more people are leaving the real dating world in preference for the cyberworld through all the chatting that is being popularized by the net.
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@x_Jo_x (1041)
30 Jul 09
Yep i agree, So much more is going on through the internet, or texting these days. I constantly see adverts for these internet dating websites. For ages i was talking to a guy on the internet and thinking i had really strong feelings for him, then realised i didnt. And now my best friend is setting me up with a guy who she knows, but until a few days ago i had never actually met in person. Just seen him on webcam and things. So i know it is possible to have this whole world on the net, where everythinhg seems so real - It can be really great! But it can also have its down sides, just like any relationship. Ive made a discussion before, about how many people actually found love through those dating website because i was curious if they actually worked and a few said they had. So it is possible to find true love over the net, and there is probably many succesful marriages/relationships which started out as just talking on the web. And I agree that words can be so beautiful! I fall for words and charm so easily, when they say the sweetest things ever! Just makes your heart skip a beat lol. I feel so sorry for this guy, wish the girl was interested in him! Hope he cheers up soon!
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• Malaysia
2 Aug 09
It looks like the girl is not interested in him as the way he writes in his post pleading her to response and up until yesterday I still see the discussions coming in and when I see his name in my email I knew the contents of his discussion as he has been confessing his loneliness over and over again and wishing for the lady to reply. She should tell him frankly about her feelings otherwise he will not stop posting his discussion which which is starting to get boring.
@cryw0lf (1302)
• United Kingdom
30 Jul 09
Well, from what you're saying, i'm assuming that she is also on mylot, and he is naming her. But if not, then people come here to talk about how they feel 9 times out of 10, or to ask for advice etc. As for people 'virtually' falling in love - well, i've been in 3 reationships in my life so far, my first, which lasted a year and 3 months, i actually met him online, we got speaking, liked each other, decided to meet. My second relationship, i met from college, i dated him a mere month and a half before i split up with him, and this 3rd relationship, i've been in for around 2 months, and its going rather steady, i also met him online, got talking, met him in reality etc. So... people CAN 'fall in love' or 'have feelings' for people over the internet, even if its just a strong affection. If hes publicly bringing her into the light though, and she doesn't feel the same, then he should probably just back off and leave her alone in all honesty. No one should feel pressured to leave this site because of another person. Though she could just be having issues in reality, and maybe hasn't been pressured to leave here. To be honest the certain answer of things comes with every little detail of what happens.
• Malaysia
30 Jul 09
She is anonymous. No name mentioned. I don't see why she can't be honest about the whole situation. Her silence is only putting great stress on him and yesterday he sounded very very down but today it seems he has lightened up a bit and is able to pacify himself with a short proverb/poem to remind himself that there is still light at the other end of the tunnel. He is hopeful.
• Trinidad And Tobago
30 Jul 09
A verry simple way is to get to chat in other place like yahoo,,hotmail,, I see nothing wrong,, and the only way is if the 2 are ready,,, It takes 2 hands to clap,, I would find another If one does not respond It s so easy to fall in love/respect online,, everyone should know what they want /need in life,,
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• Malaysia
2 Aug 09
kawal it is easy said then done. It is really not that simple to get that heart stirring. It only happens to someone special to move your heart to want to be in touch with her. If you have met one that send your adrenalin rushing in your veins and keeps the heart pumping faster when you see her online it will not be the same with another. Replacing one may not fit the bill.