How to bridge a broken communication?

Indonesia
August 2, 2009 11:29pm CST
If one feels that is tired to talk with his/her spouse because she/he realizes the result will be the same. It likes talking to the wall. Nothing will happen or change. The final decision is not to communicate at all. Do you How to bridge this broken communication? Thanks a lot.
2 responses
@glesil_00 (1143)
• Philippines
3 Aug 09
There are time that we talk to our partner or even to our family that seems nothing will come into good. What we want to talk about to be clear for something and the things will be better, but other is not cooperating or not listening. When two people decide to talk, and want the things to be settled, they cooperate and decide when to talk, where to talk. One must be a listener while the other one is speaker. If the other one seem a wall and do not cooperate with you, you have nothing to do with it because what ever you will do, he/she will not do the part to make things okay. If i am in this situation, i prefer not to talk to the person, it is like a coldwar between and wait who will be the first to go down and initiate the talk.
• Indonesia
4 Aug 09
Thanks a lot for your comment. I am in this situation. Sometimes I don't know what to do. Makes me clumsy and tired for doing thing like this. I think I'd better stay away for a while.
@glesil_00 (1143)
• Philippines
4 Aug 09
Even at this moment i am also in a difficult communication with someone. We are talking but we are not understanding each other point of views. He is sad of what I've done for not understanding and talking to him even if he ask sorry for what happened. In my views, its okay for me what happened after he ask sorry but i am irritated that my act was not that good for him and he was sad. I am not that kind of person that i will just forget it after i forgive. I don't want that someone will done something i don't want then ask sorry and then as if nothing happen, and i don't want he will backfire me after we are not okay just because of the things that can not be proven of. Now no one of us initiate to talk and i am not planning to talk to him again. We are in cold war, and wait who will talk first. It is not easy but i have to be silent for now.
• United States
8 Aug 09
Not communicating at all is probably one of the worst things you can do in a relationship. It takes two people to make a relationship work, and if someone is not putting there part then I would seriously evaluate that relationship. Sometimes it takes being firm to get someone to listen, firm but loving. You have to put your heart out there and say, "This is how I feel about this situation" or "When you do not listen to me I feel like this..."