To response or not

@akuler (3531)
Malaysia
August 1, 2009 11:24pm CST
Today I found a very interesting discussion and I would like to give my response. Since I didn't notice this guys before, I check his profile. He/she have been in myLot for 2 years with 1000+ post and 1000+ started discussion. I take a look about 8 or 9 his/her previous topics range from a few days back and a year ago. To my surprise, he/she never give a comment on a response he/she received. No comment at all. Nil. Nothing. Zip. Zero. I make a conclusion that my response will have a same faith with the rest if I do it. He/she didn't have any interest to know what I said. If you are in this situation, what would you do? Respond or not?
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19 responses
@srganesh (6340)
• India
2 Aug 09
Better respond to that.Because I was once like that just getting responses for my post and don't comment back.But I give out best responses that means I read all the responses.Later I was enlightened here that we have to comment back to make a post interesting and we can earn for that too.So,it doesn't mean he/she didn't read your response at all.May be the awareness has not yet reached.Cheers!
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@akuler (3531)
• Malaysia
2 Aug 09
Hi srganesh, You can assume that if he/she pick any response as a best response. But this guys didn't do that and the only thing I can think is he/she never care about there responses. If you can't give your time to give a comment, don't rise a discussion. Just give a responses. And if they think about earning money here, leaving a response without comment is the last thing they want to do. It is written all over here. In the post, guidelines everywhere. Don't they read it?
@lexus54 (3572)
• Singapore
2 Aug 09
I usually concern myself more about the topic than who the thread-starter is. Firstly the topic must arouse my interest. For those that do, I would be prepared to offer a response if I feel I have something of value to offer by way of a response. In such a case, I will respond even if I am aware the thread-starter may not reply to my post. There are other people who browse the discussions, so my response is also meant for them to see. In that case, whether I get a reply is not so important to me. Of course, if the discussion was started by someone I know well, I'd be waiting in anticipation of getting a reply from him/her.
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@akuler (3531)
• Malaysia
2 Aug 09
Hi lexus54, Usually I do that too. I just give my response. But if I get some very good discussion, I usually check their profile and they previous discussion. I never thought about this before but it is really annoying to see that from a member who have been here for 2 years. Yeah... the others will read it and if they kind enough they will comment it. But, I still didn't like this type of attitude. And I hope to see them reduced as time pass by.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
2 Aug 09
Normally I don't check profiles when I response. I will just response to their discussions especially if they have been to my discussions before. I will remember well those who have responded to my discussions and would reciprocate their kind deeds anytime I bump onto their discussions, if they are not on my friends list. And the funny thing is since I response to many discussions here I can't remember who have not commented on my responses. I wish that people be good enough to acknowledge those who responded to them by giving out their comments. It will give a good impression on the poster and people will not hesitate to come to response to their discussions in future. By commenting it kind of create a goodwill between the poster and the respondent. I try my utmost best to give my comments though sometimes it is a bit late due to the volume of responses that I get. But I will.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
3 Aug 09
ya..ka..ka..Aramaitti...buli bah!
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@akuler (3531)
• Malaysia
3 Aug 09
Hi zindi458, Since this person discussion is a good one for me and I didn't notice him/her before, I just peek his profile. I never imagine that I would get this disastrous fact. I still can accept if he/she didn't give a comment on spam or repeated response but not giving it at all is totally discourtesy. Since he/she have given out some responses too, I think it is better if he/she spend his/her time to giving a comment to his/her own discussion instead. It is more appropriate. aramaiti tah.
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@dolphin2406 (1226)
• Poland
2 Aug 09
Hi Akuler, I noticed that last week when I saw interesting discussions by the same user and replied to them, about 3 or more of his. Then after some time I went back to check and noted that he did not post a single comment to the replies given by others. When I went to his profile I saw that he was creating a lot of discussions and seems he was focusing on that as he made very few responses on other people's discussions. After that I did not comment any more on his discussions. It seems to me that he would not even note the reply. Maybe he thought that by creating discussions he would earn a lot, but it is not like that. Also his star rating will not be high as I rate all people who reply to my discussion and also to the ones I reply that are of interest. I don't think like this he will be rated so he is losing on that. Have a nice day!
