Love and Friendship .... what if you want both and the other wants only one?
By laydee
@laydee (12798)
Philippines
July 31, 2009 12:31am CST
A friend of mine posted this statement in her facebook account:
The saddest part is when one falls in love while the other one simply wants friendship.
It's kind of a one-sided thing, ain't it?
It's really sad though, and I could certainly attest that it's not worth it when you're the one who has fallen first.
So, how do you usually deal with this?
I know it's better said than done, but I usually try to avoid the circumstance. It's tough really, but I'm certain it's avoidable. One can achieve this by keeping a safe distance, most especially if he/she indicated they only want friendship. We can't force them otherwise.
I'm a girl, so I have to know my limits and respect myself not to pursue someone who doesn't pursue me. I know I've broken several rules at several points in my life, but I'm certain that it's indeed the worst thing when you have fallen but the one you have fallen with doesn't see you as a prospective love. 
3 responses
@Bethany1202 (3431)
• United States
31 Jul 09
Unfortunately this happens now and then, and it's part of life. I think most of us have been here before. Most times it's better to have the friendship than nothing at all, but I am the jealous type and sometimes cannot take it. I have had a big crush on a married man but never said anything about it to anyone, and I have also had a crush on a homosexual man, but what's the point? I am still friends with them, and that means more than anything to me.
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@travelingtheworld (98)
• United States
31 Jul 09
To me, unrequited love is always the most painful. To be near someone, yet we can't treat them as our lover except as friends. In situations like these, my heart always goes out to the person that has the one-sided love. I've experienced it once or twice before as well, and it really is painful. To really like someone but for them to never think of you no more as a friend really hurts. The worse is that I want to be near the one I really like but at the same time, I don't want to be near them at all because they serve as a symbol of my unrequited love. I feel for your friend and this is one of those heartbreaks in life that everyone has to go through in life at one time or another. But I think it is necessary for this to happen sometimes in life because otherwise, how are we going to eventually find that one special person. Not everyone we like is going to be our special person. I believe that if two people are meant to fall in love and be together, it will happen regardless of how long or how hard it takes. Fate will always bring them together. Having one-sided loves let us see that maybe the person we like isn't meant to be together with us. There will be heartbreak, but we mend our hearts and continue to search for that special someone that I truly believe would be there for you to find when the time is right.
@anoop_ultimates (69)
• India
31 Jul 09
i think this is the most difficult situation one has to ever come across in case of relationships.The best possible way is to be frank to one another leaving all the misunderstandings behind.In saying so I can assure that it requires a lot of guts to do this.remember,fortune favors the brave
