Water Slides, but My daughter could not join in the fun.

@ch88ss (2270)
United States
July 30, 2009 2:58pm CST
I am so disappointed in myself and I cannot concentrate on work today. This morning, I took my little girl to summer camp. Dropped her off, I knew there was field trip today but I drove to work, then I saw the flyer I got that said I needed to bring swimming suit for her. I looked the location of the field trip: ,park, I thought maybe nothing much, just water balloon or something. So I got to my desk and busy away., too busy away, I told myself to call the school but was so busy that I did not have a chance to call and ask about the swimming suit, I thought if it was important they would call me. I checked my cell phone often but notice no missed calls or messages. Well I went for lunch at noon, and notice that the phone could not dial out. So I had to pull my battery out and restart again. And guess what. At this point I saw a message but no missed call. The school had called at 8:52am and told me I need to bring swimming suit and they were going to a park with water slides and more. (almost like raging waters) the message was at 8:52, and I heard the message at 12:15. I had just arrived to work at 9am I am so sad, my daughter missed out on a day of good fun times with her classmates to a place that I would never take her to since we will not have anybody to go with. I could punch myself for this but what will that do? I cannot turn back time and make it possible. I wish the school would have called my office phone too but it is still my fault. I teach me one lesson, no one will watch out for the best interest of your children better than yourself. I should be proactive and made the call first thing in the morning to follow up with the school and I could have rushed the swimming suit to them in time for the trip. Have you caught yourself in this position? What do you do to make up for it? Did you feel so horrible that you felt like your world is so unfair. Does something like this affect you a lot? I sure affected me a lot.
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6 responses
• United States
2 Aug 09
I've been a mom for 33 years, have ten children, and I can tell you motherhood can be one big guilt trip. I've even let a grandson down once, and still feel guilty for that!! I'm sure your own mother let you down before, too. Life is like this!
@ch88ss (2270)
• United States
14 Aug 09
Wow, ten children. I love children, I wish I could have more but unfortunately they won't have a daddy, my kids dad sucks at being a dad. so no more kids for me.
@cher913 (25865)
• Canada
31 Jul 09
sorry about your day but when did the school send out the letters and do you check your child's bag or backpack every day? when my daughters were younger, the teachers had a large plastic baggie that had any notes from the teacher (or any notes that you wanted to send to her/him).
@ch88ss (2270)
• United States
14 Aug 09
yep, I got the notice. I picked it up on Monday when I dropped her off. Then I left it in my purse, then later it sat on my passenger seat buried under neath all my other stuff. I feel horrible. But now I learn, I have extra in the car and I always make a point to ask what I need each day. I relied onthe banner that they have on the door too much, and this time it just says field trip and no banners for reminders of swimwear, but they did put it on the flyer. I just need to slow down and probably get myself aself recorder and playback my messages to myself.
• United States
31 Jul 09
My sister's a pre-school teacher for kids that are about 4ish. She and her other teachers have days like this and usually bring a couple extra child sized suits just in case. She can go to the Salvation Army stores and find the suits there for a quarter or maybe 50 cents and she stocks up on a few of them and keeps them in the classroom in case they have a water sprinkler day, a pool day or like in ths case, a field trip and the mom forgets to bring a suit. I feel for your DD though. But there was nothing you could do.
@ch88ss (2270)
• United States
14 Aug 09
Hi Mystic, that is really a good idea. I learn my lesson, now I keep a extra swim suit in my cars at all times. Each Thursday i ask the staff whta I need to bring for them that morning. I wish teh teacher had some spare at that time but they did not.
@olydove (1209)
• United States
31 Jul 09
Try not to beat yourself up about it ch, these things happen. We aren't perfect by any means, we do the best we can, and it sounds like you were pressed for time. You daughter might be upset about it but that's ok just talk to her, and explain what happened. Let her know that you are truly sorry and you will try to make it up to her as soon as possible. In the mean time I know you said you would never take her because you don't have anyone to go with? How about family, does any of your family or friends maybe have a child or two that would like to go? If not then ask your daughter who her best two friends are in the class, and see about contacting those two's parents to make a swim date. It is hard to get lots of people together, but if you stick to just 2 or 3 friends, it should be quite possible. Good luck and please don't fret too much about it, what's done is done and you can not fix it, but you can plan a special day in the near future
@ch88ss (2270)
• United States
14 Aug 09
Hi Olydove, thanks for the response. Yeah, my daughter came home and was very upset and sad. She went straight to bed that night and did not want to talk. I will have to take her there one day, I just have to find someone who can go. Summer is almost over and it will get cold soon. i don't have any family members that has kids, if they do, they don't have any her age. I don't have any friends that have kids my age too. Wish me luck, I hope I can find someone to go with us.
@windymyre (210)
• United States
30 Jul 09
I hope your daughter wasn't too disappointed. I'm not sure why you didn't go get her swimsuit & take it to the school when you noticed the flyer instead of waiting to see if they called. I guess now you'll know for next time!
@ch88ss (2270)
• United States
14 Aug 09
Good point. The only problem, I work in a different county than where I live. it will take me a good 45 minutes to return home and bring it to the school. They would have left by the time I got back to school. They leave for their field trip at 9am, I got the call in at 8:50am,I dropped her off at 8:10 and got to work by 9:05. I think I should have just drove back to school and if I missed them I could find out where they went and found them too. a good mother would do what ever it takes right? I know, I shou have driven back to school right away and take my chance.
@dreamr802 (986)
• United States
30 Jul 09
Aw I'm so sorry that happened to you and your daughter. Maybe one day you can bring her and one her of her friends to the water park to make it up to her or something that effect. I can tell you are really upset about this, if it makes you feel better my mom use to forget stuff like that all the time when I was younger.
@ch88ss (2270)
• United States
14 Aug 09
Hi thanks for the cheer me up effort. It is good to know that I am not the only one forgetting stuff. Just oddly enough, I have to bring gum to school tomrorow for a chewing gum contest and guess what. I have the flyer with me but almost forgot. Except this time I told my daughter to remind me . She remembered, I just hope I will remember when we get up for school tomrorow.