Accepting compliments

@Pose123 (21662)
Canada
August 1, 2009 8:52pm CST
Many of us find it difficult to accept compliments but easy to believe the slightest criticism. Today, right now, lets make a choice to fully accept compliments as we would a gift. Sincere compliments are gifts of praise. They are given for wise choices or accomplishments or perhaps for just letting your light shine. There is no reason not to accept the gift of a kind word, but some of us argue against them, even giving reasons why they aren't true. We are our own harshest critics. When we accept compliments, we are reminded that others see us through different eyes. All living beings crave positive attention, and we all deserve to have positive energy shared with us. Perhaps if we happily and gratefully accept compliments, we will give others permission to do so as well.
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
2 Aug 09
Dear Pose is so hard for some people to accept compliments ,and we become our worth enemie when it comes to advancing because is so hard for us to accept our accomplishments. Well here it goes, Pose you are terrific, kind, and bright. We need more people like you in this world.
@Pose123 (21662)
• Canada
2 Aug 09
Hi Mirita, Thank you and you've really turned the tables on me this time, I wasn't expecting that lol! The only thing I can do is say "right back at ya". Blessings.
@UK_Shree (3604)
3 Aug 09
That is a really good point that you make. I used to be like that - I would get embarrassed if complimented on, and I was never sure what to say or how to respond. These days I know that the best thing to do is be gracefully accepting of any compliment which is received.
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@Pose123 (21662)
• Canada
3 Aug 09
Hi UK, You are right about accepting it gracefully, thanks for the comment. Blessings.
• United States
3 Aug 09
Pose- I think it's hard for all of us to accept compliments because of the nature of the society in which we live. We live in a capitalistic society that does not allow one to shine without the expense to others, or simply not to shine because of another. If we look at how we are typically raised, it is with competition in mind. Get the best grades, the best job, and the underlying tone is be better then the next person. To change this attitude I feel as you do that we need to allow others to shine so that they may allow others to shine. And though we can be our own worse enemy, we must focus on our good qualities and as you said allow others to say we're good at something. I know for myself it is a daily struggle. I write extensively and have been told by many the talent I possess, but even to this day it is very difficult for me to accept those compliments. I will try to accept them humbly and engage in this challenge you have given to us. Namaste-Anora
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@Pose123 (21662)
• Canada
3 Aug 09
Hi Anora, Once more I think you have hit the nail on the head with your observations. Thank you for your thoughts. Blessings.
@AmbiePam (51165)
• United States
2 Aug 09
You are so right about this. And it was pointed out to me a couple of years ago, that although we may not feel like we deserve the compliment, we're actually being rude by disputing it! I had never thought of it like that. But to argue with a person who has been kind enough to go out of the way to compliment someone, it's rude and really shouldn't be done. So it would be nice for everyone all the way around if we just said thanks, and believed it! : )
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@Pose123 (21662)
• Canada
3 Aug 09
Hi AmbiePam, Thanks for for comment and I agree. Blessings.
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@savypat (20245)
• United States
2 Aug 09
I have never really been able to figure out why accepting a compliment is so difficult. I just know it makes me very uncomfortable and yet if you ask me I would say I love to get compliments. Puzzle
@Pose123 (21662)
• Canada
2 Aug 09
Hi savypat, Thank you, and I'm the same way, I get uncomfortable yet later I feel good. Blessings.
@TLChimes (4838)
• United States
3 Aug 09
I'm not good at taking compliments.... But I am aware of the issue so I work on it. I take criticisims hard.... but again I'm aware of it and am working on it. I find it so much easier to give the positive to others then to take it. It's almost that I feel I'm taking from them if I do. *shrug*
@Pose123 (21662)
• Canada
3 Aug 09
Hi TLChimes, Thank you for your response, I find there are many who feel the same way. Blessings.