How to deal with my mum's problems?

China
August 3, 2009 12:20am CST
My mum has moved out of my house recently because I talked too much about her not paying enough attention to her hygiene situation and other problems, she said. She had to be sent to see a doctor because of these problems, and I care so much about her that I couldn't help reminding her of her personal bad habits in daily life. Now she's mad at me and wouldn't talk to me, what shall I do? I'd love to hear some of your suggestions. Please, do share with me your wisdom.
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3 responses
• Malaysia
3 Aug 09
You meant well, but most probably she does not like to be told from her own child, who she thought must listen to her instead of the other way round. How old is your mum, if I may ask? Older parents can be very sensitive and we have to handle them tenderly. We even have to be very careful when expressing some words to avoid misunderstanding. Why don't you try to ask some older relatives to talk to your mum? I hope it will help and she'll come round.
• China
4 Aug 09
My mum is nearly 50 and she's only 18 years older than me--this remind me that it's probably one of the reasons that we talk without much concern about being polite. I called my mum last night and I apologized for what I had done to her. She accepted my apology but there was still something missing between our conversation. I'll try not to confront her next time and ask someone else--be it relatives or her friends to talk about anything that might sound unpleasant. Thank you so much for your advice.
• Malaysia
5 Aug 09
You're most welcome. All the best to both of you!
@hsofyan (3447)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
3 Aug 09
You are lucky, your mother would like to stay with you. I want to like it. But I do not get it until my mother passed away. Your mother is the person who gave birth to you. Many of its services for you. She was willing to sacrifice you. She love you forever. She has to make you happy. So, what have you done for your mother? You may not do as she did to you. Maybe you can only be fun for the rest of her life. Let spend the rest of her life with happiness. You can discuss, if you made your mother is not good. However, should politely and respectfully.
• China
4 Aug 09
You are right. My mum shows much more love to me than I do to her. I have changed my MSN signature line to "never gossip about your mum". Thank you for sharing.
• China
9 Apr 10
Perhaps you do not know the trick to get along with your mum. The old always have some strange habits (at lease it is strange for the youth),but their strange habits don't mean they are not careful enough for the family. Try some tactful way to explain what you think to your mum. If you complain to your mum directly ,she will get angry. Because, as it is known to us, the old mind others's attention to themselves