How is it possible to care for someone who hurts you so much?
By EvanHunter
@EvanHunter (4026)
United States
August 1, 2009 11:08am CST
Last night I dropped my kids off in Kentucky with their mother and drove home. Over the past 5 years through and after divorce I have tried to work things out with this woman. She has hurt me deeply two times and thrown me out two times. I talked her up to my family while she spent all her time talking me down to hers. She took my kids away tried keeping them from me at one point, she hid my daughter (from my first marriage) when she ran away, encouraged her to do stupid crap like drop out, get knocked up and married at age 18 to her nephew who was 6 years older. She let her sister talk to me like dirt let her kid from her first marriage ruin our relationship tell lies about me, talk about me like dirt. The list goes on and on, yet when I see her I still ache inside, when she touches me I still get excited. How can I feel this way and still dream about her and care about her after all she has done to hurt me intentionally and wreck our family? Love stinks.
3 responses
@angel_of_charm (4134)
• Philippines
5 Aug 09
Your right, love sucks... Been there felt that and most of the times I hate myself too much for loving a person who most likely will hurt me in any ways.
There's a man whom betrayed me, lied to me too much, made me look like a fool and his family will degrade me but inspite all that when he say hi and talk to me I can't resist him and all I can do is talk to him and still get excited to be with him.
It feels like hell when he's hurting me but I just can't control it, even if I don't show it I know my heart is feeling something and I hate it...I simply don't like it.
@EvanHunter (4026)
• United States
6 Aug 09
LOL, I like how your reply started it made me laugh. As for the rest of it I guess if there wasn't a possibility of being hurt than it really isn't love is it. If its someone you don't really care about than they really don't have the power to hurt you. I guess we are all just wired wrong as far as emotions go but they say its better to have loved and lost than to never have...sometimes it makes you wonder....
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
5 Aug 09
It doesn't really matter what everyone else does. It's what you do that counts!! It's always tough to see when you are in a situation. Take a few steps back and look. Ask yourself what have you been doing to convey unconditional love?? Are you making your love on conditions of actions??
@EvanHunter (4026)
• United States
6 Aug 09
thanks for the reply bird, yes at the moment I had posted this I was being very emotional I guess. I was tired had dropped the kids off and had a stupid dream that made me sad and regretful over what could have been. But what is, is.
