Fantasy vs reality

I think we all have fantasies at times but my answers to anyone who asks how our relationship has lasted so long are, 'it's all give and take, he gives, I take', ours is a love/hate relationship, he loves me, I hate him'. The best advice my mum gave me when I got married was to let the other half know, what's yours is mine and what's mine's my own. Seems to have worked for us.

It's best to keep things like this as a fantasy. But there are some people succumbing to their fantasy and make it into a reality. That's why there are affairs and whatnot.. It's hard; matters of the hearts are always not easy. Especially in a 3rd party situation, there will always be someone getting hurt.

It's a real problem in some realtionships because the real person is never going to live up to someone's perfect fantasies unfortunatley. I think it is an issue that everyone has to work out for themselves and decide whether or not they want to work on it. It is something that is either workable or not.

i dont believe in fantasy but if i will start doing that i will be more happy because in reality life is not that much beautiful. so make life beautiful one should start going for fantasy.

I think if the guy wanted to keep in touch with his ex-girlfriend well than maybe he shouldn't have married his wife. That's very disrespectful and very hurtful to his wife.

Ofcourse regrets and lots of regrets are end result of fantasy. Why do one always want to live in an imaginary world to build a mighty castle in the air? Those that succumb ends up heartbroken. It has happened to me before.

That's why affairs seem so good to some people...it's like living on the edge and full of excitement. I don't know how many really mess up a good thing....probably more then we know.....

First of all, you should have a sense of responsibility, no sense of responsibility you will be prone to making mistakes,Everyone thought the face of temptation, but it is best to think ti ,Do not try to put him into a real.

i WAS NEVER IN THAT POSITION thank heavens!! i'm sure there are alot of people that have been 7 gave into it to find out they had really messed. As we say here the grass always looks greener on the other side but i don't think it usually is.lol.

Hi dawnald, I think it is really unhealthy to keep in touch with your ex but in case of children then you will have but not have a relationship with your es, if my hubby kept in touch with his ex girlfriend, then he'' feel my shoe up his butt, I would have it and that is that. Tamara

I've heard that fantasy enriches a relationship. But...since no one could ever live up to a fantasy I don't agree with that. I think we need to accept the fact that often times our spouse/partner is not going to be perfect...and neither are we. Working at BEING perfect is exciting and fun and THAT should be our focus.

Ok I think that its hard to keep a good relationship without the temptation of that imaginary relationship. Also this is a great question... I really am thinking about me and mine with this question. Ok so I have a good guy he has his flaws but at the end of the day i can never take away that he loves me so much. I am the first women he fellin love with and he has spent many years trying to find me and get me back in his life. ( due to our parents moving we lost touch) While i know that he loves me. I have thought about my sons father. See when i met him i though that we would make the greatest couple. we want a lot of the sames things in life and we both are hungery enough to after it full force. my guy on the other hand is not like this. so he kind of lets life happen to me. Me I make life happen. Well the truth is my ex/ son's father is a nightmare to be in a relationship with. He can be fun for a moment but then he is not a full term guy; by no means. But when i am frustrated about money or when thing in my good relaitonship are not moving fast enough i think about how great it would be to have my ex/son's father back. Recently i was reminded of who these men really were and how they really interactted with me and my son. My Son's father has not been really apraty of live for the six months of my son's life and the six months before that he left me for his other childs mother. other then that he was not the great of a boy friend. he just looked great, had money, and was selfish as hell. My guy on the other hand was a dream the last few months of my pregnancy. My guy also made it a point to move close to me after finding me again and learning that i was pregnant and alone. My guy acts like my son is his and give us his last with out any hesitation. I regret that i hungery to have the life I am accustom to causes me to imagin a better guy because my guy at the end of a really bad day love me and kmy son very much.