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• Poland
2 Aug 09
Yes I agree with you on that too and you can reply other friends discussions.
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@akuler (3531)
• Malaysia
10 Aug 09
It is annoyed to see friends started discussion page only filled by one friend. It is still okey if he/she bother to comment on his/her responses but if not, it is totally unacceptable. And I really can't see the reason for them to post to many discussion without bothering to comment it.
@akuler (3531)
• Malaysia
2 Aug 09
Hi dolphin2406, I notice a few of them here. Today, I just deleted one of them from my friends list. I don't think I would respond to his/her discussion anymore and I can't remember when is the last time he/she respond to mine. There is no point to have friends if you are in that situation. By removing him/her, at least I can see other friends discussion on my "friends started" tab. I hope he/she don't mind I do that. Happy mylotting and have a nice day.
@thhoon72 (1009)
• Singapore
2 Aug 09
Hello akuler, I will still go ahead to response to the discussion topic if the topic really interest me. Cos, every response I make will add up to my earning. Of cos, I would hope for a return comment as it would make the discussion more interesting. And I guess it is politeness that we should try our best to comment on responses. Cheers =))
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@akuler (3531)
• Malaysia
3 Aug 09
Hi thhoon72, Yeah ... every respond that we gave will add up our earning (as long as we follow the guidelines). It is okey if you didn't mind to get no comment for your response. I only didn't know what exactly he/she want when he/she started the discussion. Earning money is of course not his/her motive. Make a friends also would not help. To discuss the topic? Totally out of context. So, what else he/she looking for?
@akuler (3531)
• Malaysia
6 Aug 09
hi thhoon, That is what I really didn't understand. There is no point to have a thousands of responses but can't earn anything from it. I prefer to receive small amount of responses but I can earn from each and every one of it. It is more worth isn't it?
@thhoon72 (1009)
• Singapore
3 Aug 09
I think the purpose of posting a discussion topic for this member is for the thrill of getting responses. I think this member may just want to see how many responses he/she can get for his/her discussion topics. It is still ok to me if the member read through all the responses but don't comment. But I guess it is kind of bad if the member is just excited or concerned with the number of responses he/she received. Have a great day ahead =))
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@sutent (1060)
• China
2 Aug 09
Hi akuler, Never give any comments on the response. That's really not good. I can utterly understand the meaning of your topic. I also consider it is very reasonable not to give your response on the guy dicussion, as he/she does not care about the responses at all/ Maybe making money is his only aim. As to me, i maybe response the discussion if it is very interesting to me. Happy mylotting!
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@akuler (3531)
• Malaysia
2 Aug 09
Hi buddy, I already made up my mind. I wouldn't give a response on that. I am also came here to earn extra bucks but I prefer to do it politely. People who didn't leave a comment on responses they receive are rude in my dictionary. It is still okey if they are new here. But for member who have been here for 2 years, that's totally unacceptable.
@akuler (3531)
• Malaysia
2 Aug 09
Looking forward to it. But is it ok to post it in this discussion? I mean is it not breaking any guidelines to make fun of someone?
@kykidd (6814)
• United States
14 Aug 09
Sometimes if I notice that people don't respond to the responses in their own discussions, I just kind of skip it. But, a lot of times, I don't even pay attention to what other people have typed in the responses let alone whether or not the person replied to them. I guess, I just submit my response if the subject or discussion sounds interesting. Although, I do try to respond to everyone in the discussions that I start. It seems like there is something about that in the guidelines. However it has been a long time since I have read them, so I am not quite sure enough to have anyone quote me on that. :) By the way, thanks for all of your responses in my discussions and have a great day!
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@akuler (3531)
• Malaysia
15 Aug 09
Hi kykidd, It is a courtesy to give a comment on the responses that we received. If someone can spend their time and ideas on our discussion that is only the right way to thanks them. It also can bring the discussion to the real discussion and not a question and answer session. We can share a lot of thing in the discussion and sometimes can make a good friends out of it. If we share the same interest, the possibility of a long discussion is big. We also can earn more that way. Happy mylotting and have a nice day to you too.
