do you get separation anxiety when someone you love goes somewhere?

@shhheila (1846)
Philippines
August 1, 2009 9:24am CST
do u get that separation anxiety when someone you love goes away somewhere for awhile... what is it like for you?
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@CRIVAS (1818)
• Canada
1 Aug 09
Actually it is funny that I came across your discussion on this topic today because in about three days I am going to be going through that very thing. You see I am going away for a girls week with the women in my family. Every year it is tradition that we go to my aunt's cabin and spoil ourselves. While I do look forward to the trip every year, I also feel a lot of anxiety because it means that I won't see my husband for 5 days. While that might not seem like a long time to most people, my husband and I are never apart for more than a few hours. Since the day that we started seeing eachother in high school, we have spent pretty much every waking and sleeping moment with eachother. When we had children, they brought us even closer together. While 5 days really isn't that long, it still manages to feel like and eternity without him. I guess that it is because my husband is my best friend, there is no one that I can talk to as freely with as him, without my husband I feel a little lost. Please don't get me wrong, I am very independent and I do like doing things on my own, it's one of the reasons that I like going to the cabin every year. However I do love spending time with him and it sometimes makes me a little unsettled to be away from him for very long. I know that my daughters and I will have a blast at the Cabin this year, but I also know that I am going to miss my husband dearly. I also know that when our daughters go on sleep overs, I stress a little about the fact that they are not going to be home where I can keep an eye on them. I suppose that everyone feels like this when they leave a loved one for a time, but it is also something that is very natural, especially if you spend as much time together as my husband and I or our children. Hope that my answer is what you were looking for. Happy long weekend and happy mylotting.
@Ammudoll (549)
• India
1 Aug 09
You are feelings are very much alike me. I am not married but the closeness we both share makes me not to go away from him even for a minute.
• United States
1 Aug 09
What excellent timing. I'm about to go on a trip to Florida for a week, and my fiance can't come with me. I'm really stressing out about it. I'm used to seeing her every day, and sleeping next to her every night. On the rare nights that I've had to be without her, I can never sleep. I'm worried that I will not be able to sleep, and the thing I'm going to Florida for is a poetry competition, so I might be in trouble if I'm stressed and exhausted. I've been apart from her for almost this long, because last Thanksgiving we both went home to our separate families, but that was easier because at least I was with my family. This is going to be hard.
@OceanLady (136)
• Canada
1 Aug 09
I never used to get separation anxiety. I'd go off to camp for two or three months and never missed my parents or my brother or my friends... But ever since meeting my husband, I can't stand to be without him for a few hours, never mind days. Obviously, it has to happen sometimes. We go out with different groups of friends sometimes, or one of us will go out of town to visit relatives and the other will stay home... but I always feel lost without him. I've always been very independant, so it's strange for me to think that I've learned to rely on him so much. It's not like I can't manage without him... I still survive when he's not here... but I always miss all the little things. Like waking up and snuggling up with him in the morning before we start our day, or having someone to talk everything over with, I even miss making him coffee in the morning, lol
• Philippines
1 Aug 09
I am relieved to know i am not the only one with separation anxiety! Hi, Oceanlady, you've said it exactly as i would have responded!
@EvrWonder (3577)
• Canada
2 Feb 10
Overall, I think I am pretty good when someone I love goes away. It is necessary to say good-bye in order to meet again. I get separation anxiety when I have to leave my puppy though. I miss her bunches. Even if it is only for a few hours.
@eLsMarie (4348)
• Philippines
2 Aug 09
i haven't experienced it yet and i'm so thankful that it didn't... i tend to balanced my feelings in terms of this kind of scenario especially when he's leaving for a purpose... i think your special someone is not with you right now... just be calm... :)
@Ammudoll (549)
• India
1 Aug 09
Do you know I am missing him right now. Every moment I think of him I always want to be with him in his caring arms. Though it is weekend I can not meet him because my mom do not allow me to go out with him as we are not yet married, in our place people are very particular and traditional on some matters. I am really missing him alot he is my best friend and my fiancee. This month he is going to his home town and I know it is going to be very tough for me. At least I can meet him at my office but after 2 weeks it is not possible and he will be back may be 10 days later. Being very sensitive girl I just can't take it