When you give the Gift, what are you prefer money or something else?

@ibuemma (2953)
United States
August 3, 2009 7:55am CST
either Birthday gift, or Wedding Gift or any other occasion , do you prefer just to give money/cash or you personally go out there and pick something specific. Let say for a wedding, in certain country is already tradition, that they prefer money as the gift. Here in US, there's what we call bridal registry, where usually the bride and grrom have certain list of item that you can choose as their gift preference. For me it depend on the person that I want to give. Some people I can't think of what should I get, so the easiest is just give the cash.
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16 responses
• Indonesia
4 Aug 09
If it's wedding gift I will give money too, because it's already a tradition in my country,,except if I have personal or family relation then I will give something maybe clothes, chair or dishes.. Depend on what they need and I can buy,,hahaha.. But if it's for birthday or anniversary then it's not polite to give money so I'll give things..
@xannebull (1793)
• Philippines
4 Aug 09
i'd prefer something that is memorable for him/ her rather than giving money. money could last for just an hour or minutes, but the thing that you ever give to him/her as a gift could last and he/she could keep it for long.
@ibuemma (2953)
• United States
4 Aug 09
if they keep it so long. Hahaha...it's pretty disappointed when you find out they give the gift to somebody else or returned it to ythe store...LOL
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
3 Aug 09
I don't give gifts of money, ibuemma, because I feel that a gift should reflect some thought and attention to the recipient's personality on your part. With this in mind I always try very hard to match the gift to whomever I giving it to. I have a sister who is fond of reminding everyone that she prefers money as a gift, but I don't share her feelings.
@ibuemma (2953)
• United States
3 Aug 09
actually I don't like it either, seem like you don't really care. "here have some money and have fun with it". But I guess time changes a lot... One of my relative is very famous in returnnig gift ( u bought the gift usually you have the gift receipt for exchange size or else ). Almost every gift she got, she returned them. Then we start just get her money
• United States
3 Aug 09
That depends on who I am buying for. My DH is really good about telling me he wants a specific item for his birthday present or his Christmas present and I'm the same way. I'd much rather already know what is coming rather than have to fake it that I like something when I don't. I hate lying and it just kills me to fake it when whomever bought it for me is smiling proudly as I fake interest in whatever they bought. For my nieces and nephews, most of the time, they get a gift card to Wal-Mart or Old Navy or one of those pre-paid Visa cards so they can get what they want. It's just easier. I prefer being specific with someone about what I want, but gift cards are also good.
@ibuemma (2953)
• United States
4 Aug 09
Me too. Sometimes I rather taht they told what they need and want, and as long as I can afford it than that's what I get for them.
@shhheila (1845)
• Philippines
4 Aug 09
sometimes i prefer the gift, because it contains our heart felt thought to the person whom u gave your gift.but sometimes money, so they buy what they want, especially i dont know what they want ... cash will do if i have lots of money to give...
@ibuemma (2953)
• United States
4 Aug 09
i prefer to give the gift, but sometimes, the thing that i would love to gove to them end up cost more than the money in my pocket. So i just give the money.
@vathsala30 (3732)
• India
4 Aug 09
gifts - birthday gift
i prefer giving things. If the ocassion is a wedding, my gift will be any household articles for the newly weds who start their new life and useful for day to day life but if it is birthday for a kid, it will be lots of chocolates, playthings, goodies which the kid enjoys most and perfumes and cosmetics for the young lady and watches and perfumes for the lad ofcourse.
@ibuemma (2953)
• United States
4 Aug 09
O, i think it depend on kids. Certain age they are too big for all those toys and candies, and goodies, but yet they not ready for teen gift. So again I just choose giftcard.
@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
3 Aug 09
Well, I prefer to give something that is in kind. But there are times that when the couple wishes to receive cash rather than gifts, then of course, I would give them cash. Similar to your bridal registry, usually in our place, the wedding invitation or birthday invitations have some sort of message that the couple or the wishes for cash rather than gifts. Of course its stated in a different manner. Reasons are of course understandable. The couple won't be living in another country or place and bringing items with them would be difficult.
@ibuemma (2953)
• United States
3 Aug 09
I received couple invitation like that in the past, which is station in manner that they prefer cash than something else.
@rdadey (484)
• Canada
3 Aug 09
After a number of years having watched myself and my wife buy gifts or give money as presents, I have learned a few things. I never give money anymore unless I know it will be used wisely and not wasted and I do know that some will throw that money away on things they never needed. When we give gifts we try to pick things that the receiver needs and will use. So from me, what you receive is based on what I know of you.
@ibuemma (2953)
• United States
3 Aug 09
I do that too, if I still don't have any idea what to give i tried to find out what their favorite stores and just get gift card from that store.
@ruperi (138)
• India
3 Aug 09
I prefer to give money, by which celebrity person ccan purchase whatever he like, also whatever he spent for that occassionhe gets back and he can spend for more occassions. Because to celebrate any moment with friends wanted money. Then only friends get satisfied with us. To saisfy them we have to do expense.
• United States
4 Aug 09
Money is the mpsted wanted thing in our life, but when it comes to gifts, it does not really that much to me.
@cassrufus (116)
• Philippines
3 Aug 09
id go for money, because all people are in need. Specially me a student. but many people rather want a materials, coz they want a memorable moment and things but practically i go for cash which is a very big help for every people. Yeah i agree its depend on people you choose to give a gift they might rich enough so they better want a things, if they in border line in status they need a cash.
@ibuemma (2953)
• United States
3 Aug 09
a that's why a lot of people getting married prefer to get cash. hey, don't blame them starting family has a lot of needs. And money always coming handy.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
4 Aug 09
depends on who;s the gift from.if it's from anybody in the family..i would ask for money instead... but I cant do that to other people (its embarassing)...but I prefer money more! I know where I can put better use of it
@leprosa (127)
• United States
3 Aug 09
If I know the person really well then I pick out a gift from them that I think they need or something they want. If I haven't known the person for a while or if is someone who likes a lot of stuff then I buy them a giftcard. I usually pick the present, although it is very difficult because I am always thinking what if they don't like it. I guess it shouldn't matter because thought is what counts. I prefer a hug instead of a present for my birthday anyday :) I don't mind!
@ibuemma (2953)
• United States
3 Aug 09
that's the best to gift card or gift certifiv=cates, avoid your gift being returned LOL
• Canada
3 Aug 09
for wedding gift I prefer money specially with the recession. Weddings are pretty expensive to have. Also with gifts like plates, clothes, etc. sometimes you probably have the same exact one and it could end up in the garage or giving it away to someone. So with money you can't go wrong.
@ibuemma (2953)
• United States
3 Aug 09
It is expensive, you have feed so amny people...LOL...maybe the money they get be useful to pay all the party bill afterward.
• United States
3 Aug 09
To be honest, at this point in my life, I would much rather prefer to receive cash than a present because I can do anything that I want with the money. That is only if there is nothing that I really needed. When I was younger, I loved presents because I could get cool stuff. Sometimes I enjoy receiving thoughtful gifts from friends and family. Now people usually give you gift cards because they don't know what to get you. So instead of gift cards, I could use the cash and put it in the bank in order to pay bills, etc. Of course I would appreciate whatever gift I received no matter what since no one had to get me anything in the first place. It's ironic that I say this because when I give gifts, I usually give something personalized to my friends, I rarely ever give cash..so maybe my friends are thinking the same thing lol.
• United States
3 Aug 09
If i know the person real well then i would go and get the gift. Or if there is a registry i will get something off of it. I like to give a gift because i think it is more thoughtfull to give a gift than to give money in a card. But sometimes i have no idea what to get so then i would give money.