@308369666 (111)
• China
3 Aug 09
I will reply to him, even if he did not respond to other peolpe too ,because to answer other people's problem is a happy, is not it .When you answer someone else's problem is that you will feel very happy to help others is a happy thing.
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@akuler (3531)
• Malaysia
3 Aug 09
hi 30836966, If he/she want helped, isn't it nice if he/she say thank you to his/her helper? Or this person never said that in his/her life? It is about manners and people will turn their back if someone not appreciate their help. I don't mind if this is done by new members but for those who have been here for 2 years emmmm....
@dlr297 (5409)
• United States
11 Aug 09
When i find a discussion that i feel that i can add something to, I always respond to it. If i worried about weather or not my commit was going to committed on i would never be able to answer anything, because the time it takes to check up on it would be way to much of a waist of time for me. Life has to much stress as it is, why add to it by worrying about a commit, or no commit.
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@akuler (3531)
• Malaysia
12 Aug 09
Hi dlr, I usually do that too. But this one is a special case for me. Since he just come up with a very good discussion, I take a look on his profile and his previous discussion. I never thought that I will see that kind of attitude. I always going back to my previous response before. But since I activate my notification, I know when I receive a response or comment.
@x_Jo_x (1040)
2 Aug 09
I would still respond. Even if people dont comment back, they probably still read them. Which could still be helpful to the person! I agree though, that is terrible to not even respond to one! I genereally try to respond to as many as I can! And if i respond to a discussion that really interests me i check that discussion to see if that person has responded to my comment yet!
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@akuler (3531)
• Malaysia
3 Aug 09
Hi x_Jo_x, If he/she didn't comment on a few responses or one or two discussion, I may respond to his/her discussion. But not given one on his/her discussion at all is really horrible. And he/she wouldn't get any respond from me ever. If he/she can't spend time to give a comment, he/she shouldn't rise a discussion. Better concentrate to give a responses.
• Malaysia
3 Aug 09
I was thinking of starting a discussion a moment ago. So, when I searched for the discussion topic in the search box to avoid any duplicate, I ended up on the same topic I had in mind, which was created three years ago. Since I was really interested to raise the issue, I just responded to the discussion. I hope it will become active again. If this person did not comment back, I hope other users will because it will benefit others.
@akuler (3531)
• Malaysia
4 Aug 09
Hi corrycrystal, You done the right thing. We should search the same topics before we posted ours. But most of us didn't do it and that included me. There is a lot of interesting topics has been rise before and we should reactivated them. For such old discussion, I didn't not expecting a comment from the starter. Happy mylotting and have a nice day.
• United States
2 Aug 09
That is just odd. I wait expectantly for people to respond to my discussions so that i can get back to them, thank them for their ideas and discuss any new and interesting ideas they have brought to the table. I respond to just about everyone who responds to my discussions, as i want them to know that i have read and appreciate their opinions. Occasionaly, such as when a person only gives a one line response such as "yes i agree" or if the persons response has absolutly NOTHING to do with the topic, i will skip over responding back...
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@akuler (3531)
• Malaysia
3 Aug 09
Hi fruitcakeliz, That is what we suppose to do here. But seems to me that a few of our friends here didn't know that. Or maybe just ignore that. I think he/she suppose to put remarks on his/her discussion "I wouldn't comment your response, so please don't expecting one from me". That is better and any nobody get upset.
@Jennyleen (249)
2 Aug 09
Its up to a person if s/he respond to the comment, maybe s/he just reading the comments... well its Ok if s/he will not respons to the comment, if yes much better...
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@sarojInc (570)
• India
2 Aug 09
thats true .It really feels bad ,many times I've felt that.
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@akuler (3531)
• Malaysia
2 Aug 09
Hi Jennyleen, Just like in the real world/offline, how do you feel if someone ask you something and after giving the answer or what ever, they just turn their back without saying anything. Wouldn't that annoying you? That situation should be apply here. And this is a discussion and not a question and answer session. Try to being polite is not hard and you even paid for that here (if you follow the guideline). Isn't it too demanding?
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• United States
3 Aug 09
If I start a discussion I try to answer to all the interesting responses since I know they put time and effort into it. And I usually give them a plus too!
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@akuler (3531)
• Malaysia
3 Aug 09
Hi BambooPanda13, You do the right thing. And that is what we all suppose to do. It is a courtesy from the discussion starter. The responder spend their time and effort to respond to our discussion and we should do the same for them. It is rude especially if we are looking for the help. o turn our back after getting the answer is totally rude.
@sarojInc (570)
• India
2 Aug 09
Hi akuler you have made a really compelling question. I feel it is simply impossible to fail to post and continue the discussion.Either the person is having few time or the individual is here only to earn.however the first assumption is wrong as he has posted more than a 1000 posts. In this kind of situation I will only respond if he has a really compelling discussion of my interest.Do you think its ok ? Its my personal view.And I don't disagree others. What you will do ?
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@akuler (3531)
• Malaysia
2 Aug 09
Hi sorajInc, The easiest way to earn here is by giving a comment to your discussion. That is very simple. And if someone coming back and give a comment to your comment, comment back if you could. You would earn every time you give your response or comment. The longer the tread the better it is. But if someone doesn't want to waste his/her time to give a comment on my response, I don't want to waste mine to give a response to his/her discussion anymore.
@thea09 (18305)
• Greece
2 Aug 09
Morning Akuler, you are even more fussy than me. Well if I see a topic from someone I don't know I don't check the profile but if interested will respond. On the other hand if it is a friend request then I will check if they comment or not and if they don't I don't accept for the very reasons you give. That means newbies hang pending until they've got the hang of things and I can see if they bother to comment or not. Personally if I respond and am ignored I'm more likely to remember the person and avoid responding to them again if I do get a 'thank you' and nothing else in return.
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@akuler (3531)
• Malaysia
2 Aug 09
Afternoon thea09. Its already 2.49 pm here. I just try a preventative measure. To prevent myself being angry because didn't receive any comment. I prefer go to the next discussion or not responding to any discussion then giving one that I know I would not get any respond from them. But, my option might be change if we are at the end of the month and I desperately needs few cents to make a payout. Happy mylotting and have a great weekends.
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• Philippines
2 Aug 09
I am actually fond of commenting on the responses. Commenting would indicate that you are really interested on the response of the person. I's like you are attentively listening to what they have to say. It's like respect for my part.
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@akuler (3531)
• Malaysia
2 Aug 09
Hi koalapenguin, I actually don't know the reason why they started the discussion but didn't comment any response they received. If they said they want to earn money, leaving it blank is the last thing they should do. If they do it because of interest, they should show it by leaving a comment. Or maybe they just want to kill they time here. Not interested and don't mean to earn money or make friends. Happy mylotting and have anice day.
• Indonesia
2 Aug 09
As long as the topic interesting for me, I will respond because it can add mu earning, it's not my business he reads mine or not.. I think, if he didn't make any comment of the response, it doesn't mean he didn't read it. I do it too in the first time when I don't know much about it but I read all the response and happy with it.. Maybe he's too busy and at the time when he come back3 days after, he doesn't want disturb his responders for giving comment on 3 days ago response.. Just think about anything positive and write your response.. you get your earning whether this guy comment on yours or not
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@akuler (3531)
• Malaysia
2 Aug 09
Hi ChrysanTflower, Yeah... we all do that when we first came here and don't know about it. But for member who have been here for 2 years and assume he/she didn't know about it is totally ridiculous. But if you don't mind if you didn't received any comment for your response, it is good to give a response on it. You still being paid for what you have done isn't it. Just assume he/she read your response.
@suchi60 (912)
• India
2 Aug 09
akuler, If you find a nice topic to discuss, why don't you just go ahead and respond? Does the writer's background mean anything to you other than whether he or she is writing here? Take my advice, just go about doing things you enjoy doing without bothering to know whether you get a response or not.
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@akuler (3531)
• Malaysia
2 Aug 09
Hi suchi60, I am not checking his/her personal background. What I did is check his/her attitude in his/her discussions. For me that is a different thing at all. Since I like to get involve in discussion and not the question and answer session, that is important information for me. Why should I give a response to someone who I know that he/she will turn his/her back after getting mine without a single word. It is just like in the real world. You ask someone about something, he/she give you an answer. Is it acceptable or polite to just leave him/her without saying anything?